My name is Li Hongxia, 71 years old this year, when I was 67 years old, I sold a 100-square-meter house in the suburbs and moved to a small apartment of 40 square meters in the city.
People who don't know think that our old couple is very happy, living close and not together, it is a bowl of soup room, very good.
In fact, how do others know the bitterness in our hearts, I knew that this is the result now, I would never have made such a stupid decision at that time, but unfortunately there was no if, because we really have no way out!
I am an ordinary employee of a state-owned enterprise, my wife is a primary school math teacher, I used to be pregnant and miscarried, and then I never got pregnant, and I gave birth to this son until I was in my 40s, so the whole family is also very precious to him.
He wears snacks better than his peers, although my wife and I both dress very plainly, but we can't be bitter about our children.
Since he was a child, we didn't want him to do any housework, as long as he studied Xi well, he would have a good life in the future, and we would be at ease.
However, not everyone is reading material, although his wife is a teacher, his son's learning Xi is really average.
Later, he finally took a junior college exam, but he didn't give up, he had to repeat it, and he took one or three books in the second year.
Therefore, we feel that although our son's ability is not enough, but he is willing to work hard, our old couple is really very relieved and relieved of him.
Later, my son was admitted to the school before graduation and entered a good large unit, which made us even more impressed.
In addition, he is more industrious and practical, so in just three or four years, he became the head of the department, and let his leaders see it in his eyes and introduce a distant niece at home to him.
I heard that the other party was a cadre family, and our old couple was happy and worried, for fear that our son would be wronged in the future.
Later, I thought of a sentence, people go to high places, water flows to low places, and my son likes his daughter-in-law very much, so we agree to this family business.
Originally, I thought that the family's 100-square-meter house would be enough to live in, but the woman disagreed, so she had to buy another one in the city.
We had to scrape together more than 300,000 yuan of savings, and borrowed 300,000 yuan from relatives and friends to buy him a house, get married, and hold a banquet to settle this matter.
That will be a lot of people saying that my son has a good life, fights for luck, marries a daughter-in-law, marries a cadre's family, or a doctor, and when we get old, we have a disease and pain, and we don't have to worry, our hearts are as sweet as eating honey.
Especially the daughter-in-law looks beautiful and beautiful, which makes us even more satisfied.
However, people, only after getting along can you know what the other party is like.
Before marriage, I looked at the well-behaved and polite daughter-in-law, after marriage, I was like a different person, cold to us, once I poured 50 pounds of sausages in my hometown and asked my wife to send them to my son's house.
Unexpectedly, the daughter-in-law came to say after seeing it, we don't eat pickled foods that cause cancer, and later my son also took disposable chopsticks and disposable bowls for him when he left his wife for dinner.
I understood, my daughter-in-law is a doctor, and she is very particular.
In order to avoid unnecessary trouble, we didn't go to her house, we thought that my daughter-in-law would definitely not look down on me when she gave birth, and she wouldn't ask us to take it, so that we could be more relaxed.
Unexpectedly, the daughter-in-law passed the word through her son, saying that it was natural for grandma to take her grandson, and her mother was not in good health and couldn't take it.
I am happy to see my grandson every day, but I am worried that I can't get along with my daughter-in-law.
I get up early every day to do hygiene, wipe the floor shiny, clean up the house in strict accordance with my daughter-in-law's requirements, and take care of my grandchildren, but my daughter-in-law is always picky.
She either thinks the food is light or salty, or I feed my grandson, or I blow a spoon with my mouth.
I put up with it again and again, thinking that I could always leave when my grandson went to kindergarten.
I really didn't expect that I couldn't leave even if I wanted to.
The daughter-in-law sent her grandson to the nursery, but she still had to be picked up, so the son proposed, otherwise let us sell the old house and replace it with them.
I discussed it with my wife, and I also thought it was good, because I didn't live with my son and daughter-in-law, and I could take care of each other, and my wife and I didn't have to live separately.
We sold the house, and the money was not yet hot, and my son said that a friend of his owned an agency and told him that he had a very good school district house, which was much cheaper than the market price, and he was a little tempted.
My wife also said that it was right for my son to study Xi so hard when he was a child, so he thought about changing the school district room, entering a good school, and paving the road, so we agreed.
However, because my daughter-in-law took care of the child during her confinement, I also had a lot of friction with him, which was very difficult to serve and deal with, so I didn't want to live with them, so I just kept some money to buy a small set for myself.
But the house in the city is too expensive, and it seems that only a 40-square-meter north-facing single-room suite on the first floor downstairs of my son is suitable for us.
We thought that we would just sleep at home, and it would be convenient to go out on weekdays, so we bought it.
However, it wasn't until the contract was signed that the two of us knew that the house was still 40 years old.
But we can only afford such a house, even if we are not young, 40 years is enough, so let's admit it.
We live on the first floor and my son's house lives on the third floor.
At the beginning, it was really OK, sometimes I stewed some bone broth or something, so I sent it to my son and daughter-in-law, they called, I helped them collect the quilt, and it was also very convenient to dry the quilt.
My wife and I are also clean at home, and we both feel that this time we have made the right choice!
Gradually, however, it didn't taste like that.
01. The daughter-in-law always dumps the child at us under the pretext of working overtime, just because my wife is a math teacher and can teach the child.
However, if you say leave it to us, you can rest assured, but you don't care, once my grandson saw that someone else wanted to eat that planet cup, and there was chocolate in it.
I saw that he was panicking, so I quietly bought it for him
Later, I was told by my daughter-in-law that there are a lot of additives in snacks, and they can cause tooth decay and so on.
I thought to myself, we don't live in a vacuum, so many children eat that day, and who are so many snacks sold in the supermarket every day? Why are they so delicate?
Then I was asked to bring my grandson back every day, and I must wash his hands several times a day.
Also, my daughter-in-law always asked me to buy eggs, organic vegetables, beef, and shrimp for my grandson.
Although my wife and I have a combined pension of more than 8,000 yuan per month, we can't save money every month under the request of my daughter-in-law.
The most terrible thing is that the apartment we live in should be 40 years of property rights, and the gas, water and electricity are commercial, which is really expensive.
We have no choice but to save money.
However, there are more mosquitoes on the first floor, and the grandson will inevitably be bitten in some bags, and he will have to be told if his daughter-in-law finds out.
02。 The daughter-in-law has eaten enough in the cafeteria every day, and requires breakfast and dinner to be eaten at home.
So every morning, I made breakfast and handed it over, and in the evening I made dinner at home and waited for them to come to the house to eat.
Although it was a little troublesome to hand out breakfast in the morning, I was relieved to think that my grandson would eat better and grow better.
But every day I climb from the first floor to the third floor, and I can't bear this old arm and legs.
Fortunately, it was changed to come to my house early in the morning for dinner, so I was more relaxed.
As soon as they finished eating and threw away the chopsticks, I had to send my grandson to school, buy groceries, clean up the house, and then work on the evening meal.
My daughter-in-law doesn't eat overnight meals, and my wife and I often stew leftovers in a pot at noon and cook fresh vegetables for them to eat at night.
However, their young people like to eat spicy and flavorful food, and when we are older, we like to eat light food, and we can't eat them together, so we can only accommodate them.
03 After all, the daughter-in-law is from a cadre family, and she may also be a doctor's occupational disease, so she has a special sense of superiority when she speaks and acts, and she also loves to command people.
She basically doesn't call me mom, what's the matter is you, you, you.
To be honest, I don't feel good in my heart, my wife and I have all the savings in our lives on them, and she doesn't even bother to shout about a mother.
But I'm afraid that my son will be splinted, after all, if an ordinary family like ours can find such a daughter-in-law, it can already be regarded as a high climb, so we can only endure it.
If none of the above is a single thing, then the next thing is really sad for me.
There are many acquaintances and friends around us who come to Haibei to play everywhere, and we are also very envious, and we want to take advantage of the fact that our legs and feet can move, and we can also go out for a walk.
Once a neighbor persuaded us that there were only more than 2,000 people to go to Hong Kong, and we were really impressed.
But the son politely refused, he said that if we both have high blood pressure, what if we have a three-long and two-short one over there?
But later, the son and daughter-in-law took their in-laws and mother-in-law to Hong Kong to play, so why not say that they are old?
When I think of this, I panic in my heart.
Enlightenment:
As in-laws, we have taken out a heart and all our belongings, but we will always be our parents in our hearts.
In my mobile phone, there is also the WeChat of my buyer's young couple, sometimes I watch her circle of friends, and her parents-in-law also live in their house to help take care of the children, but people are happy as a family.
I saw that some of the flowers and plants I had planted on her balcony were still there, and I watched them grow very well because of the sunshine.
I wish I could go back to my old house, but it's all just my fantasy.
We can't go and we can't go, we can't go back to the way we were.
Because this area is a double school district, elementary and junior high schools are all in this area, and the daughter-in-law said early on that in the future, let her grandson go to school and not live in school, so that he can eat well for a long time.....
It is often said that the best distance between you and your children is a bowl of soup, but in fact, I think that even if you are a child, you must keep your distance, and it is true that distance produces beauty.
A bowl of soup is still too close.
I also regret that I used to blindly accommodate my son, and I didn't set up rules from the beginning, so I would let it go again and again.
We should understand that a parent's home is a child's home, and a child's home is not necessarily a parent's home.
We dedicate everything to our children, and in the end, we can retire from the army, and there is no way to avoid it, it's really pitiful, just like me, for the rest of my life, what else can I do except swallow my anger, hey