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Preface
Wishing for a son to become a dragon and a daughter to become a phoenix is the common aspiration of almost every Chinese parent.
In our impression, under normal circumstances, those children who are fully supported by their parents and finally break out of their careers will be more grateful to their parents after making a fortune, so as to stage one after another life drama of father's love and filial piety, mother's love and daughter's filial piety.
However, there are exceptions to everything, such as today's protagonist Xu Hanzhou.
After he made a fortune, he used money to break off his mother's kindness, what is going on?
The shadow of childhood
Some people spend their whole lives healing their childhood, while others use their childhood to heal their whole lives.
Xu Hanzhou belongs to the former.
Xu Hanzhou's childhood was full of misfortune at that time, at first his parents were just ordinary farmers, and his family was already relatively poor.
In addition, my father is still a bad gambler, so it doesn't matter if he doesn't work well on weekdays, he often goes out to gamble with others.
We all know that gambling is a thing, nine out of ten gambles are lost, except for the banker, the final result of all gamblers is bankrupt, and Xu Hanzhou's father is no exception.
The family's small savings were thrown away by his father on the gambling table one by one.
In order not to let her husband destroy her children, Xu Yan resolutely chose to divorce her husband and ended this painful marriage.
After the divorce, Xu Yan faced a family with chicken feathers, so she could only endure the pain and put the young Xu Hanzhou in a relative's house to raise, and she went south to work.
Therefore, Xu Hanzhou's childhood did not actually have many memories of his mother.
It was better at first. Xu Hanzhou was well taken care of at his grandparents' house, although his grandparents were just ordinary farmers, but they loved this grandson very much.
But later, as Xu Hanzhou got older, his father-in-law and mother-in-law also got older.
In desperation, Xu Hanzhou later had to go to other relatives' homes.
This is a very cruel thing for a child, because it means that Xu Hanzhou must learn to read words and look at his relatives, otherwise he will offend his relatives and make his family angry and be kicked out.
Fortunately, Xu Hanzhou's relatives are not bad, and they are willing to take care of this child, especially the second aunt's family, who loves Xu Hanzhou even more.
When he went to secondary school in Xu Hanzhou, he lived in his second aunt's house.
Of course, Xu Hanzhou is also a very sensible child, and after returning to the second aunt's house, he will always take the initiative to help with housework, and even help the second uncle feed and bathe the pigs.
Relatives like this sensible and motivated child very much, and Xu Hanzhou is also because of this childhood experience, so he always gets along with others like a fish in water.
After graduation, his mother learned that Xu Hanzhou wanted to start a business, and she did not hesitate to use her savings to support her son.
However, after making a fortune, he originally thought it would be a happy ending, but Xu Hanzhou and his mother, who had helped him unconditionally, had a quarrel to the point of breaking off their relationship.
What's going on?
Complex mother-child relationships
In fact, the estrangement between Xu Hanzhou and his mother is also easy to understand.
Although we always say that blood is thicker than water, even the relationship between relatives needs to be cultivated.
There is no getting along day and night, even if it is a mother and child, it will be born.
Xu Hanzhou and his mother Xu Yan are like this.
Because his mother went to the south to work since he was a child, except for the few days when he might come back during the New Year, Xu Hanzhou and his mother did not have much intersection.
In addition, because he had no parents to rely on since he was a child, Xu Hanzhou also developed a strong character of self-reliance.
Therefore, after the mother returned, the long-term reunion of the mother and son was not as warm as we imagined, but revealed awkwardness everywhere.
According to Xu Hanzhou's cousin, his aunt Xu Yan is also a very strong woman, and when you think about it, you can understand that if you can work alone in the unfamiliar south for more than 20 years, such a woman must belong to the strong and independent type, not Yingying Yanyan's small family jasper.
Therefore, after Xu Yan returned to Xu Hanzhou, the mother and son soon broke out into a fierce conflict because of disagreements in various aspects.
There's no way, two people who have the closest blood relationship, but they both lack the least understanding of each other, but they are both strong people suddenly collide together, if they can get along well, then there will be ghosts.
Especially when Xu Yan thinks that she is a mother, she is doing everything for the good of her children, and her son should listen to her for free, but Xu Hanzhou is also a very assertive boy, so the relationship between mother and son will naturally not be harmonious.
However, conflict is conflict, in fact, both sides also know that the other is for their own good.
During Xu Yan's part-time job, she was thrifty, and sent all the money she saved back to her hometown for her son to go to school.
And Xu Hanzhou is actually very filial to his mother, although he inevitably quarrels with his mother, but after making a fortune, he has never wronged his mother materially.
He knew that his mother had a good face, so he specially took his mother to buy a gold necklace and a gold bracelet, just so that his mother could go out and have face.
But these did not make the relationship between mother and son harmonious.
Because Xu Yan was very scared, afraid that she would be abandoned, in fact, it is understandable to think about it, first met an unreliable husband, and then stayed away from the family for a long time, and now watching her son marry a wife and have children, Xu Yan feels that she is like an outsider at home, and she will naturally be uneasy and even afraid.
She always wanted to do something to get her son's attention and see if he cared about her.
In this regard, Xu Hanzhou's wife Wu Jing sees it very clearly.
By the way, Wu Jing's childhood experience is also very similar to her husband's, and she is also a left-behind child who lacks the company of her parents.
Perhaps it is because of this that after the two got married, the relationship has been very good, and they have a pair of children today, which is really enviable.
Similarly, perhaps because they are both women and mothers, Wu Jing also understands what her mother-in-law is worried about.
But the problem is that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a headache for countless people since ancient times, even in daily life, Wu Jing has tried her best to understand her mother-in-law, but unfortunately it has little effect.
For father-in-law and mother-in-law, the son-in-law is a pig who arches his own cabbage, but for the mother-in-law, how can the daughter-in-law not be a woman who robbed her son?
So what happened after that, which would make Xu Hanzhou choose to give his mother 1 million to end the mother-son relationship?
1,000,000 mother-child agreement
First of all, it should be noted that this so-called proposal to buy out the mother-son relationship with 1 million was not put forward by Xu Hanzhou, but by Xu Yan.
It turned out that although Xu Hanzhou made a fortune, his company was engaged in a machine tool factory, and even the boss would work often, and when he went home, he was dirty and tired.
Wu Jing always asked her husband to go to rest after washing.
However, Xu Yan felt that her son was hiding from herself, hating herself, and didn't want to be with her.
Although Wu Jing explained to her husband many times, in addition to quarreling again and again, she never opened her mother-in-law's heart knot.
Originally, there was a pair of children of Wu Jing and Xu Hanzhou who could give Xu Yan's heart more comfort, but when the children grew up and went to elementary school, Xu Yan's heart was completely fried, and she began to conflict with her son and daughter-in-law even if Wu Jing took the initiative to retreat, but it couldn't make the situation better.
Later, Xu Yan, who felt more and more that he had been abandoned, began to clamo for his son to give him 1 million alimony, and then let himself leave the house.
Xu Hanzhou was naturally unwilling, but his mother's misdeeds, and even instigating himself and his wife to divorce many times, really exhausted him.
There's no way, there are things in this world that can make sense if you don't make sense, especially these housework, it's useless for you to invite Bao Qingtian here.
So, in 2021, Xu Hanzhou had to sign this so-called maintenance agreement with his mother, gave his mother 1 million, and then severed the mother-son relationship.
After that, Xu Yan took the money back to her hometown in Hunan.
In the face of Xu Yan's sudden return, the relatives in his hometown are also unknown, so why didn't Xu Yan follow his son in Dalian to enjoy happiness, but ran back to his hometown?
In this regard, Xu Yan just cried to her relatives, saying that her son was not filial.
However, Xu Yan's statement actually did not get much recognition, because Xu Hanzhou was also raised by these relatives since childhood, and they all know what this child is like.
Especially Xu Hanzhou's second aunt, after Xu Hanzhu made his career, she sent things to the second aunt's family to repay her.
So far, Xu Hanzhou also called his second aunt after learning the news of his mother's return to his hometown, hoping that the second aunt could accompany his mother more and help him enlighten.
After figuring out the story between the mother and son, the relatives in their hometown also took action and tried to persuade the mother and son to match.
After all, it is not easy for this mother and son, the first half of their lives were for a living, running around, going to their own things, and now they are finally developed, and they can enjoy happiness together, but they make such a fuss, why bother?
Under the persuasion of relatives, Xu Yan finally began to change her mind, and Xu Hanzhou also took his wife to his hometown a few times, wanting to resolve the estrangement with his mother.
In the end, after many efforts, Xu Yan finally agreed to return to Dalian with her son, and the so-called agreement to sever mother and son was also tacitly forgotten by everyone.
As for the 1 million, Xu Hanzhou said that let his mother take it, it can be regarded as his filial piety to his mother.
I hope that in the rest of my life, this mother and son can truly be filial piety.
Resources:
Hunan City - "Looking for Love"