Recently, a topic on the Internet has become popular -
Is a child born with hyperandrogenic syndrome?
What is "Superandrogen Syndrome"?
"A sex chromosome disorder in human males.
The normal male sex chromosome is XY, and the trisomy XYY has an extra Y chromosome, so it is also called superandrogenic syndrome. 」
Traditionally, children with hyperandrogenic syndrome are born with the "crime" gene.
But with the development of medicine, this claim has become more and more controversial.
In fact, related topics have been fermenting for some time.
Some pregnant women found out that their fetus was carrying the supermale gene and asked for their opinions on social networks.
All kinds of "forced abortion" and "murderer" replies are endless.
The role of Li Miaomiao in the movie "Wading through the Sea of Wrath" is also considered to be superheroic.
Because of his extreme personality, he has no empathy, and he has a strong desire for destruction and a tendency to violence.
It can be seen that in the current Internet public opinion environment, Chaoxiong has been directly equated with "born bad" and "evil boy".
And what made public opinion reach its peak was a Korean parenting show.
In just a few minutes, it is already terrifying.
Every time Superhero discusses it, the clip is turned out as a terrible example.
Even with this show, it has become the best "anti-marriage and anti-childbearing" promotional video.
But in fact, this is an entertaining popular science variety show in itself, with a Douban score of 9.3.
"It is recommended that everyone who wants to have a child take a look first"
"30+ Me: Learn How to Xi Yourself"
At a time when misogyny is spreading and the topic of childbirth is exploding.
It's worth taking a closer look at -
Recent parenting: My child who is as precious as gold
My baby is like parenting gold these days
"Recent Parenting" is an observational parenting reality show.
Dr. Ng Eun-young, who is known as the "first child in Korea", is in charge.
See the growth performance of different children in different families, and analyze the problems and give suggestions.
The most out-of-the-circle and most shocking episode of the show is the child Zaiyu mentioned at the beginning.
At the beginning of the observation, Jae-woo showed unusual violence.
For example, kicking and dragging mom.
I don't say a word and pull my hair.
treats my grandmother very badly.
bluntly said that his grandmother was the person he hated the most.
once spoke viciously to the grandmother and forced her to faint and be rescued.
Although he will apologize afterwards.
But will put all the blame on mom.
"Who told you to do what you deserve to be beaten?"
What's even more tricky is that Jaewoo's words are extreme.
It's not just about swearing, it's often about dying.
But strangely, Jae-woo is very normal when facing other people.
For fathers, teachers, and classmates, they can control their emotions.
Many people saw this and couldn't help but comment on Jae-woo's "bullying the soft and being afraid of the hard, just under-beating".
But in fact, Jae-woo did exhibit strange self-harm behavior.
He often unconsciously plucks his own hair and stuffs it into his mouth.
Eyelashes, eyebrows, hair, one after the other, become bare.
I also retched inexplicably, and I couldn't find the cause.
Jae-woo was also taken to a psychiatric examination by his family, and as expected, he was diagnosed with multiple psychological problems.
can take medicine and be accompanied by family at the same time, but Jaewoo's condition is getting worse and worse.
's mother loves and fears Jae-woo, but she can't do anything, so she comes to the program team for help.
As soon as this episode of the show was broadcast, the word that appeared most frequently in the comments was - "Super Hero".
Many people bluntly said that such children should not come into the world.
Could it be that Jae-woo is really a "superhero"?
But in fact, earlier, Jaewoo was not like now.
He gets along well with his mother and has a good personality.
So, how did Jaewoo become what he is now?
As more pictures of life are exposed, the question is finally answered.
We have to start from the beginning.
After Jaewoo's mother became pregnant, she was unfortunately diagnosed with fibromyalgia syndrome.
The pain was all over the body, but she still insisted on giving birth to Jae-woo.
For this reason, it has been treated, and many surgeries have been performed.
But after the birth of the child, the relationship between the husband and wife broke down.
In order to protect Jae-woo, his mother has been lying that his father is on a business trip.
It wasn't until Jae-woo was in the fifth grade that he confessed the truth.
It was mentioned in the show that the last time father and son met was two years ago.
The reason why Jae-woo has become what he is now is gradually becoming clear.
First of all, there is the phobia of abandonment.
On the one hand, the child cannot tell when the mother is taken away by the disease.
On the other hand, for a long time no one told him why his dad was gone.
All kinds of uncertainties have kept Jaewoo in a huge fear.
So he refused to sleep in a separate bed with his mother.
Even if you don't sleep together, you have to tie a rope to make sure that your mother exists.
But every time his grandmother appears, it will increase Jaewoo's fear.
Because my grandmother always said that she would take her mother away at any time.
This is why Jae-woo has an extremely bad attitude every time he sees his grandmother.
Dad occasionally shows up trying to solve the problem, but apparently has been separated from the life of mother and son for too long.
Seeing that the child couldn't tell the reason why he hated his grandmother, he directly threatened and blamed him.
As you can imagine, this will only exacerbate Jaewoo's symptoms.
When the child has nowhere to vent, he or she develops trichotillomania syndrome and pica.
These behaviors are typical of anxiety.
This shows that compared with the so-called superheroes, the problem of parents' education methods is more serious.
Maybe it's a genetic problem, Jae-woo is already stunted.
And the communication between her mother and Jae-woo is always very immature.
There is also no process of establishing a sense of right and wrong and frustration education.
Therefore, Zaiyu is different from his peers and appears more immature.
My father was also absent for many years.
Rarely, I blame the mother for spoiling the child too much.
There is no understanding, no help, arguing in front of the child and then disappearing again.
Grandma's education method is even more suffocating.
The reason why Jaewoo's mother does not communicate with her child normally is precisely because she herself has not experienced a normal mother-daughter relationship.
When I was a child, my grandmother often made fun of her daughter.
He even beat his daughter's leg with thorns until it bled out.
The current fibromyalgia is the root cause of the beating back then.
Therefore, the only criterion for Zaiyu's mother's parenting is to never beat her child.
Although my grandmother no longer beats and scolds now.
But he often ignores Jaewoo's reaction and stubbornly confronts him.
The other party rejected her, and in the face of persecution, she didn't know how to deal with it, and she had to go violent.
It can be seen that each behavior of a child is the result and manifestation of the behavior of the whole family.
At the same time, don't forget that Jae-woo is already in a state of illness and taking medicine.
The ability to control emotions is weaker than ordinary people, and the concept of right and wrong has not been established in time.
In the long war with his mother, he groped for effective sentences to make his mother feel guilty to contend with it.
Over time, the negative development is not suppressed, and it naturally becomes more and more manic.
Looking at it all the way, there are no "normal people" in this house.
And how to blame the child for not being normal?
To this end, Dr. Wu has given a series of treatment options.
It has been strictly implemented for several months, and the surrounding environment, including the school, has cooperated.
Jae-woo's behavior has really improved dramatically.
The importance of the environment in which you can educate and grow up is amazing.
In fact, after watching the whole issue, I didn't see the program team's introduction to Zaiyu's supermale syndrome.
The so-called superhero child is just an inference in the comment area.
And Uncle Yu found that there are more and more superhero identifications on social networks nowadays.
As soon as there was a "bear child" video, the comment area popped up with the remarks stamped "Super Hero".
Some people even want to take their children for genetic testing because they are too active.
To be sure, hyperandrogenic syndrome is a serious medical, social, and even family problem.
A more comprehensive science popularization is needed to establish a rational understanding.
But today's supermale identification has long been generalized.
More often than not, it is used to exonerate educational negligence.
Just like there are many "problem children" in "Recent Parenting".
Just watching the clip makes the audience question "why are there so many superheroes".
For example, in the same issue of the circle, the protagonist is a four-year-old boy Haojun.
Haojun's mother likes children very much and is ready to have a third child.
But on the other hand, Haojun, as the eldest child, is becoming more and more obedient.
Even though his parents and grandmother were around, he still became violent, unable to communicate, and extremely emotionally unstable.
It seems that he is another "superhero child".
But unexpectedly, Haojun's out-of-the-circle video made everyone feel distressed.
In the video, Haojun is quite precocious.
Four-year-olds have learned to skillfully hide their emotions.
When he realizes that he is about to collapse, he will cover his mouth like an adult, stretch out his hand, and say, "Wait a minute."
He was keenly aware of his parents' neglect of him.
Even when the family is there, they all pay attention to their infant sister.
Mom and Dad occasionally accompany Haojun, and they always find a way to end it as soon as possible.
Of course, the child didn't understand the reason, but thought that the mother didn't like him.
When I go out, I suffer from gains and losses, and when I turn my head, I am always afraid that my mother will not be seen.
It will only be confirmed over and over again, and the anxiety will get out of control at the extreme.
Young couples have busy careers and insufficient parenting knowledge.
Bringing in grandma to help, and confusing the division of childcare responsibilities.
The child will please the parents in exchange for affirmation, and at this point, Haojun is confused.
Because his parents and grandmother have three standards, he doesn't know what to do, and he becomes more anxious.
At this time, the emotions are out of control, and there will be blame.
Not only did it not solve the problem, but it only made Haojun more oppressive.
In addition, Haojun's mother believes in suppressing education.
In the face of a four-year-old child, the words spoken were too heavy.
My father was often absent, and over time I fell into a vicious circle.
Just like the parents mentioned earlier who want to take their children to have a genetic test.
When dealing with children, there are similar beating and scolding behaviors.
But the result of the child's imitation is blamed on the supermale gene.
"Recent Parenting" presents many similar headache-inducing "bear children".
Indeed, there are many children who have genetic defects that cause birth problems.
But including them, each of the child's actions is carefully dissected.
will find that the impact of family education and the environment is beyond the imagination of the audience.
Indeed, childbearing is a major decision from which there is no turning back.
For parents, it is impossible to bet their children's lives on trial and error.
But the more this is the case, the more we need to look at the problem more comprehensively and objectively.
With the help of better medical means and a more comprehensive regulatory system to solve the problem.
Instead of being controlled by misogyny, distorted by erroneous science, and expanded hostility.
Even go to cyberbullying pregnant mothers.
In the Korean drama "Snooping", there is a related plot.
In the play, the South Korean government attempts to legislate to force abortions for children who are tested for "demon genes".
The whole country was in a state of uproar over the proposal.
To this end, a secret organization was formed.
Pick two children with demon genes and monitor them from childhood to adulthood.
It soon became clear that one of the children had indeed shown signs of violence when he had reached a certain age.
Even, in the end, he became a murderer.
But outside of genes, the hatred and defense of his family made him have no normal childhood.
Not to mention proper guidance and communication.
In order to pass the bill, the secret organization proves that genes are everything.
did not hesitate to intervene with external forces, and used murder to stimulate his awakening of criminal genes.
Some people are genetically normal, but they can also be called perverted.
Violence excludes dissent in order to achieve a sense of security and a crime-free utopia.
This has happened in the history of mankind.
This idea has not been severed to this day.
But it always reminds me of that sentence:
"It's often the good intentions that lead people to hell on earth. 」