How could I, a 42-year-old middle-aged woman with a happy family and a successful career, be interested in those "vulgar words"?
Ever since I was a child, I have felt that I should speak appropriately and measuredly. What to say and what not to say, the scale in my heart has always been steady. Those rude, unruly words, well, I can't pass here.
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Until one day, I got together with my girlfriends and somehow we talked about it. Everyone was talking about it, some saying they liked it, some saying they didn't like it, and I joined in. I said, "How vulgar are those words, how can they reach your ears?"
But my best friend Xiaofang shook her head: "You are OUT, now it is a fashion trend, and everyone loves to say it." ”
I muttered to myself, "I don't believe it!" but I didn't say anything.
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Shortly after this happened, my husband and I watched a movie together. There are a lot of "vulgar words" in it, and my husband reads it with relish, but I feel a little embarrassed.
My husband noticed my reaction and asked, "What's wrong with you?"
"I think these words are so rude, how can you talk like that?" I said.
My husband smiled: "Actually, it's nothing, it's just a way of expression." Sometimes it's a bit of a 'vulgarity' to feel closer and more real. ”
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I was a little stunned by that. I've never thought of it that way. In my mind, speaking should be civilized and elegant. Those vulgar words should not be said by people of our age.
But my husband's words made me think a little more. Am I really too conservative? Times are changing, and people's attitudes are changing. Shouldn't I also keep up with the times and relax?
Since then, I've started trying to accept some "vulgar words". Needless to say, some words do express my emotions and attitudes. It feels like I'm getting a lot closer to my husband and friends.
Maybe, I was really wrong. Those "vulgar words" are not as unbearable as I imagined. When used properly, they can also be a spice in our lives.
Of course, that's not to say that I'm completely accepting of these words. For me, some words still can't get over that hurdle in my heart. Everyone has their own bottom line, and this cannot be compromised.
I can't help but laugh when I think back to that party with my girlfriends. At that time, they chatted so enthusiastically, I guess I didn't expect me to have this attitude! Haha, this is me, a real middle-aged woman.
Now, whenever I get together with friends or family, I bring some "vulgarity" with me. They make our communication more interesting and lively. I also understood that language in life is rich and colorful, and every expression has its meaning. As long as we use it properly and appropriately, we can bring people closer together.
So, those who say that "middle-aged women have a soft spot for 'vulgar words'", don't knock over a boatload of people with a rod! We middle-aged women are not so one-dimensional and rigid. We have our own thoughts and choices, and we will adjust our expression according to our feelings and needs. It's more real and fun!