If you don't have a good life, it's often a mistake in your mentality.
Author: Insight July
The American orator Haley once did a survey.
He found that legal immigrants in the United States are four times more likely to become millionaires than natives, regardless of gender, race.
What is causing this disparity?
It turns out that when these immigrants first came to the United States, they just wanted to get by.
But when I arrived, I found that the newspapers were full of job advertisements, and even the minimum salary was the highest in other countries.
So they swept away their previous depression and actively devoted themselves to their work.
The change in mentality also increased the probability of their success, and finally rewrote their own destiny.
There is a famous saying in the West: "Success does not depend on who we are, but on what attitude we have." ”
People's fate is often determined by their state of mind.
Changing your mindset is actually changing your life.
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What you think is a bad life
In fact, it is the mentality that is wrong
I've seen a report.
The idea is that humans generate 12,000 to 50,000 thoughts a day, and about 80% of the thoughts are negative.
This leads to people often ignoring reality and instinctively thinking about the worst possible outcome when encountering problems.
But the difference is that people with a positive mindset are able to think outside the box and see the good in the event.
Negativists, on the other hand, indulge in pessimistic thoughts and criticize and deny themselves.
If there is no hope in the heart, people will naturally lose the motivation to work hard.
With the blessing of discouragement, the fate of the pessimistic will inevitably come to a bleak end.
There is a little story told in the book "Mentality".
Two people got lost in the desert.
They walked for a long time, ran out of water, and one of them collapsed to the ground from heat stroke.
Seeing this, the companion decided to go in search of water himself.
He left the gun to the man suffering from heat stroke and told him to shoot him every two hours, and the sound of the gun would guide him to find him again.
Time passed slowly, and the heatstroke sufferer began to wonder: Will he be able to find water?
In the evening, there was no trace of his companion, and the more he thought about it, the more frightened he became, and his mind was full of images of vultures pecking at him.
Finally, the heatstroke sufferer collapsed, and he picked up his gun and shot the last bullet into his temple.
Soon after the gunshots rang out, the companions arrived with a caravan of camels, but found only the warm body of the heatstroke sufferer.
It wasn't the bullet that killed the person who suffered from heat stroke, it was precisely his pessimistic state of mind.
Kazuo Inamori once said:
"All the misfortunes in life, for no other reason, are drawn from one's own heart. ”
Sometimes your life is bad, and it's not for external reasons.
It is the despair in your heart that attracts bad luck;
It is your negative judgment of yourself that leads fate to misfortune.
Many encounters are caused by yourself, and if you have a bad mentality, life will naturally not go well.
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Change your mindset
Good luck will also be attracted
Napoleon Hill, the American success guru, once told such a case.
There is a young man who has been working in a shop for 4 years.
He often complained to his friends, saying that the store never valued himself, and his salary remained the same for so many years.
Seeing that the other clerks were promoted to store managers, he felt that he had no chance, and he was passive all day long.
Friends persuaded him that instead of living in pain, it was better to change his mentality, anyway, it's like this, why not make himself happy?
After listening to this, the young people felt that it made sense.
So he changed his frustration and learned to treat every guest with an optimistic and high-spirited attitude.
On this day, it suddenly rained outside, and an old woman did not bring an umbrella and hurriedly went into the store to hide from the rain.
The other clerks saw that she was embarrassed and had no intention of shopping, so they turned a blind eye to her.
The young man greeted her warmly and told her that she was welcome even if she didn't buy anything.
The old woman was so moved that she silently wrote down the young man's name as she left.
A few days later, the boss called the young man into the office and showed him a letter from the old woman.
The letter asked the company to send a representative to the field to negotiate business and appointed a young man to complete it.
It turned out that the old woman was the mother of the Iron King Carnegie.
She took a fancy to the young man's enthusiasm and decided that he would be able to do great things.
And the young people lived up to their expectations and were eventually promoted.
Napoleon Hill summed it up by saying:
Many results are determined by mentality, and adjusting our own good mentality is a necessary prerequisite for us to meet success.
Many times, people don't have opportunities, but they miss out on opportunities with a depressed attitude.
Because of the negativity of mentality, it will lead to sluggishness in action, and people's ending will be as sad as fate.
But in fact, good luck has always been in front of you, but you have refused.
If you want to change your destiny, you often have to start by reshaping your mentality.
Abandon negative thoughts and change your sluggish state of mind.
Face life with enthusiasm, even if the water is exhausted in front of you, you can usher in your own willow and flowers.
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The more optimistic you are
The more fate will not fail you
A survey done by Harvard University shows that:
15% of a person's probability of success depends on his intelligence and life experience, and the remaining 85% comes from his state of mind.
In other words, a person's life or failure is, to a large extent, determined by their state of mind.
If you have a bad mentality, no matter how good your conditions are, you are likely to collapse when you encounter setbacks.
Learn to be like a spring, not afraid of failure, use your strength to build up, no matter what happens, you can be the one who has the last laugh.
At the beginning of the 19th century, there was a massive gold rush in the western United States.
There is a young man who has just been born and has rubbed shoulders with this era of windfall.
After graduating from high school, he caught up with the Great Depression and had to give up his studies to pursue real estate to make ends meet.
But the real estate business had just picked up, and the Second World War had begun again, and he was in vain.
After that, he started working odd jobs, working as a car salesman and as a painter.
But no matter what industry he is in, it is difficult to be successful.
In 1955, when he was over half a hundred years old, he returned to his hometown and still achieved nothing.
In other words, if you struggle for half your life but have not achieved any career, you must consider yourself unlucky, and then get by and survive the second half of your life.
But he has always refused to compromise with fate, but has become more and more courageous, and is still actively looking for business opportunities at the age of others.
At this time, he noticed that his neighbor's drive-thru restaurant was doing a brisk business and decided that the industry was very promising.
So at the age of 52, he decided to start a new business.
This time, Lady Luck favored him, and in just a few years, his burger business was thriving.
This person is Raymond Crocker, the founder of McDonald's.
I've heard a saying:
If you think you're going to fail, you've failed, and if you don't think you're going to dare, you're going to hesitate.
If you want to win, but you don't think you can win, then it's almost certain that you're not going to win.
The fate of people has always been determined by themselves.
And the way to change your life is always in your hands.
It is said that mentality determines fate, but in fact, it is your belief in success that makes your efforts rewarded;
It's your dedication to winning that allows you to win over most people.
Reinventing one's mindset may not be immediately effective.
But your spirit will make you fearless of life's challenges, and your positive energy will illuminate the direction you are heading forward.
If you think about the good in everything, you will be able to step out of your own limitations and create more possibilities.
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Abraham Lincoln once said, "Success begins with awakening, and the mindset determines destiny." ”
Many times, the direction of fate is in the palm of your mind.
When faced with life's problems, if you look at them in a negative light, you will magnify their difficulty and make the situation worse and worse.
When you can look at everything in a positive way, your life is already quietly changing.
Give it a thumbs up and encourage your friends.