Text: Liu Yuexi
There are more than 30 days left before the Chinese New Year, are you ready to go home and face your parents' urging to get married?
For many people, going home for the New Year is something that they look forward to for a whole year, but for some people who are still single, they don't seem to be looking forward to going home.
A video of a "mother crying and urging marriage" has attracted everyone's attention, in this video a mother sits at the head of the bed, wiping her tears while urging her daughter to get married quickly.
This video has resonated with many people, as this blogger said, in the eyes of parents, when you reach a certain age, you must get married, otherwise you will always be urged by your parents.
Urging marriage and giving birth has become something that young people have to face today.
However, behind the fancy urging marriage, what kind of thoughts are contained by the parents, and how many parents' fig leaf has been uncovered in this crying and urging marriage video?
The "mother crying and urging marriage" incident that rushed to the hot search resonated
Someone once did a survey to ask young people about their willingness to get married, and the results showed that the unmarried rate of young people around 25 years old was as high as 70%.
Traditionally, around 25 years old is the theoretical best age for marriage, but now this number is gradually increasing, and young people are less and less reluctant to get married.
A blogger posted a video of the blogger's mother sitting next to her, crying and telling the blogger that it was time to get married.
Judging from the blogger's reaction, she was not touched, but very disgusted with her mother's approach, the blogger is 97 years old, and her mother thinks that she has already reached the age of a woman to get married, otherwise she will become a "leftover girl", but the blogger is not willing to settle.
"Maybe I'm really not important as a daughter. When the blogger said this, he must have been very sad in his heart.
This blogger's voice has received a lot of resonance, there are many young people who are experiencing things like being urged to marry, and they are also unwilling to grieve their lifelong events in order to satisfy their parents.
In the comment area, many netizens posted their conversations with their parents, which are full of "gunpowder" conversations, all of which represent the disputes between young people and their parents about marriage issues today.
When men get married and women get married, is the concept of parents still suitable for today's children?
For this mother, she is also very bitter in her heart, seeing that other people's children, all of them have married wives and had children, and they are all living a life full of children and grandchildren, but when she looks back at her own children, she is still alone.
In the eyes of parents, this is that they have not done what they should have done.
In the traditional concept, starting a family is a very important thing, and there is also the concept of "no filial piety, no queen is the greatest", so in the concept of parents, it is necessary to let the child set up his own family, so as to complete the basic task of being a parent.
But today's young people are more and more reluctant to get married, in the face of their parents' urging to marry, in the face of the concept of "men should marry women", today's young people do not agree.
After various stages of development, the concept of today's young people is already different from that of their parents.
In the minds of young people, it is naturally good to set up a family, but if you start a family, it will reduce your quality of life, increase your pressure, and put yourself in a situation where you will be compromised, so many young people are reluctant to set up their own family.
In other words, the original concept no longer seems to be suitable for today's young people.
There will be a conflict between the concepts of both parties, which will bring a lot of problems, and there will be fancy urging marriage, as well as the situation where the child is disgusted with the parents.
Fancy urging marriage has unveiled the fig leaf of many parents
In addition to this "mother crying and urging marriage", many netizens revealed their parents' fancy marriage urging.
A parent said: If you don't get married, what will you do after we leave?
There are also parents who think: If you don't get married and don't have children, no one will burn paper for you when you're old.
Some parents say to their children: Only when you get married and have children can you become a real woman.
Today's parents are changing their tricks to urge marriage, but how many people's fig leaf has been unveiled by this incident?
There are probably three reasons why parents urge marriage:
First, I want to hold my grandson.
As the so-called intergenerational parent, many parents like children very much, so they urge their children to get married, and they can be grandparents and enjoy the joy of family.
Second, I don't want to be ridiculed by my peers.
Many parents are the same age whose children are already married, and even have children, and in the eyes of many people, others already have grandchildren, and their own children are not married, which will make themselves ridiculed by their peers.
Third, I want my child to be independent as soon as possible.
is the so-called starting a family, in the minds of many parents, only when the child is married, can it be considered independent, so parents are urging the child to get married.
But compared with these small abacus in the hearts of parents, whether their own face is important or the happiness of their children is important, this is a question worth thinking about.
Write at the end
For parents, they want their children to get married as soon as possible.
For children, want a happy life.
There is nothing wrong with both parties, this requires a balance, parents should no longer change their tricks to urge marriage, it will put a lot of pressure on the child, and the child also needs to find his true happiness, so that he can rest assured that his parents can rest assured.
What do you think about this?
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