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Lao Liu issued a divorce statement in response to online questions
The marriage between Fu Seoul and Lao Liu, the two of them finally came to an end, and the 15-year marriage and relationship came to an end.
Since the two of them appeared on the show, there have been a lot of topics around them, from strong women and weak men, to Lao Liu's depression, no status, Fu Seoul's aggressiveness, etc., public opinion has been wave after wave and has never stopped.
After the beginning of the year, Lao Liu posted a divorce statement on his social account, detailing his inner struggles and feelings in this marital relationship.
In Lao Liu's divorce statement, he admitted that he was a vested interest, because there was no pressure of life, and it was difficult to meet spiritual needs, so the two gradually drifted apart.
In addition to revealing his mental journey in this marriage, Lao Liu also replied to the questions on the Internet that he paid more attention to: no depression, non-famous graduates, did not bear Fu Seoul's study expenses, family expenses do not need to be reported, and Fu Seoul has a strong personality but also takes care of his family.
Reading the whole article, the statement of thousands of words sprinkled with joy, from beginning to end, in addition to revealing his own thoughts, is to clean up the dirty water poured on the Internet to Fu Seoul one by one, and almost all of what he said and talked about was from Fu Seoul's point of view, from the perspective of safeguarding Fu Seoul's interests.
Even at the end of the statement, he said that although he and Fu Seoul have no marital feelings, the two of them have a son after all, and they will still be relatives and best friends in the future, as well as the most solid backing.
After Lao Liu issued this statement, Fu Seoul was mentioned at the end of the article, and Fu Seoul liked Lao Liu's article the next day, but canceled the like after the public opinion expanded.
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Lao Liu is a decent person, and the divorce statement can be called a textbook level
After reading Lao Liu's divorce statement, I just want to say that Lao Liu is really a decent person.
Although this divorce statement came a little late, from this divorce statement, it can be seen that Lao Liu almost shouldered all the doubts about Fu Seoul and the cyberbullying against Fu Seoul on the Internet.
One of his divorce announcements can be regarded as completely rehabilitating Fu Seoul, and he single-handedly reversed the direction of public opinion.
No matter whose fault is more in the marriage of the two people, it doesn't matter at the moment, because Lao Liu takes all the responsibility on himself.
From Lao Liu's divorce statement, we see that Fu Seoul is another image: in order to improve the family's economic situation, he tries his best to move forward;
Although it is true that the personality may be stronger than other women, but because of the relationship between work, I have to choose to wrap myself in a hard shell, and the two people in life are comparable, and there will be a strong and soft side.
This is the image of Fu Seoul in his eyes that Lao Liu conveyed to the public after the divorce. And this image, not to mention praise, is at least beyond reproach.
has seen a lot of public figures who have been in trouble after the breakup, and even very ugly and ugly, Lao Liu's divorce is obviously much more peaceful and decent.
What's more, in this divorce statement, Lao Liu completely let go of his self-esteem and face as a man, and publicly admitted his weakness and the strength of the other party, which is too rare.
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The reason why Fu Seoul's divorce sparked heated discussions
In fact, the reason why the divorce of Lao Liu and Fu Seoul can trigger such a large-scale discussion is because of the divorce of the two people.
We are used to seeing things in our daily lives due to cheating, because of debts, etc., and you rarely see them caused by unhappiness.
After all, even literature like Qian Zhongshu has written a classic sentence: "Marriage is a besieged city, people on the outside want to get in, and people inside want to come out."
It is understandable that young people divorce because of their incompatible personalities and unhappy lives after marriage, two people have walked hand in hand for 15 years, it stands to reason that the run-in has long been run-in, even if there is no run-in, the two people also have a long-term Xi habit of living together, and the Xi habit is difficult to change, so they are all improvised, after all, who can guarantee that the next person they meet is better and more suitable for themselves.
The marriage of middle-aged people is not because they don't want to leave, but because they are unhappy, and the reason for divorce is too few.
In Lao Liu's divorce statement, there is an impressive sentence: "Our happiness has almost nothing to do with each other."
When I saw this sentence, I only felt that there might really be no love between two people, and the silent life between two people was like a pool of stagnant water.
Even so, in real life, most people's choices are still 'improvised'.
Because marriage cannot be maintained by love, without love and family affection and responsibility, divorce after a long time of marriage seems to be a heartbreaking thing.
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Feng Tang's view of marriage
After Fu Seoul and Lao Liu divorced, in an interview, Fu Seoul claimed that the two of them have not changed much from before, just like friends.
Because the two have a son, they will still be connected in life.
Although they are divorced, the state of the two people after the divorce does seem to be very different: Lao Liu is visibly happier and more willing to embrace a new life, Fu Seoul cried so much after the divorce that his false eyelashes fell off.
Feng Tang said: "A marriage that is the right person, plus a little physical like, plus a little spiritual like, this triangle combination, there should be a relatively big chance to live a happier life." ”
The door-to-door pair not only refers to the economic level, but also the fit of the three views, which can be said to be the cornerstone of marriage. And the physical liking and the spiritual liking make our married life not boring and boring, but also keep the marriage fresh.
These three points are like triangles, and they are indispensable.
If a little bit is missing, it is easy to have a tragedy in marriage.
For example, if the man helps the woman in the marriage or the woman has long-term poverty alleviation and the man has a conflict and divorces, this can be collectively referred to as economic problems, because there are not a few divorces due to economic problems.
Because the freshness of the flesh is no longer there, they frequently cheat: for example, Xiao S's husband, who is often exposed, haunts the hot girls in nightclubs, seeking freshness and excitement.
Those who divorce because of the different frequency of their spirits are like Lao Liu and Fu Seoul, both of whom are more spiritually pursuing, but they can't give each other nutrients, and the two people are always not frequent, which eventually leads to the end of the divorce.
No matter which foundation of the marriage goes wrong, there is a high probability that this marriage will not have a good ending.