Text/Guanwen Shi said
Editor/Guanwen Shi said
Have you ever had the experience of inadvertently saying your own shortcomings, only to become a reality unknowingly? Or, have you made groundless accusations and criticisms to others on the spur of the moment, only to lead to unnecessary conflicts and troubles?
As the old saying goes: "Words are the voice of the heart, and it is often said that the heart is demonic." This phrase speaks to the power of words – not just a tool for us to express our thoughts, but also a mysterious hand that shapes our destiny.
In our daily lives, those seemingly insignificant words often invisibly affect our future. They are like an invisible hand that guides us to success or failure.
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In our daily lives, we often unintentionally say negative words such as "I'm not in good health" or "I'm not in good health".
You may not realize that these seemingly inconsequential words may actually invisibly shape our reality. This phenomenon, known in psychology as "self-fulfilling prophecy," refers to how people's expectations and beliefs affect their behavior and outcomes.
Let's illustrate this with my aunt's story as an example. She has been weak since she was a child, but she has never complained about the unfairness of fate, on the contrary, she always firmly believes: "I just need to spend more time to recuperate, and my body will get better and better." After decades of exercising and maintaining her health, she is now in better shape than most of her peers.
It is because of her always positive attitude that she was able to gradually get out of her physical predicament. Instead of setting limits for herself or making excuses for herself, she firmly believes that as long as she puts in the effort, her body will respond.
In addition, we should also be mindful when evaluating others. The ancients once said, "Do not do unto others as you would have them do unto you." "We tend to criticize others based on our own standards and values, but that doesn't mean our standards are absolute.
Everyone has their own lifestyles and choices, and when we focus too much on the shortcomings of others, we may lose sight of what we need to improve ourselves.
When we criticize others, we tend to have a sense of moral superiority, but in reality, doing so does not make us better, but can lead to unnecessary hostility or antagonism.
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Mo Yan once said: "Don't often say that you are not in good health, your brain is not good, your life is not good, etc., this is not modesty, this is self-fulfilling prophecy." This sentence profoundly reveals a hidden mechanism in human nature - self-fulfilling prophecy.
Self-fulfilling prophecy is an expectation that when we have a certain belief about ourselves or others, our behavior and attitudes are often influenced by that belief that makes the initial expectation come true.
If a person always says that he is not in good health, then he may really feel physically unwell because of psychological cues. In the same way, if a person is always critical of others, then he may really develop an aversion to others because of this negativity.
In our daily lives, have you ever found yourself or others often complaining about your poor health, bad brain, bad life, etc.? Have you ever heard others criticize you or those around you, and then find that these criticisms seem to be becoming more and more true? This is actually self-fulfilling prophecy at work.
I once had a colleague who always said that he had a bad brain and a poor memory, and blamed his mistakes on his own bad brain.
He believes that only people with smart brains and good memories can't make mistakes, and that these people should take more responsibility. However, this behavior gradually isolated him from his colleagues, because he always shifted the responsibility to others, making everyone feel tired to work with him.
Eventually, his position in the unit became dispensable, and the opportunity for promotion and salary increase was not available to him. He began to complain about the injustice of fate, believing that his talents were not appreciated and that his life was not going well. However, his complaints did not change his situation, but only made him more depressed and helpless.
And this situation is called self-fulfilling prophecy.
Saying often that you are not in good health, your brain is not good, your life is not good, etc., is not a sign of modesty, but a manifestation of self-denial and negative mentality.
This practice will not only make you feel frustrated and helpless, but it will also make those around you feel uncomfortable and worried. We should recognize that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and no one is perfect. We should focus on our strengths and reach our potential, rather than focusing too much on our shortcomings.
Self-fulfilling prophecy is a powerful psychological mechanism that shapes our reality. However, as long as we are aware of its existence, we can avoid its negative effects by changing our mindset and behavior. Let's all face life with a positive attitude, give full play to our strengths, and realize our own values.
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In the journey of life, our words often reflect the inner desire and the state of existence. Human instinct drives us to constantly create wishes, and behind every complaint, there are actually hidden wishes that do not fulfill them.
However, endless complaining won't solve anything, but can only complicate the situation. In fact, when we change the way we speak, when we think from a different perspective, we often find that things have taken a turn for the better.
Life's challenges require us to face them with a positive and optimistic attitude, so that we can see hope and inspire positive motivation to act.
Continuous positive actions will gradually accumulate more positive energy in our body, and then form a virtuous circle, which will bring us closer and closer to our ideal life.
As the cosmic law of attraction says, when our hearts are filled with a desire for something, the forces of the whole universe seem to help us achieve it.
In the process, we will meet many like-minded people who share similar beliefs and energy fields to help us achieve our dreams. Belief becomes our inner source of motivation and pushes us to work tirelessly towards our goals until we succeed.
Therefore, we should be brave enough to express our desires, guide ourselves with our hearts, and constantly improve our abilities and strengths in order to achieve our goals in life faster.
On the road of life, we will inevitably encounter various difficulties and challenges, but as long as we do not give up and persevere, the future is still worth looking forward to.
Life is nothing more than an experience again and again, as long as we take it seriously, to feel, to love, to pain, to cherish, this life is enough, no regrets.
Life is nothing more than an experience, taking life seriously, living healthily, living peacefully, being appropriately busy, and smiling happily, this is the simplest and most real happiness.
There was once a former colleague whose life seemed to be filled with endless complaints. His appearance was a little sloppy, his hair was messy, and he always had a bitter and hateful expression on his face. He constantly told about his misfortune, complained about his daughter-in-law's unfilial piety, his grandson's crying, and the helplessness of life.
However, life is a choice, and no matter how we choose, there will always be regrets, gains and losses. The important thing is that we do our best, and we don't have to get too hung up on it, and we can't give up easily.
Life is to comprehend again and again, and grow again and again. As long as we live with our hearts, treat everything with our hearts, love, hurt, cry, laugh, and cherish, then this life is enough, and we have no regrets.
Life is nothing more than experience, take life seriously, health and safety are blessings, be a little busy, and smile happily, it's also good.
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In the journey of life, we often meet people who are Xi to self-criticizing and judging others. Faced with such a situation, we might as well calm down, take a deep breath, and think: What can this behavior bring us?
Is it a short-term pleasure or a long-term pain? Like a mirror, our world is a reflection of our hearts. When we treat others with kindness, we reap the same kindness, and malice will only attract more malice.
There is an old saying: "A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word is hurtful and cold in June." "The power of language cannot be underestimated, not only for others, but also for ourselves.
How we deal with ourselves, how we treat others, and how we see the world are choices that shape the course of our lives. Therefore, let us cherish every opportunity to express ourselves, greet every morning with a positive attitude, and fill our lives with color.
However, in this complex and ever-changing world, can we really look at everything positively, and how can we maintain peace and determination in the face of challenges and difficulties?
Is this possible, or is it just an unattainable dream? Let's explore the answer to this question, and perhaps it will lead us to a broader realm of life.