Someone once asked on Zhihu: "How to get along with colleagues?" Among them, "Don't get too close to your colleagues, let alone find friends in the workplace." The answer has been recognized by most netizens. Although as the saying goes, "many friends, many paths", many people are very cautious when it comes to making friends in the workplace.
Recently, the experience of a sick netizen asking a colleague to help made the topic of "workplace and friends" the focus of discussion among netizens again.
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Do you have any friends in the workplace, and can you make friends at work? In the past few days, a netizen who posted a long post on social platforms complaining about his colleagues may have a deep understanding.
At the beginning of her long essay, she wrote in a few bold and blue letters, "Never trust your colleagues to be good friends with you", telling us her attitude and opinions. Subsequently, the netizen told about his experience of illness.
Because of work reasons, she and two other colleagues were arranged by the company to live near the workplace, under the same roof, and it was inevitable that they would encounter times when they needed to help each other.
One day, because of a high fever, this netizen wanted to go home to rest after going out to deliver materials, and after arriving near the community, because there was no key, he proposed to let his colleagues send it, but he was rejected by two colleagues.
was refused to send the key, which was not enough for this netizen to make such an exclamation, mainly because the netizen felt that "the effort did not get a corresponding return".
Usually, netizens basically respond to the needs of their colleagues when they need help. My colleague lent them clothes without thick clothes, let them sleep with him without a thick quilt, looked for them with her late at night when he couldn't find a courier locker, and even bought water and snacks to share with them......
Although no one has the obligation to help and take care of another person, it is because he has paid sincerely before, but now he has not received a response when he needs help, which makes people feel even more chilling, and it is no wonder that this netizen will send a long article to complain.
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After this netizen posted his experience on social platforms, it quickly resonated with many people.
"But it's okay to do this, recognize the actual relationship, and don't have in-depth contact with them in the future. ”
"Don't ask others to be the same as you, people are different, you can do to them what others do to you. ”
"I feel that your colleagues are quite unsympathetic, so next time I will have the key. ”
"Never treat a colleague as a friend, just say hello when you meet, but everyone has a higher impression score. ”
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In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", He Han said a classic line to Luo Zijun that has been widely circulated to this day: "You are here to work, not to make friends." It's a surprise to be able to make friends, and it's normal not to be able to make friends. ”
Talking to colleagues at work, and not contacting each other after work, seems to have become a recognized workplace norm for workers. Not being able to make friends is the norm in the workplace.
The reason why I can be heart-to-heart with friends in life is largely because the two sides are like two parallel lines, which will not involve a fundamental conflict of interest, and once it comes to the distribution of interests, there are not too many friendships that can withstand the test.
Mei Ping, who "backstabbed" Miss Wang in the recently hit TV series "Flowers", was a friend who could make friends before there was no "section chief", but in the face of interests, it finally made Mei Ping change her mind.
In reality, there are countless examples of this. Soda Green and Deng Ziqi, who regard their agents as relatives, have been "backstabbed" by them, which made their development stagnant for a while.
That sick netizen may not be a bad thing if he has had such an experience.
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While the article resonated with everyone, some netizens gave their own opinions.
"If it was when I was sick, I wouldn't be like that, I would just call an errand run and give myself a good rest. ”
"You can get off the subway and take a taxi to the hospital, let the driver wait, you go get the keys, and then take a taxi home. There's no need to collapse, when you grow up, you find that you have to face many of these times by yourself. ”
"If you don't have expectations, you won't be disappointed, and if you remember that you won't be sad and disappointed if you Xi rely on yourself in the future. ”
"Isn't it normal for these two colleagues to do so? The heroine went directly to the hospital and then went back to the dormitory, and she didn't have to walk 600 meters, and she didn't have to trouble others to walk 300 meters to owe favors. ”
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Many netizens believe that everyone is an adult and should have the ability to solve problems by themselves, and instead of pursuing the "lack of conscience" of colleagues, it is better to find a way to solve the problem by yourself.
In fact, it is true that whenever you encounter a problem, the first choice of solution must be yourself, not someone else, and pinning your hopes on others will only disappoint you.
In "The First Half of My Life", the sentence He Han said to Luo Zijun actually has the second half of the sentence: "So now, it is very important to be Taoguang and obscure, do a good job in your own performance, and if you do a good job in your own performance, you will naturally become your partner." ”
As the old saying goes: "No one asks about the poor in the city, but the rich have distant relatives in the mountains." "No matter what situation you are in, only when you are strong will you attract others to take the initiative to approach you.
Instead of waiting for others to save you from fire and water, it is better to rely on your own strength to get out of the predicament;