Text丨 Weisheng Xiaoyun
Editor丨Weisheng Xiaoyun
Preface
China is a fascinating country, both in terms of food and beauty.
Therefore, in recent years, more and more foreigners have visited China, and some have even come to work and live in Chinese cities.
Among them, an American beauty came to China for a business trip because of work, but after staying for a while, she complained that the Chinese were too concerned about her privacy.
Why did she say this, and was there a misunderstanding in it?
China is different from what I imagined
As a travel blogger, I have also met a lot of friends who love to travel, and one of my friends works for a foreign company in China.
His company is a high-end cosmetics company in the United States, and because its products are popular with the Chinese market, it has also opened branches in coastal cities in China.
When he was working in the company, he told me that Americans don't seem to be able to see much because they have deep facial features.
In particular, there are some American beauties in his company, who are not only good-looking, but also have a good figure, and he is about the same height when he wears high heels.
Because it is a foreign company, there are often interesting things that happen in his company that foreigners are not suitable for coming to China.
We are also migrant workers in other places, so we come out to get together when we have nothing to do, especially if there is a good supper near the company, we often take advantage of the rest day to drink and talk about these things.
My friend's surname is Zhao, and I am older than him, so I usually call him Xiao Zhao.
Xiao Zhao's company recently came to an American beauty on a business trip, because she was not Xi to the Chinese living environment, so she made some fun.
When he first arrived in China, Xiao Zhao's workstation was next to the American beauty, and the supervisor said that he would help take care of it, so that the American beauty could ask him if he didn't understand.
When the two first met, it was quite natural and they talked about some work, but when they got to the back, the American beauty got angry.
It turned out that Xiao Zhao thought that she would stay in China for half a year, so she wanted to chat with her more and improve the relationship, only she would not be embarrassed to ask for help later.
Chinese chatting is chatting and chatting about each other's situation, so Xiao Zhao didn't pay attention and asked who was in the family of the American beauty, and would she be worried when she came to China.
The American beauty not only did not reply to the information he asked, but also said that she thought Xiao Zhao was too rude.
Xiao Zhao was confused, he chatted normally for a while, and didn't say anything, why was he rude?
Although he didn't know what he had done, he still said that he would invite the American beauty to dinner as a way to make amends.
The American beauty really doesn't know much about Chinese food, eating is a big problem, and she is not provocative, so she agreed.
Xiao Zhao carefully chose a classic Chinese restaurant, this time he was more cautious about the meal, he didn't say much, it was all about these Chinese delicacies.
The two of them had a very happy meal, and Xiao Zhao also asked the doubts in her heart, saying that she was suddenly angry when she chatted during the day.
The American beauty said, "It's rare that you don't know that it's rude to ask someone about these situations?"
In the United States, everyone has a strong sense of boundaries, and even friends will not rush to ask each other about personal circumstances such as age and family situation.
However, Xiao Zhao came up and asked a lot about her family, which made her feel that her privacy was being explored.
Xiao Zhao hurriedly explained, saying that this is not the case, in China, everyone likes to chat, and chatting generally talks about these things to enhance each other's feelings.
And working in a company, confessing some of your information to each other can also better close the relationship with each other.
And there is a saying in China that the friend who knows the most about you is the best friend for life, because your relationship is so good that you can say everything.
China and the United States are very different
Although the American beauty does not understand the Xi of Chinese communication very well, she also knows that Xiao Zhao has no malicious intentions.
After all, it is indeed easy for a young girl to mistake a man who is inquiring about her private affairs.
After talking about it, the American beauty said that it is true that the living habits of people in the two countries are too different Xi, and it is easy to cause misunderstandings.
After that, Xiao Zhao and American beauties often communicated, and they would say some different things about China and the United States.
Another time when an American beauty asked for leave, Xiao Zhao asked her what had happened to her and whether she needed help.
The American beauty said that she was just a little uncomfortable with the soil and water, and some gastrointestinal discomfort, so Xiao Zhao said a lot of things to pay attention to diet.
Later, when I came to the company, those colleagues enthusiastically asked the American beauty if she was feeling better, and the American beauty was startled by this scene at first.
Because in the United States, everyone almost does not pay attention to what colleagues around them are doing when they take leave, they are all doing their own things, while in China, even colleagues who have only met a few times will care about themselves so enthusiastically.
So Xiao Zhao taught her a word, "flattered", Chinese are more warm and friendly, and they are also more kind to passers-by.
The American beauty said that this is almost impossible in the United States, because everyone is very concerned about safety and dare not disclose their own affairs casually.
Even if someone asks for help on the street, no one necessarily dares to go, and no one knows if the other party will pull out any dangerous tools.
And the American beauty said that colleagues who know a few times in the United States will not send things to care or anything like that, which will only make people feel that he has something to ask for himself.
But in China, people don't seem to ask for anything in return, just just to be nice to themselves, which surprises her.
Some of her colleagues even gave some Chinese "tea", saying that it was good for her health, but she still hadn't even remembered other people's names.
Xiao Zhao said that China is like this, so there are many foreigners who are willing to come to live in China, because it is indeed a good place.
Because Xiao Zhao cares about American beauties very much, there are some doubts in the back, and American beauties will ask Xiao Zhao.
Once a beautiful woman complained about a phenomenon that bothered her very much, that is, she felt that Chinese words did not count, which made her scratch her head.
It turned out that when the American beauty said something, the other party would say that he would give it to her in two days, but the other party did not contact her after two days.
Sometimes the other party said that next time I would find her to taste a food shop together, there was no follow-up.
Xiao Zhao listened to it before explaining that in fact, spending two or three days in China is just a verbal word, in fact, a few days does not matter, not necessarily three days.
Moreover, Chinese do not speak as bluntly as foreigners, and sometimes they will politely refuse others, and they will say that they will go again when they have the opportunity in the future, and they will go again next time.
Sometimes there may really be a "next time", or there may be no future for this matter at all.
The American beauty looked pensive, as if trying to understand these things, after all, in foreign countries everyone speaks very directly, not as complicated as in China.
When Chinese communicate, they often refuse, for example, American beauty saw someone looking for a colleague to send something, and the colleague kept saying no, but finally accepted it.
At first, she felt that why she had to force others to stuff it if she didn't want to, or why she said no, she thought it was very complicated.
Xiao Zhao said that this is China's "polite" culture, and Chinese people are more modest and tactful, so many times the speech will be more round.
In the end, the American beauty can only say that she still has to learn a lot Xi things in China, including everyone's communication and understanding, otherwise she will always be unable to understand and think that she has been deceived.
But in general, she still likes China more, because she feels that the Chinese are indeed very kind and warm, and there is no malice.
epilogue
American beauties came to China because of the different exchanges between countries, so there were a lot of misunderstandings.
This sounds thought-provoking to people in our country, but they didn't expect that there would be such a big difference in life between countries.
But if you stay in China for a while, you will still really like China in the end, after all, China is a sincere country.