Human nature is mostly competitive, and no one wants to be trampled underfoot.
Even if you have to condescend to the eaves of other people's houses, you will secretly grit your teeth, and you will definitely have your own mansion in the future, giving people a face.
Too many people have made a plan to retaliate and not let anyone bully, and some people continue to accumulate strength, and it is not too late for a gentleman to take revenge.
Han Xin, the founder of the Western Han Dynasty, used fate to tell you that people who can know how to show weakness often become strong and go further. On the contrary, it is too rigid and easy to break, and there is no future in sight.
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When incompetent, showing weakness is a long-term strategy.
What can make Han Xin remembered by many people is probably the idiom "humiliation of the crotch".
Han Shin, who is poor and has no good conduct, makes a living by doing small business. When the local butcher saw this, he laughed: "You are tall and carry a sword, but you are actually a coward." ”
After the butcher finished speaking, he let Han Xin get under his crotch.
On that day, "everyone in the city laughed and believed it, thinking that it was cowardly".
Many years later, Han Xin became Liu Bang's subordinate, paid homage to the prime minister, and went to the place where he did small business again to reunite with the butcher.
The butcher knelt on the ground and begged for mercy, but Han Xin smiled and promoted the butcher to be a junior general.
In fact, Han Xin was humiliated, not only this time, but it can be said that he grew up in humiliation. However, he bowed his head to show weakness, humiliated but did not fight.
The pavilion chief of Nanchang Pavilion entertained Han Xin for dinner many times, but the pavilion chief's wife was not happy.
One morning, the pavilion chief's wife deliberately arranged for the family to finish eating early, and by the time Han Xin came, the dishes were already empty.
Han Xin had just made his debut and took refuge in Xiang Yu, but Xiang Yu didn't use his schemes.
After being introduced, Han Xin switched to Liu Bang, but Liu Bang didn't trust him much. But under Xiao He's persuasion, he continued to commit himself to Liu Bang's door.
The writer Su Shi wrote in "On Staying in the Marquis": "When the husband sees humiliation, draws his sword and rises, and stands up to fight, this is not enough to be brave." There are great brave people in the world, who come suddenly without being surprised, and without being angry for no reason. The people who hold it hostage are very large, and its ambitions are far away. ”
Ordinary people, taking one step at a time, can't bear the humiliation of the moment, so they "rush to the crown in anger", and as a result, they have put out the last bit of strength and can no longer turn over.
Visionary people have ambitions to see what their future selves will become. Besides, everything that can't destroy itself will make you strong.
In showing weakness, others will not continue to pay attention to you, so you have the opportunity to grow quietly, studying, practicing martial arts, and seeking a career. The faint light reserved for life will slowly grow larger and find the road ahead.
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In a difficult situation, it is expedient to show weakness.
After Han Xin was promoted to general by Liu Bang, his life immediately flourished.
In the fourth year of the Han Dynasty, Liu Bang sent Li Shiqi to the state of Qi to persuade Tian Guang, the king of Qi, to submit to him. King Qi also agreed.
Knowing that the King of Qi had surrendered to Liu Bang, Han Xin still launched an attack, leading the King of Qi to believe that Li Shiqi was a liar and used the torture of "cooking".
With the territory of Qi State, Han Xin immediately wrote to Liu Bang: "The people of Qi are cunning and changeable, it is better for me to be the acting king of Qi, which is conducive to the next move." ”
When Liu Bang received the letter, he was besieged by Xiang Yu in Xingyang, like an ant on a hot pot. His advisers Zhang Liang and Chen Ping suggested in a low voice: "At the moment, we are too busy to take care of ourselves, so it is better to promise Han Xin to be the king of Qi, and talk about it steadily." ”
Liu Bang replied: "The people who follow me must be the true king, why should they be the acting king of Qi?"
After receiving Liu Bang's reply, Han Xin was proud, and he didn't expect that this was Liu Bang's "expedient measure", but he was not convinced in his heart, and he was still thinking about how to "fight back".
If you think about it, you know that Liu Bang was just trapped, and he didn't want to have extraneous troubles, internal and external troubles, so he promised Han Xin everything. A show of weakness can be exchanged for a period of internal tranquility.
It was precisely because of Han Xin's pride that he lost his mind, and the "power to show weakness" he once had was given to "Liu Bang" with a backhand.
The tricks between the masters are just between those who can bear it and those who can't bear it.
The weeds endure the cold winter, and the leaves wither, but in the spring they do not endure it, but sprout their spikes and flowers, and the wild boars look honest, and after enduring all kinds of pursuits, they also grow fangs.
If you can't understand the weakness of others, and you can't continue to show weakness yourself, the disaster will be buried. Not in sight, at the ends of the earth.
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If you don't know how to show weakness in life, you will decline if you are prosperous.
Han Xin, who became the king of Qi, opened a state of complacency, and also believed in Xiang Yu's instigation, so that he could divide the world into three parts, and Xiang Yu, Liu Bang, and Han Xin went their own way.
When Liu Bang was about to mobilize Han Xin's troops to attack Xiang Yu in the south, Han Xin was grinding and chirping.
Liu Bang, who was helpless, divided the vast area east of Chen County to the seaside as Han Xin's fief to meet any requirements of Han Xin.
After Liu Bang ruled the world, he immediately relieved Han Xin of his military power, and later renamed Han Xin as the king of Chu.
Han Xin did not repent, flaunted his might in Chudi, and led the army in and out.
Liu Bang took further action to remove Han Xin from the throne and renamed Han Xin the Marquis of Huaiyin. In the end, Han Shin was killed.
The ancients said: "If the wood is beautiful in the forest, the wind will destroy it, and if the pile comes out of the shore, the current will be turbulent, and if the line is higher than the people, the people will not be it." ”
When a person thinks that he is very strong, does not show weakness at all, and can destroy others at any time, it is actually the time for himself to perish.
Think about it, a tree that grows as high as the sky, can see the scenery, and is more susceptible to lightning strikes, and the same is true for a person, whose heart is higher than the sky.
There's a good saying: "Don't worry, the best is yet to come." ”
People must always show weakness in order to get better and better, and in the midst of competing for strength and showing weakness, they can replace each other and be able to play with ease.
Interpersonal relationships, the relationship between people and society are all a kind of relationship, according to the actual situation to deal with, timely adjustment, the weak can silently turn over, the strong can hide deeply, invincible.
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In fact, weak and strong, are relative.
A bowl of seafood worth a few hundred yuan is inseparable from a pack of salt for one or two yuan, and a building worth tens of millions of dollars can be destroyed by a lighter for a few dimes.
When a smart person is strong, he helps the weak and develops jointly, and when he is weak, he grows up silently and does not touch the interests of the strong. Further is mountaineering, and taking a step back is the sea and sky.
Guiguzi said: "If you want to go high and go down, if you want to be open, you will want to take it." ”
As soon as you bow your head, the road is under your feet, and your heart is ahead.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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