Text: Jing Ma
Many psychologists have mentioned that children from divorced families are prone to psychological problems, mainly because after many families divorce, children and their fathers or mothers will have less time to meet and chat with the other party.
But in fact, if the husband and wife have no feelings, it is better to separate than to struggle painfully together, but for the children, both husband and wife are responsible for raising them, so after the divorce, it is just said that the child's parents live separately, but the two people should also have the responsibility and obligation to raise and educate the child.
Just like after the divorce of stars Huang Xiaoming and Yang Ying, their son Xiao Sponge was also raised together.
At the end of November last year, some netizens met Yang Ying and the little sponge when they went to the hospital to see the emergency department, and it was late in the middle of the night, and the photo taken by the netizen was the aunt asking at the reception desk, and Yang Ying was waiting with her son next to her, and later Yang Ying was also holding her son when she was waiting for the treatment, which means that when the child is sick, the mother is also with the child.
On New Year's Day, Huang Xiaoming posted on his personal social platform that he was wearing red parent-child clothes with his son, whether he was with his father or with his mother, the little sponge was in a very good state, and it could be seen that he was very close to his parents.
In fact, this can be regarded as a husband and wife who get along better with their children after divorce, even if many couples do not divorce, and the child is sick, it is likely that the mother will take it to see, and usually the father may take the child out to play together.
In fact, we found that the impact of celebrities on their children after divorce is relatively small, for example, Wang Yuelun and Li Xiang will still attend some important festivals of Wang Shiling's food together after the divorce, such as birthdays and the like. Like Faye Wong, she gave birth to a daughter in both marriages, but her relationship with her daughter is also very good, and her daughter's relationship with her father is not bad.
Why does the influence on children after the divorce of celebrities be relatively small? The main reason is that celebrities have the "three haves" characteristics
Feature 1: Rich
If both husband and wife can make money, then the divorce will be a little less because of the property, even if the divorce can't share the money, you can still earn money, then there will be fewer disputes after the divorce, and there will be less harm to the children.
And when you have money, you can take your children to play wherever you want, or you can buy a house next to your children and visit your children at any time, so that you can increase the probability of visiting your children.
Characteristic 2: Educated
It's not that celebrities have a high level of education, the main thing is that celebrities know that their children need to be accompanied, and they will also learn some parenting knowledge when they give birth, so they understand that if they want to raise their children well, it is very important to accompany their children, so raising children together after divorce is the choice of many celebrities.
Feature 3: Strength
We will find that many celebrities will not choose to remarry after divorce, or will not choose to have more children, so if they only have one child, then they will be more nervous about children.
But after many ordinary people get divorced, they may choose to remarry, and after remarrying, they will have children, so their time and energy will be scattered.
From the celebrity side, we know that if the husband and wife can't get by, try not to quarrel for the sake of the children.
After the divorce, the husband and wife should do the "three don'ts" in front of the children, which is more conducive to the growth of the children
First: Don't argue in front of your child's argument
Many couples may have a lot of conflicts and disputes in the early stage of divorce, but try not to say these in front of their children, otherwise they will make the children feel that it is their own fault that will lead to the separation of their parents.
Second: Don't slander the other person in front of your child
For a child, both father and mother are the people he loves the most, and if one of the people he loves the most goes to slander another person, it will make his heart very torn and very painful.
Third: Don't skip the other person to see the child
Husband and wife divorce, but the blood relationship cannot be separated, so if the child wants to be with his father or mother, he must allow it. #萌娃成长记#
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