Photography丨Xie Shenggang
Gentle upbringing
Editor/Yang Ying read丨Zhang Yiwen
In life, it is common to see some children who have a big temper and often make some unreasonable demands, and once their parents are disobedient, they will cry and make trouble, which not only embarrasses their parents, but also makes the people around them feel uncomfortable. This is actually because the parents are too pampered, the child's requirements are always met by the parents again and again, the child will think that no matter what he does, the parents will compromise, under the influence of this kind of thinking, the child will become more and more excessive, and the parents' trouble and pressure will become more and more great, until the conflict between parents and children breaks out.
Huanhuan is a well-behaved child, and rarely uses crying as a means to achieve his goals, because he has never succeeded once. But after going to kindergarten, I saw the successful cases of my classmates crying, so I learned and put it into practice. One day, the family cooked white porridge, but he wanted to cook a piece of noodles for him alone, and finally lay on the ground.
Mom didn't agree to his unreasonable demands, and the whole family did whatever they wanted. Grandma also cooperated very much, picked up a broom and swept the ground, and when she swept to the place where Huanhuan was lying, she said to him: "Child, lie down a little, I want to sweep the floor, don't block it, you will lie back after I finish sweeping." ”
Huanhuan moved away and continued to lie down and cry. After grandma finished sweeping the floor, she asked Huanhuan to lie back to her original place, but she didn't expect Huanhuan to really lie back and hum again. Gradually, Huan Huan finally found that other people's success stories didn't work for him, so he got up and said flatteringly: "I think the white porridge is also delicious." After saying that, he obediently ran to eat the white porridge.
In fact, many of children's behaviors are just temptations, and if they are stopped the first time, there will basically be no second time of the same behavior. Such a vexatious bad Xi habit must be stopped the first time, and it must not be allowed to happen a second time.
In the face of the child's unreasonable demand, some parents will refuse at the beginning, but once the child is soft and hard, it will not be able to resist; some families have parents who disagree, if the father refuses and the mother gives satisfaction, or the grandparents meet the requirements that the parents cannot meet, so that the child will not understand what is unreasonable demand, and will let him learn to be opportunistic.
Therefore, the opinions of parents should be unanimous, and no matter what the unreasonable request is, it cannot be satisfied. When children understand this, they will naturally not be opportunistic.
主播 | 张益闻作品选自《温柔教养》
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Editors: Huang Zehui, Wang Ying