Zhang Ming grew up in an ordinary family, and his parents were ordinary employees of state-owned enterprises.
The uncle is the elder brother of Zhang Ming's father, who holds an important position in a relatively well-known scientific research institute and has a high status.
His uncle often came to Zhang Ming's house as a guest and gave Zhang Ming a lot of advice on life and Xi.
Zhang Ming has been full of awe for his uncle since he was a child. Uncle also often introduces Zhang Ming to some useful resources.
Therefore, Zhang Ming's uncle has a high status and influence in Zhang Ming's heart. This is also an important reason why Zhang Ming was unable to resist in his heart when his uncle strongly opposed Zhang Ming's choice.
Zhang Ming has had a strong interest in airplanes and space since he was very young. Whenever a plane flew overhead, Zhang Ming always looked up, revealing a strong yearning and longing in his eyes.
When he was in junior high school, Zhang Ming began to buy some model airplanes with his pocket money and knew them well. In his freshman year of high school, the school organized a visit to the School of Aeronautics and Astronautics of Xi'an University of Technology, and Zhang Ming was deeply attracted by the advanced equipment and facilities there.
Since then, Zhang Ming has had the idea of applying for the aerospace major of Xi'an University of Technology. In three years of high school, Zhang Ming aimed at Western University of Technology, and all his Xi and life revolved around this goal.
Wake up early and go to bed late every day to memorize and learn Xi, and give up all entertainment activities. It can be said that Zhang Ming exchanged three years of time and youth for the opportunity to enter his dream school for further study, which shows his firm determination.
A month before the college entrance examination, Zhang Ming firmly expressed to his parents that he must be admitted to Western University of Technology. It just so happened that his uncle was also present at this time, and after hearing Zhang Ming's choice, he strongly objected.
My uncle thought that with Zhang Ming's academic Xi results, he could choose top universities such as Tsinghua University or Peking University, and should not go to a second-level school. After that, his uncle came to Zhang Ming's house many times and had heated arguments with Zhang Ming.
Uncle used various reasons to persuade Zhang Ming to change his mind and choose Tsinghua University and Peking University, but Zhang Ming knew his interests very well in his heart and unswervingly insisted on his choice.
The two quarreled over this issue and refused to give in to each other. The uncle also threatened Zhang Ming with "no longer recognize Zhang Ming as his nephew", which caused Zhang Ming to feel very painful in his heart.
The sound of the quarrel alarmed Zhang Ming's parents, but in the face of his uncle's tough attitude, the parents could not do anything to prevent the dispute from escalating. Zhang Ming made great efforts for his ideals, but at the last moment he encountered strong opposition from his uncle, which made Zhang Ming's originally hopeful heart for the future ripple.
After high-intensity preparation, Zhang Ming finally ushered in the first college entrance examination in his life. After the exam, Zhang Ming waited with anticrative expectations for the announcement of the results. When the results came out, Zhang Ming was excited to find that his total score had reached 690 points, far exceeding his expectations.
A score of 690 points is simply a score that many candidates dare not dream of. With such a grade transcript, Zhang Ming can choose to apply for top universities such as Tsinghua University and Peking University.
But Zhang Ming still has a longing for Xi'an University of Technology, because there is an aviation major that he has been dreaming of for many years. So even if he has achieved high scores, Zhang Ming's ideal is still to realize his dream of Western University of Technology for many years.
The controversy over the choice that occurred in Zhang Ming's family quickly spread through the Internet and attracted widespread attention. When the public learned of Zhang Ming's uncle's actions, many netizens expressed their sympathy and support for Zhang Ming.
For a time, "respecting children's own choices" became a hot topic on the Internet. Most netizens believe that it is wrong for my uncle to forcibly oppose Zhang Ming's choice like this.
First of all, Xi'an University of Technology is also a very good school, and its aerospace major can be ranked among the top three in China. It is unfair to look at Western University of Technology from a simple hierarchical perspective.
Second, every child has his or her own interests and ideals, and the right to choose his or her own future cannot be trampled on by others. It is really undeserved for the uncle to suppress the autonomy of his nephew like this.
Moreover, suppressing the true voice in the child's heart by force not only hurts Zhang Ming, but also makes Zhang Ming have a grudge against his uncle in the future. Many netizens have left messages, expressing strong condemnation of the uncle's actions, calling on him to learn to respect and guide his children appropriately, instead of simply and rudely forcing the choice.
Faced with tremendous pressure from his uncle, Zhang Ming fell into an extremely painful entanglement. He obviously has his dream of Western University of Technology for many years, and he has gained enough strength through his own efforts, which should have been his wish.
But his uncle's strong opposition and influence made Zhang Ming in a dilemma. Zhang Ming was actually very reluctant to give up his dream for many years, but after all, he couldn't resist the pressure of his uncle.
After the college entrance examination scores came out, my uncle insisted that Zhang Ming must choose Tsinghua University and Peking University, and said that he would not give in to anything. Zhang Ming tried to explain his thoughts to his uncle, but he couldn't impress his uncle's attitude.
In the entanglement of indecision, Zhang Ming still chose to compromise and filled in Tsinghua University in the volunteer. This is completely different from the graduation of Western University of Technology that he has been looking forward to for many years, and Zhang Ming's heart is full of feelings of loss and regret.
But the uncle still seems to think that his actions are right, not realizing that his actions have seriously hurt Zhang Ming's heart. After the story spread, it continued to spark heated discussions on the Internet.
This incident has caused many education experts to think that a child should have the right to choose his or her own future. Parents and other elders should try to respect the true voice of their children's hearts, and cannot simply use power to suppress their children's independent choices.
Every child has their own dreams and life plans, which take time to achieve. The experience of the parents' generation cannot be used to determine the lives of this generation of children.
The fact that a child chooses a different development path from his or her parents does not mean who is right and who is wrong. Parents need to understand their children's choices with love and give appropriate guidance, rather than forcing their children to follow in their own footsteps.
In guiding children, parents should communicate more with their children, understand their children's interests and hobbies, and give advice, rather than asking children to obey in a commanding tone.
Guide the child reasonably, and do not force the child's inner voice to be suppressed. Only when children learn to think independently and take responsibility for their own choices can they grow up healthy.
In addition, parents should also pay attention to ways and means when guiding their children. No verbal violence, let alone the threat of "severing relations". This pattern of behavior can seriously hurt the child's psyche and cause the child to be disgusted in the future.
The ideal way to guide is to think from the child's point of view and resolve differences with love.
Parents should respect and support their children when they make their own choices at critical junctures, even if the choice is not the same as they envisioned. We all want our children to be independent thinkers with the ability to take responsibility for their own choices.
Only by respecting children's hearts can they grow up healthily and better display their talents in their future lives.
Every child is an independent individual who has the right to pursue his or her own ideals and dreams. As parents and elders, we need to understand and guide our children with a loving attitude, rather than simply coercing and suppressing them with the power of authority.
Only by truly respecting children's inner voices and allowing them to learn to think and choose independently, can our children grow up healthily and happily in this complex and changeable world, and finally find their own happiness and life path.
Love and understanding are the most important forces in this process. Let us use this power to guide children to grow up and become individuals with independent personalities.