My friend asked me to send 40 catties of lychees, which cost a total of 800, and I asked him for money, but he was too expensive and refused to give it.
This incident was a small conflict between me and my friend, and it was also a change in my life.
Here's the thing, one hot summer afternoon, I got a call from a friend. He excitedly told me on the other end of the phone that he had recently discovered a particularly delicious lychee orchard, and the lychees in it were big and sweet. He knew that my family and I loved eating lychees, so he asked me to send some for me. I readily agreed.
So, I found a courier company and spent 800 yuan to mail 40 catties of lychees, because it was airborne, the price was naturally more expensive. When the lychee arrived at him, I happily called my friend and told him that I had sent it for him.
However, I didn't expect that he did not express any gratitude after receiving the lychee, but complained that the postage was very expensive, saying that I sent it rashly without asking for his opinion. I was really sad and aggrieved in my heart, because in my opinion, it was all out of kindness to my friends. But he only complained about the postage and did not say a word of thanks.
I asked him directly if he wanted to give me a part of the postage first, which cost 800 yuan. However, he actually said that the postage was too expensive, and that there were not as many lychees as he imagined, so let me forget it. I was in disbelief when I heard that. I thought to myself, does the friendship between friends need to be measured in money?
So, I hesitated for a long time on the other end of the phone, and finally just said lightly, "Okay, you can think again", and hung up. The conflict between us seems to be getting deeper, and I really don't know what to do about it.
Actually, I've known this friend for several years. He was my roommate from college, and we used to get along very well. Recently, however, he has always seemed a little different. Sometimes, he gets angry over small things and more and more shows some of his selfish and petty side. I'm really worried about him, and this change doesn't bode well.
The family also found out about this, and they persuaded me that maybe he had some problems recently that made it like this. Let me not bother with him. But, after all, getting along with friends requires mutual understanding and respect. I don't expect him to give me much money, I just hope that he can at least understand my good intentions and not always calculate the gains and losses.
Perhaps, this conflict is just a small episode, and I don't want to get worse because I have been friends for many years. I hope he can calm down and think more about others. Between friends, mutual understanding and trust are the most important things. I really don't want to ruin years of friendship over this little thing. Hopefully he will be able to figure this out as well.
Just as I struggled to rebuild our friendship, something unexpected happened.
One day, I received a call from him, and his voice became a little muffled. He told me that he was very tired recently because of the pressure of work and some family troubles. On the phone, he complained to me about many things, including work difficulties, family chores, etc. Although I sympathized with him, I felt more helplessness in my heart. Life is full of challenges and problems, and everyone has to learn to take them on and solve them.
However, when I listened to him, he did not mention our previous conflict, nor did he show any apologies. This made me feel a little disappointed. I really want to ask him, doesn't he know that our friendship needs to be maintained by both sides, and why is it that he is always concerned with talking about his own affairs and is not willing to consider the feelings of others?
I'm not sure if I should bring up the conflict between us again, it's my right, and I should keep it.
After putting down the phone, I couldn't calm down for a long time. The entanglements during this time made me question our friendship. I'm not a person who cares about gains and losses, but I've always felt that sincerity and mutual care are very important in a friendship. Although I understand that he has not been going well lately, when he ignores me, the sadness in my heart becomes more and more indescribable.
Looking at my phone screen, I was lost in thought. Perhaps, it's really time to break this friendship. It may be that my expectations for friendship are too high, after all, everyone has an insurmountable heart mark on the road to growth. I don't know if our friendship will be able to make up for the previous conflicts, and I don't know whether we should put aside these unpleasantness and move on, or whether we should make a break.
Looking at my phone screen, I was lost in thought. Perhaps, it's really time to break this friendship. It may be that my expectations for friendship are too high, after all, everyone has an insurmountable heart mark on the road to growth. I don't know if our friendship will be able to make up for the previous conflicts, and I don't know whether we should put aside these unpleasantness and move on, or whether we should make a break.
Now, I just want to be able to calm down and figure out what I really want. Perhaps, it would be better to talk about things between us when some of his emotions have calmed down. After all, after all, we have had a lot of good memories between us, and this friendship is not so easy to say goodbye.
The sudden contradiction made me feel very tired and helpless. Just as I was trying to find a way to reconcile with my friend, something even more unexpected happened.
On this day, I received a WeChat message from a friend, asking me to help relay it to another friend that his father had just passed away due to illness. I couldn't believe it at the time, because this friend and I didn't know each other very well in life and work. I had only heard that his father was sick, but never expected him to die so soon. So, I said, "I got it," and was ready to deliver the news to another friend.
However, just then, I heard a sharp cough. Looking up, I was startled by what I saw. It turned out that it was my father who was coughing desperately, his face was pale, and his forehead was covered with fine beads of sweat. I hurriedly went over to him and asked what was going on.
My father sat on the couch and panted and said, "I'm sorry, I choked on my meal in a hurry. "It turned out that he was enthusiastically working in the kitchen to cook my favorite fish, but accidentally choked on the rice in his throat.
Seeing my father like this, I have very mixed feelings. I know that my father's love for me is selfless, but in recent years, I have been too busy with work to spend much time with him. And this incident made me even more anxious. I realized that my father's physical condition really couldn't be ignored and that I had to spend more time with him and more time at home.
However, the matter of friends also tugs at my heart. I am worried that this friend will be hit by the death of his father, which will affect his work and life. He is a very strong person, but after all, he has lost his dearest father, which is a big blow to him. I'm worried that he'll take on too much on his own, so I'm going to visit him as soon as possible to help him with some of the things. After all, he has also given me a lot of support in my work and life over the years.
At this time, I felt very torn inside, I needed to find a balance between family and friends, and things turned out to be very complicated. I don't know if I can help, maybe it's a grinding, an opportunity to grow. As for the final outcome, I can't predict it, but I know that no matter what, I'm going to do my best to solve both things.
It's been a long time since I've seen you as a birthday present. This birthday means a lot to me because I met unexpected people on this day. I received a mysterious parcel that day, and when I opened it, it was filled with my favorite lychee. As a native of the South, I have to eat lychees on my birthday to be complete. The excitement is palpable, but behind the surprise is quite awkward and unpleasant.
Originally, I thought that my friend asked me to send 40 catties of lychees just because I was worried that the express delivery would not be timely, and the taste would deteriorate, but I didn't expect it to be because of an unexpected change.
In the days after I mailed the lychees, I felt quite nervous. I was confused and uneasy about my friend's attitude, words and actions. Of course, I don't want to go through such contradictions and embarrassments. However, the subtle conflicts with my friends quietly fermented in my heart.
At this point, I decided to talk to my sister. I think she might have more experience and wisdom. So, I asked my sister to discuss this annoyance after tea and dinner at home.
"Sister, what's on your mind? What's wrong?" my sister asked with concern.
"Sister, I recently had an upset incident with a friend...... I told my sister about the conflict between me and my friend. My sister listened quietly, with a hint of worry on her face, perhaps trying to give me a better advice.
"Sister, it's normal for people to have friction and contradictions. Maybe your friend has been having some troubles lately, so he's showing an unusual attitude. You give him some time, and maybe things will ease somewhat. You have to learn to be tolerant and understanding. My sister pointed out sharply.
My sister's words made me feel relieved, and they also made me more understanding and tolerant of my friends.
However, my mood was disrupted once again.
On the same day that I was talking to my sister, I suddenly received a phone call from a friend. "The lychee mailing company you gave me actually left things at my door and left, no one delivered them to my house, some lychees are broken, what the hell are you doing?" said the friend on the other end of the phone anxiously and angrily.
I was stunned because I didn't know. I'm sorry to explain that I didn't know about the courier delivery, and I also chose the home delivery service when I was handling the business at that time. However, the friend ignored it and just hung up the phone.
This sudden question made me even more confused, and it also escalated the previous conflict again. I knew that I couldn't stay silent, so I went to my friends again, wanting to communicate and communicate about the matter of Lychee again, not wanting such things to deepen the estrangement between us.
However, I didn't know how this conversation would change our relationship.
For a long time, I was confused and saddened by these changes. My family and I tried to persuade him many times, but he didn't seem to want to listen, and he became more and more self-absorbed and inconsiderate of other people's feelings.
However, I haven't found a suitable opportunity to have a good talk with him. Until one time, on my birthday, my family prepared a great dinner for me, and I invited him to join me. He thought it was a good opportunity to reconcile, but he disliked that the dinner was not rich enough, and even asked to go to a restaurant he liked twice. This made me feel very angry and disappointed. On my birthday, I just want to have a good time with my family and friends, and I don't care about what I eat.
I really don't know what to do with him and this friendship. Our relationship became more and more strained, and I didn't know whether to choose communication to solve the problem, or to choose estrangement to avoid conflict. Perhaps, I will give him a chance to have a good talk with me. I hope this conversation will change, or I might really choose to distance myself from him. For now, I need time to think it through.
Many days have passed, and that little conflict between me and my friend still doesn't seem to have been resolved. The connection between us has gradually decreased, and many times I wonder if our relationship will really change because of this small conflict.
However, my family has recently had some health problems and needs regular medical check-ups, and most of my savings have been spent on medical bills again and again. I didn't talk about it to my friend because I knew he wasn't very financially well-off. However, on the day when my family was more seriously ill, I sent him a text message telling him that I was a little nervous right now and asked him if he could help me a little.
I didn't have much hope, I just wanted someone to talk to. However, his reply surprised me a little, he said that because of his previous experience in mailing lychees, it was not convenient to help me...... This sentence seemed to be a basin of cold water poured on my heart, and I felt a little disappointed and helpless.
Perhaps, I really expected too much from him. After all, everyone's life has its own difficulties, and it may seem to him that my request was too sudden and too natural. I should probably think more about other people than what they will do for me. I really needed to sort out the relationship and also face more realistic challenges.
I'm willing to sit down with him and have a good talk, maybe that's the best way to solve the problem. I will also try to tolerate more, tolerate his stubbornness, tolerate his vexatiousness, after all, these are all part of the friendship buried deep in my heart. As for what the final result will be, it can only be left to fate. After all, family and friendship are never smooth sailing, and reconciliation and understanding also take time to precipitate. May all be well.