It was the 90s of the 20th century, when Yuan Li was first emerging in the film and television industry. Her popularity has soared because she has participated in many hit dramas, not only has a smooth career, but also has a sweet and happy love life.
Yuan Li's boyfriend's name is Xu Wei, who is 11 years older than her. As the post-80s and post-70s, there is an obvious generation gap between the two, but this has not affected the relationship between them.
Xu Wei once studied abroad, was open-minded, and poured twelve points of sincerity into Yuan Li. He will take care of Yuan Li, who is still a little immature, and he is mature and stable, and he is also the lover image that Yuan Li dreams of.
The two often have dinner, walk, watch movies together, and enjoy a long time of love. Yuan Li would lean on Xu Wei's shoulder shyly; Xu Wei will also gently embrace her into his arms.
They know each other's preferences and will prepare surprise gifts for the holidays to please each other. The depth of affection makes everyone envious.
After 12 years of being together, their relationship has gone beyond the passion of the honeymoon period to the companionship and tolerance within their ability. Yuan Li once thought with great expectations that when his career was successful, he would marry Xu Wei and grow old with him.
However, the woman's dream of proposing marriage did not materialize. Because he didn't want to wait any longer, Xu Wei chose to leave. When they broke up, Yuan Li burst into tears and couldn't extricate himself for a long time.
The bits and pieces of those 12 years have become her most touching memories. Every time he thinks about it, Yuan Li still feels a lot of emotion, and can't help but sigh at the impermanence of life. Love is the most beautiful, and if you miss it, you can't recover it at all.
This sudden separation also cast a shadow on her view of marriage. The lost lover became a scar in her heart, reminding her to stop being gullible about feelings.
In 2005, a sensational costume drama made Yuan Li meet a person, he was the male number two Zhao Ling.
The two have cooperated many times because of their roles, and Zhao Ling will always take the initiative to discuss the play and professional knowledge with Yuan Li, and gradually shorten the distance. Outside the play, they will also eat and go shopping together, and the fit between reading and movie hobbies brings spiritual intimacy.
After going back and forth, the two came together logically. They are both actors, and they understand each other's work and life. This tacit understanding prompted Yuan Li to decide to marry Zhao Linglightning.
However, the sweet period of the newlywed is fleeting, and in its place is an increasingly obvious discord. Zhao Ling has a violent personality and always yells at Yuan Li loudly, not at all like the gentle and elegant when they first met.
What made Yuan Li even more unbearable was that her father-in-law and mother-in-law commanded her and asked her to serve the family. She barely served for a while, but she couldn't fit into the family.
Zhao Ling not only failed to resolve the conflict for her, but also stood on the side of her parents again and again and treated her coldly.
"You don't have a family in your heart, it's different from me!" Zhao Ling once roared angrily. This sentence stung Yuan Li, and she realized the difference in values between the two.
However, in 2 years, Yuan Li was exhausted and filed for divorce. She could no longer endure the torture. This short marriage took a huge toll on her and took a long time to heal.
After the divorce, Yuan Li chose to remain silent. She didn't want to have any contact with Zhao Ling anymore, she just wanted to turn the page quickly. When the reporter asked the reason for the breakup, she only said that she hoped everyone would still be friends.
This failed marriage made Yuan Li more cautious about her feelings, and it also made her afraid of commitment. She didn't want to go through such pain anymore and had to live for herself.
In 2011, a Canadian lawyer named Lin Bowen appeared in Yuan Li's life. At first, Lin Bowen just helped his friend greet Yuan Li, who wanted to sign an autograph, but he didn't expect the two to talk speculatively. Lin Bowen is personable, and Yuan Li is also deeply attracted by his exotic style.
After several dates, the two confirmed their relationship. Lin Bowen romantically proposed to Yuan Li and asked her to come to Canada to marry him. Yuan Li readily agreed and decided to follow the pace of love.
After marriage, Yuan Li resolutely decided to take root in Canada, and she gave up all her career in China just to protect this relationship. At the beginning of her newlywed life, she had a husband and children, and tried to adapt to this strange home.
However, life in a foreign country is not as rosy as she imagined. The old house, the language barrier, and the days without any private space all made Yuan Li feel extremely unconscious.
What made her even more unbearable was that Lin Bowen's behavior did not look like a considerate husband at all. Not only did he ignore Yuan Li's troubles, but he also said that he was not her servant.
After four years of married life, Yuan Li lived like a walking corpse. She hated everything here, and she lost all her love for Lin Bowen. Finally, in the endure, she resolutely filed for divorce.
This seemingly beautiful foreign marriage ended in failure. Yuan Li immediately packed her bags and returned to China, vowing that she would never easily believe in so-called Western fairy tales in her life.
After this trauma, she will not give up her career and life for anyone again. Marriage must be based on mutual respect and not on the spur of the moment.
This painful lesson will never be forgotten for the rest of my life. Yuan Li, who has experienced several failed marriages, has buried a shadow in his heart that is difficult to eradicate. She didn't dare to give her heart easily, for fear of repeating the mistakes of the past.
It wasn't until 2019 that a different one appeared. His name is Liang Taiping, and he is a poet who is 11 years younger than Yuan Li.
The two met at a networking event. Liang Taiping loves literary creation and will integrate his feelings into beautiful words. His worldview is different, which makes Yuan Li feel novel.
After dating, Yuan Li was surprised to find that Liang Taiping was an extremely wise person. He has a unique analysis and insight into many things, which coincides with Yuan Li.
Two people with good hearts naturally came together. This time, Yuan Li was not impulsive, but made a decision after careful consideration. She saw Liang Taiping's personality clearly and was sure that this was the bosom friend she dreamed of.
They eventually became married and stepped into the palace of marriage. The life after marriage is plain but warm, Liang Taiping is considerate and always makes Yuan Li feel loved and understood. Years of pain have been healed in this relationship, and Yuan Li has regained the joy of being a woman.
Perhaps people understand the true meaning of life better when they reach middle age. Yuan Li admired Liang Taiping's attitude to life and philosophy of life, and saw the life he once longed for from him.
After going through the ups and downs, she finally found a confidant who could stay with her for the rest of her life. Marriage is no longer just a formality, but a place to belong that her heart really desires. This time, Yuan Li dared to say that he had found true love and could no longer linger.
Today's Yuan Li is no longer the actress who rushed to pursue fame and fortune back then. 10 years ago, she quit the entertainment industry and chose to devote herself to public welfare. She spends her time and energy helping those who are disadvantaged, rather than competing for fame and fortune.
Occasionally, the media would come to her door and ask if she wanted to return to the screen. In this regard, Yuan Li just smiled lightly, and then shook his head and refused.
"My life is now full. That's the answer she gave. Indeed, after years of experience, Yuan Li has found his true positioning. She no longer suffers from gains and losses as before, because she has seen the essence of life.
Public welfare has given her great spiritual sustenance, and looking at those lives that have become better because of herself is her greatest motivation.
In addition, there is a caring husband Liang Taiping to accompany him. He gave her a sense of stability, which made her feel more satisfying than a successful career.
Maybe people don't have too many luxuries when they reach middle age. A warm home, a simple life, and a meaningful job are enough for Yuan Li now.
She no longer has childlike fantasies about feelings like she did when she was a girl. Instead, he manages everything in front of him maturely and steadily.
After years of grinding, Yuan Li found his position. She is grateful that life has taught her these lessons, and she has finally learned contentment and gratitude.
Yuan Li's life can be described as ups and downs, she has experienced two failed marriages and paid a huge price. Those unfortunate past events once made her lose confidence in her relationship and marriage. She no longer believes in eternal love and is afraid to commit again.
However, man cannot be defined by the past. After experiencing wind and rain, Yuan Li still chose to move forward.
In the end, Heaven favored this strong woman. She met Liang Taiping and rediscovered her ability to give and receive love.
At this moment, she has the life she has always dreamed of. Simple, but also the most practical.
Looking back, Yuan Li will not regret or feel sorry for himself. Those pains made her and made her cherish the present.
She is no longer trapped by love, but has become an independent and grateful woman.
This is her own life. It's not perfect, but it's fulfilling enough.
After going through ups and downs, people will understand that the meaning of life is not only fame, fortune and success. Gratitude surrounds us, and we just need to learn to discover and cherish it.
This is also the inspiration that Yuan Li gave us. When we lose our way because we are distracted by difficult situations, remember what the essence of life is.
It is our common goal to be a warm person and live the meaning of life. It's okay not to be perfect, it's important to be yourself, fearless, kind, and loving.
I believe that no matter what happened in the past, as long as it starts today, it is never too late to be happy. We all deserve to be treated gently and live up to each new sunrise.