The famous French writer Victor Hugo, the writer who wrote the book Les Misérables, has an unforgettable event in his life, when Hugo was seventeen years old, he was engaged to the young and beautiful Adele Fouchet, and the two married at the age of twenty. Adele was a painter who gave birth to three boys and two girls for Hugo. It was supposed to be a happy family, but in 1832, the tenth year after Hugo's marriage, Adele suddenly married a new love and followed another writer. This made Hugo very painful and devastating. The following year, he met actress Juliette Drouet, and the two fell in love, which soothed his broken heart.
After Adele left Hugo, her life was not happy, and the economy was very poor for a while, almost to the point of difficulty. On one occasion, she elaborately made a wooden box with the names of four writers, Hugo, Lamartine, Dumas and George Sand, and sold it on the streets, but the asking price was too high for many days to be ignored. However, it happened that one day, Hugo, who was already a little famous, passed by and saw it, so he couldn't bear it, so he quietly asked someone to buy it, and Adel herself didn't know anything about it, and now this storage wooden box is still displayed in the exhibition hall of Hugo's house in Paris.
Coincidentally, the philosopher Rousseau also wrote about his first love in his book "Confessions", when Rousseau was eleven years old, he met Mademoiselle de Filson at his uncle's house, although she was not beautiful, but the purity and beauty of a mature girl peculiar to her body still attracted Rousseau deeply. Filson also seems to have a "liking" of Rousseau. Soon, the two fell in love like adults.
But soon Rousseau unexpectedly discovered that Filson's kindness to him was nothing more than a well-concealed deception, in order to arouse the jealousy of another man she secretly loved, so Fersom and Rousseau pretended to be in love, in Rousseau's words, feeling that his love was a subordinate work, being used by others, especially by the person he loved deeply, Rousseau's young and prematurely mature heart was filled with an incomparable anger and resentment. He vowed never to see this negative woman again. Twenty years later, however, Rousseau, who had already enjoyed a great reputation, returned to his hometown to visit his father, and on the sparkling lake, he unexpectedly met Mademoiselle Filson on a boat not far from them.
She was dressed simply, and her face was haggard and gloomy. When he returned to his hometown, Rousseau had already heard that life was not going well in Felson, and Rousseau thought about it, but still asked people to quietly row the boat away. He wrote: "Although this is a pretty good opportunity for revenge, I still don't think I should settle the old score with a woman in her forties from twenty years ago." ”
Whether it is Hugo or Rousseau, it is not difficult to imagine their grief and resentment after being ruthlessly abandoned and fooled by the people they love most. But why did the original volcanic resentment and revenge not rekindle when they reunited, on the contrary, Hugo couldn't help but stretch out a warm hand to pull her again. Rousseau chose to quietly walk away. To put it bluntly, it's still because of love.
Coincidentally, after Jin Yong's "Heaven and Dragon Slayer" was adapted by director Wang Jing, the consensus of the two big names once again vividly interpreted the love of men. Song Qingshu teamed up with Zhou Zhiruo to tease the simple Zhang Wuji, and finally forced Zhang Wuji to the edge of the cliff. Zhou Zhiruo ruthlessly waved the Heavenly Sword, cut off the cliff, and led Zhang Wuji to fall off the cliff, until after falling off the cliff, Zhang Wuji remembered what his mother told him before she died, women in this world are liars, and the more beautiful a woman is, the more you can't believe it. Later, Zhang Wuji learned the Jiuyang Divine Skill by chance, and he moved greatly with Qiankun, which can be said to be the third in the world in terms of combat effectiveness.
Although history will not be completely repeated, but it will be strikingly similar, Zhang Wuji became the third in the world, and successfully became the leader of the Demon Sect, and the five major sects worked together to besiege the Demon Sect General Altar Guangming Ding, Zhang Wuji as the leader of the sect has an unshirkable responsibility, relying on the violent combat power to overwhelm the crowd, seeing that the five major sects were defeated one after another, and it was the appearance of this Zhou Zhiruo that made Zhang Wuji feel compassion, failed to concentrate on it, and gave the enemy a fatal blow. As a result, Zhou Zhiruo was coaxed into a successful sneak attack, and a sword stabbed at the heart of the defenseless Zhang Wuji, and at the moment of crisis, Zhang Wuji used his palm to resist. In an instant, the palm of his hand was pierced by the sword, but the sword failed to reach Zhang Wuji's heart, so he narrowly escaped the catastrophe, and at the same time successfully repelled Zhou Zhiruo's attack. Zhang Wuji did not kill Zhou Zhiruo in the end, but watched her leave.
The first time was when Zhou Zhiruo used the Heavenly Sword to knock Zhang Wuji off the cliff, and the second time, it was still Zhou Zhiruo who almost pierced Zhang Wuji's heart with a sword. This is a man who has a super tolerant heart for first love, especially true love.
For example, many people will see in reality that many men are willing to give everything they have in order to win the hearts of the girls they like, and even willing to dig out their hearts and lungs, but this kind of person often makes the people around them look down on them, because licking the dog licks the dog, licking until the end is nothing. Jin Yong's characters are often so realistic, they are so similar to the men in reality, although they are famous, but the favorite in their hearts is still which one can't get it, even if she is a femme fatale, even if the venom of the femme fatale is stabbed at him, he is still obsessed.
And the so-called most poisonous woman's heart also makes the thick ink and color arranged by director Wang Jing extremely sublimated. Zhang Wuji's experience is very similar to Rousseau's use and Hugo's abandonment, but in the end, the man still chooses to forgive without a bottom line and no principles, and even if the goddess needs it, the protagonist child is willing to lend a helping hand, even if it is called Tian shameless, he will not hesitate to do it.
Some people may say that the most poisonous woman's heart is not the woman's wife, but the negative of the negative man, the most poisonous and vicious person, and the person who has lived up to the sincerity of others. But is there a conflict between these two and today's content? Aren't they all men who have been let down again and again, and have chosen to forgive again and again? Look at Zhang Wuji's roar at the sky after learning the great shift, the five major sects, I want you to pay with blood and blood, you look at Zhou Zhiruo's appearance again, Zhang Wuji was in a daze and stunned, obviously he was an enemy who did not share the sky, but he couldn't hate it at all.
We can't choose to persuade boys in reality not to choose fruitless love again and again, nor can we persuade a girl, if you meet a boy who is really good to you, if you don't love, please don't hurt. In fact, life is like this, when men are rational thinkers, when women are emotional thinkers, in fact, you have to understand that when you don't meet true love, everyone is rational thinking, but when you meet true love, who can avoid emotional thinking?
That's why there is an old saying in this world that you don't have back pain when you stand and speak, and there is no real empathy in this world. Because how can a person in authority and a bystander have a clear state of mind? unless the bystander has loved without hesitation, and the child's love for the past can be vaguely remembered. Maybe there will be a little bit of heart-to-heart connection.
Many people have a misunderstanding about love, that is, they mistakenly think that people in the world have the same attitude towards love, and the most classic description is that you want the other party to treat you like each other, you have to treat the other party first. Being in the world and falling in love is like looking in the mirror, if you smile at her, she will smile at you. But in fact I tell you, in the world of feelings everything is the opposite. Why? Because most of love is actually unrequited love.
Why lick the dog lick the dog, lick until the end is nothing? Because the girl on the other side doesn't love you, you see how you love each other? You must be willing to give your money and everything, so how will a woman treat the man she really likes? In fact, it's the same with men. So if you want to know whether a woman loves you or not, it's not about how much she spends on you, but whether she has saved you money and how much she is willing to take the initiative to pay for you.
That's why I said that most of the love is unrequited love, and men have to take the initiative to pursue in order to impress women, which shows that most men and women are actually men in unrequited love, if women pity you, so two people become, if women really don't have a good impression of you, then you are licking the dog licking the dog, licking until the end is nothing. Just like the character settings of Zhang Wuji and Zhou Zhiruo in the film, although Zhang Wuji finally reached the top of the heroes and belongs to the strongest of the strong, Zhou Zhiruo has no feelings for him, so Zhou Zhiruo still doesn't bird him, and still kills Zhang Wuji.
When true love meets no feeling, it is the beginning of tragedy in love, so men are people with more perceptual thinking, and when they see true love, there is no principle, and the humility of feelings is caused by this, and what you can't get is what you can never let go, and it's easy to let go. On the other hand, women are the same, when they encounter true love, they will be unprincipled, such as love brains, no matter how their parents stop them, they can't stop it, this is the manifestation of women's true feelings. One cry, two troubles, three hangings, and the humility of men.
The truth is that most of the feelings are unrequited love, and it is often the man who takes the initiative, so in a relationship, who is sincere, and who is the most hurt once something happens. And most women don't take the initiative, so they often have an indifferent attitude when they break up.
is like Zhang Wuji's maidservant, Xiao Zhao, although she likes Gongzi and can die for Gongzi, but Gongzi just can't look down on him, but her child is willing to die for Zhang Wuji as always. So as long as Zhang Wuji is stunned by a pair of women outside, Xiao Zhao's heart is like a knife, which is more uncomfortable than dying for Zhang Wuji.
So the secret of the relationship is the word cold, that is to say, if you want to know whether a person likes you or not, it depends on whether he or she is cold to you or not, don't say that people's enthusiasm will be disguised, you have to say, even if the two of you have known each other for a long time, he or she will still be lukewarm to you, just like Hugo to his ex-wife, Lu Jun's first love for him, it is impossible to be indifferent, and the feeling of this thing, for a long time, cannot be deceived. True love is difficult because it is an old husband and wife, it is completely cold, but there are some novel things, the other party is willing to share with you, on the contrary, the answer is not what you ask, you just don't want to answer, what about the cold war, it is deliberately alienated, hot and cold to you, that is, there are you and you are not all type, this is not love, or not love, is to make a living, there is no other reason.
And the reality of love is that most boys have chased the girl they like, as long as you are active enough. And most of the girls are married to boys they don't hate very much, but they are not their true love, and most of the girls choose to love their boys, not the boys they love. Therefore, men are very passive. This is the reason why most divorces are initiated by women, and often in a relationship, the tolerance of true love is extremely high, and the tolerance of unlove is the lowest.
And the party who really loves is willing to pay more money, and the party who doesn't love is willing to charge more money, which is why most boys can't escape the high bride price, and a small number of handsome guys, even if they don't give the bride price, there are girls who are willing to make a promise, and they don't hesitate to break with the family and marry each other. The reason for everything is who is true love and who is making up for life.
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