Dictation: Gu Rong
Author: Xiaoya
I am 45 years old and currently live in the provincial capital with my husband, mother-in-law and son.
A month ago, I was having dinner with my family when suddenly my phone rang.
I picked up my phone and looked at it, and found that it was my aunt calling, so I connected it. My aunt is 73 years old and lives alone in a small county town in her hometown.
After answering the phone, I shushed my aunt for two or three minutes, and then cut to the topic and asked my aunt what was going on with me.
My aunt didn't hide it, and said to me: "Rongrong, I'm too lonely and inconvenient to live alone, I want to come to your house to care for the elderly, I don't know if it's okay?"
On the one hand, I wanted to agree to my aunt's request from the bottom of my heart, and on the other hand, I was worried that my husband would not agree, after all, my niece had no obligation to provide for my aunt.
Besides, my aunt has children and daughters, and she has 3 grandchildren, and her economic conditions are quite good, she has a pension and a house, but she asks us to provide for the elderly, which makes me feel a little strange.
Because I didn't know whether to agree or not, I haven't been able to answer, but my husband on the side heard my aunt's words, and without saying a word, he rushed to answer: "Okay, auntie, of course we are willing." Are you coming now? I'll pick you up right away. ”
After hanging up the phone, my husband dragged me to clean up my aunt's room, and before I could figure it out, I had to ask my husband why he agreed so quickly.
My husband rolled his eyes: "You hesitated for a long time, aren't you just worried that I won't agree? What? In your eyes, I'm the kind of person who doesn't know how to be grateful? Your aunt raised you, cultivated you, let our old Zhou family have a good daughter-in-law, and helped me introduce jobs, why can't I provide for her in old age?"
Hearing my husband's words, I smiled with relief and felt relieved that I had married a sensible husband.
In fact, as my husband said, my aunt can't repay our family's kindness, and it is not difficult for her to provide for her in old age.
I have no memory of my own mother, just because I was born less than three months ago, my biological mother passed away due to illness.
According to relatives and friends, she was sick when she was pregnant with me, and she was still saved at that time, but she was unwilling to give up on me in her belly and gave up treatment. By the time I was born, her condition had deteriorated so quickly that it was too late to be treated.
After my mother died, my dad was very sad and saw me in swaddling clothes.
On the one hand, he also wants to raise me well, on the other hand, his conditions are not good, and if he keeps me, it will be difficult to marry again. At that time, my father was the only son of the Lao Gu family, shouldering the task of inheriting the lineage, and it was impossible to give up the idea of remarriage for the sake of a girl.
Eventually, at the suggestion of relatives and friends, my dad planned to give me away and chose a family that could not have children.
Before I was taken away, my aunt rushed back and hugged me: "You don't want a girl, I want to be a girl!"
And just like that, I was taken home by my aunt. Seeing my aunt bring me back, my aunt's in-laws were very unhappy, after all, who would like to raise a child who is not their own?
Fortunately, my loyal and honest uncle persuaded my parents, and their family conditions were okay and they could afford to raise them, so I was retained.
I lived in my aunt's house for ten years, and during these ten years, I had the happiest time. Although I am not their own child, my aunt and uncle treat me as their own, and I also have what my cousin has them.
When I was a child, I had a very sweet mouth, well-behaved and sensible, and when I saw my uncle's parents, I was also liked by the old man.
When I turned 10 years old, my father offered to take me home, and at this time, my aunt needed to take care of the children and make money and take care of my mother-in-law.
However, my dad took me back because he married his stepmother and gave birth to three children, and the two of them had to work in the fields, and there was no one to take them with them.
Since I returned to my father's house, my good days are gone. I am no longer a little princess held by my aunt and uncle in the palm of my hand, but a free nanny for my father's family, not only to do housework for them, but also to act according to their faces.
My aunt came to see me a few times, gave me some things, and warned my stepmother to tell her not to bully me, but my life at home only became more difficult, and my father, who married a new daughter-in-law, no longer cared about my unraised daughter, and my stepmother never gave me a good face.
Five years later, I graduated from junior high school and was admitted to high school, and I wanted to continue my education, but my father didn't want me to go to school because of the waste of money for girls, and wanted me to go out to work, so I had to cry and ask my aunt for help.
Without saying a word, my aunt came to my house with my uncle, cousin and cousin, smashed my house, and dragged me away. With the support of my aunt, I was able to continue my education and was admitted to a junior college three years later.
After graduating, I got a job, stayed in the big city, met my husband, and completely changed my fate. When I got married, because I refused to give my father's dowry from my husband, my angry father refused to attend my wedding, so I invited my aunt and uncle to have tea.
I wanted to give the dowry to my aunt, but my aunt refused to ask for it, and bought me a dowry, telling me to live a good life. My cousin "mentioned" my husband on the side and asked him to be kind to me: "Although she calls me cousin, in my heart, she is my own sister." You are good to my sister-in-law, you are my brother-in-law, otherwise don't blame us for being polite. ”
After I got married, I cut off contact with my father's family, and regarded my aunt's house as my maiden home, and I moved around a lot, and my aunt and uncle always treated me as my own daughter.
Ten years ago, my husband's company went bankrupt, he lost his job, went to many places for interviews and couldn't get a job. Faced with the dilemma of being old and young, my husband felt very anxious and was under huge mental pressure.
At the critical moment, my eldest cousin reached out and introduced my husband to his college classmate's company, so that my husband had a job and the family's financial situation was stable.
Therefore, when my aunt proposed to come to my house for the elderly, my husband agreed without saying a word.
We quickly cleaned up my aunt's room and went to pick her up in our hometown county. When I arrived, I chatted with my aunt, and my husband cleaned up my aunt's things.
After my aunt came, I finally understood the reason why she chose to come to my house for the elderly without going to her children's house. In fact, her real purpose was to help me in a different way.
In the past few years, my life has not been very good. I have a son and a daughter, a 21-year-old daughter who is in college and a 17-year-old son who is in high school.
In the beginning, my husband and I both had jobs and the family's financial situation was okay, but three months ago, my mother-in-law was in a car accident on her way to grocery shopping and lost her right leg, so I had to quit my job because I had to rely on a wheelchair to get around. Now, the pressure of raising a family is on my husband alone.
After my aunt came, she told me: "Rongrong, I came to your house to care for the elderly, and I can't eat and drink for nothing." So I'll give you five thousand dollars a month, and I'll ask you to take care of my expenses. ”
Hearing this, my husband and I looked at each other, and we didn't agree: "Auntie, you raised me, that is, my own mother, I should give you a pension, how can you ask for money?"
My aunt couldn't help but say, and directly transferred 5,000 to my WeChat, asking me to accept it quickly, saying that if I didn't give the money, she wouldn't feel at ease.
I felt helpless and quickly contacted my cousin, who told me, "I was going to take my mother over, but she wasn't happy and your cousin's house wouldn't go." We can't help it, we plan to hire a nanny for her, but your sister-in-law said that the nanny doesn't know the root and may not be reliable, and said that you haven't had a good time lately, so my mother thought about it. ”
My cousin persuaded me to accept it, saying that as long as I took care of my aunt and reassured them. In desperation, I had no choice but to accept the money.
After that, I discussed with my husband, this money must not be shirked, if my aunt is angry, it will be more troublesome, for the sake of today, we have to do our best to take care of my aunt, let her live comfortably, in order to be worthy of my aunt's hard work.
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