What kind of person can be called "calm and calm"?
"Historical Records" contains: "Those who have thunder in their chests and their faces are like a peaceful lake can worship the general." ”
There is a saying in "The Book of Rights: The Art of the Heart": "Mount Tai collapses in front and the color remains unchanged, and the elk is on the left and the eyes are not instantaneous." ”
On the road to success, many people only focus on the abilities and opportunities needed for success, but ignore the importance of "holding their breath".
As everyone knows, this is the fundamental difference between a successful person and a loser.
Those who are impetuous and impetuous will achieve nothing, and those who are calm and calm will be self-sufficient.
Calm down, Fang Cheng is a big tool.
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Keep your heart
The lotus flowers in the pond are only partially open on the first day, and they are halfway in bloom on the 29th day, and the other half is not bloomed until the last day.
Before the cicada becomes a zhi, it has to lie dormant in the ground for three years, relying on the sap in the roots of the tree to grow slowly, and then quietly climb the branches one summer night to transform into a zhi.
Trees should not grow too fast, one year as firewood, three or five years as tables and chairs, ten years and a hundred years to become a pillar.
Life, like a tree in the desert, can calm down and dig its roots deep into the soil, so that it can make subsequent efforts and draw a long branch.
Looking back at history, we will find:
Calm down is the wisdom of survival that can be applied to anyone.
After Sima Qian was tragically tortured by the palace, he calmed down and wrote a book with anger, so that he had the swan song of the historian and the "Historical Records" without rhyme;
Pu Songling, who participated in the imperial examination and failed repeatedly, chatted about gossip in loneliness and had "Strange Tales from Liaozhai", which "writes ghosts and demons";
Marie Curie immersed herself in experiments and endured more than ten years of bitterness before finally refining 0.1 grams of radium from tons of ore residue;
Liang Qichao went into exile in Japan after the failure of the reform, but he was not disheartened by the failure of the reform, but calmed down, enriched himself, and prepared for the future.
People live a lifetime, they can't have good luck forever, and they always have to go through all kinds of failures, blows, and tribulations.
In the face of darkness, calm down in order to make a difference.
Calm down one second, and hope in the next second!
02
Keep your mouth shut
Every person who can hold his breath must have experienced the days of being ridiculed, suppressed, and taught by others, must have fallen into all kinds of pits that he stepped on because he couldn't hold his breath, and must regret his inability to hold his breath, squatting down with his head in his hands, trying in vain to go back to the past, be a calm person, and stride through one big pit after another.
Only after being beaten by society will he grow into a calm person.
It's useless to talk on paper, no matter how painful the case is, it can't pierce your heart, your heart has no fluctuations, at most it's just a comment, if it were you, what would you do.
But when you turn around, you still can't hold your breath when you're faced with a similar situation yourself.
So, when you can't hold your breath, try your best to restrain yourself from talking.
What you say when you can't hold your breath often exposes your own shortcomings and makes it easy for others to see through you.
The ancients said, "A gentleman does not lose his footing in others, does not lose his color in others, and does not lose his mouth in others." ”
A gentleman should behave cautiously in front of others, be dignified in his words, and not say the wrong thing or say something that should not be said.
In social situations, the most feared thing is not to meet people, but to talk deeply. The success or failure of a matter often depends on the ability of the person speaking to say the right thing in the right place.
"When you meet people, you can't say three points, but you can't throw away all your hearts", leaving seven points of mystery, which is our gift to the world.
03
Hold the fire
General Dwight D. Eisenhower, the 34th president of the United States, was asked:
"What kind of opponent has scared you the most in your life?"
Eisenhower replied frankly: "It's his own emotions." ”
"Murmuring" reads:
Someone taunts you harshly, and you immediately respond to him bitterly;
Someone looks down on you for no reason, and you immediately despise him with contempt;
Someone shows off in front of you, and you immediately double down on you to prove that you are better;
Someone is cold to you, and you are immediately cold and distant from him.
Many times, we are fighting with ourselves for unworthy people or things, and hurting our minds and even hurting our bodies.
When you are angry, you can't hold back the fire, let your emotions spread wantonly, and eventually hurt others and yourself, and the gains outweigh the losses.
Only by being calm and unhurried can you cultivate your state of mind, become a stronger version of yourself, and handle things in an orderly manner.
When Huang Bo first debuted, he was not welcomed because of his ugliness, and in the first audition, the director actually said: "What is this, who brought him here?"
Hearing such insulting words, Huang Bo was not furious, nor did he turn away, but happily completed the role playing, and took the initiative to say to the director: "I have other ways to act, do you think it's okay?"
Everyone knows what happened later, Huang Bo became popular, won the award and became soft, and became a well-deserved "10 billion actor".
The pines and cypresses stand on the peaks of the mountains, and when the storm comes, the pines and cypresses bend down with the wind, so that they will not be broken by the wind;
The snow presses the branches, the pines and cypresses bend their branches, and the snow falls along the trend so that the branches will not be crushed.
Let the wind and waves rise, sit firmly on the Diaoyu Tai.
Only those who can hold the fire can control their own lives.
04
In the TV series "Chicken Feathers Fly to the Sky", there is such a line:
Tea is a good thing, absorbing the essence of heaven and earth, occupying all the five elements of gossip, gold, wood, water, fire and earth, there is nothing it does not occupy.
But it also suffered from the human torment, exposed to the wind and rain, and finally fried in an iron pot and blistered in boiling water, which can soak its aroma.
People walk in the world, just like "the life of tea". Only by calming down and going through thousands of tempers can we feel the sweetness of the feedback of the years.
Hurry things slowly, slow things do things quickly, things are slow, things are slow, things are slow.
The more urgent the matter, the more important it is to weigh the pros and cons before making a decision.
Don't be anxious when you are not satisfied, and when you have regrets, be kind to those regrets.
Persistently pursuing a round life may not necessarily truly understand life.
Go to the poor place of the water, and sit and watch the clouds rise. Only by holding your breath can you go further.