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We always think that humility can be exchanged for respect, flattery can be gained, and concession can be used to maintain peace.
However, the fact is that any compromise and grievance that goes beyond the principle will run counter to our original intention.
People who treat you well will not like the way you grovel, and people with malicious intentions will only continue to laugh at you after you have lowered your dignity.
In this world, what really makes people stand in the world is our own strong ability, and our noble character of not being humble or arrogant, and keeping our original intention.
When you have enough value and sparkling charm, you don't have to be too proactive, others will come and make friends with you.
Therefore, in interpersonal relationships, if you don't owe others, you don't have to be submissive, which will be looked down upon by others, and maintaining your own demeanor can make you always respected.
01: The more submissive people are, the more they will be bullied
In "The Moon and Sixpence", Maugham portrays an extremely kind character, Strov.
He is often bullied by the people around him, but he always laughs it off, and even if he is bitten by a poisonous snake, he has to hold it in his arms.
He thought that he would be able to exchange for the kindness of others by giving in like this, but the result was the opposite, when others saw his humble and flattering appearance, they felt that this person was easy to bully, and from then on he was unscrupulous.
Even in the relationship, he suffered from his wife's neglect and was finally betrayed.
To endure the calm for a while, take a step back and open the sky, it is necessary to divide the situation.
In the case of not exceeding the principles and bottom line, we can occasionally back down and tolerate others, but if you have sacrificed your dignity and lowered your status, then you are a clown in their eyes, and you can be manipulated by others and bullied by others.
Especially when you have nothing, even if you are humble to the dirt, no one will look up to you.
They will only think that you are incapable and spineless, and in the end it is you who is hurt, and you are the one who wastes time, and all efforts are meaningless.
It is better to maintain dignity and assert yourself from the beginning.
People and fellowship see each other's value, and this society will only accept people who have the ability.
Only by using your time to improve yourself can you have an eternal voice, and at that time, it is natural that someone will look up to you.
We will no longer play a supporting role in other people's lives, but play the leading role in our own world, and this drama of life will become more and more exciting, and you will also receive full applause.
02: Make yourself strong, and the whole world will be pleasant
A person who always considers the feelings of others, even sacrificing himself for the sake of others, is not really good.
They treat others well but treat themselves badly, which is putting the cart before the horse.
As a saying on the Internet: If you can't love yourself well, then others won't love you.
Never try to please others because of cowardice, let alone be embarrassed to reject others, others may not consider your feelings, so why should you care what they think.
Sincerity can only be reserved for the right people, and kindness can only be used on people who are equally kind, otherwise it will consume energy.
Interpersonal relationships do little to help in life, and improving ability is the only way to make the world happy.
No one can give you the life you want, and pleasing you is only hurting yourself, how much ability you have, how broad your life is.
How wronged you were in the past, you can laugh it off, and from now on, don't waste any more time.
Study Xi hard, work to make money, and please yourself.
When you succeed, you don't have to cling to anyone, the world will take the initiative to please you.
This will make it easier for you and your life will be simpler.
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