Introduction:
Blind date is a traditional way of communication under the concept of marriage, and everyone has their own expectations and requirements. However, in modern society, the process of blind date is full of all kinds of embarrassments and strange things. For a 38-year-old female master like Xiangxiang, her requirements seem to be different from those of other blind dates. However, her ideas attracted ridicule and disdain from the man. This article will use Xiangxiang's experience as a clue to describe some episodes in the blind date process, and explore women's marriage concepts and family pressures in modern society.
Xiangxiang's blind date process
Xiangxiang, a 38-year-old female master's degree, finds it increasingly difficult to find a compatible partner through blind dates due to her age and education. She had a successful blind date, but in the end she did not enter the palace of marriage. Although Xiangxiang has accepted the reality that she will die alone, her family continues to arrange blind dates for her. Most of the blind dates introduced by her mother are divorced or widowed, and they also have children, which makes Xiangxiang feel dissatisfied. However, Xiangxiang's mother always refused to give up and strongly asked her to participate in the blind date.
Xiangxiang's blind date experience was full of strangeness and embarrassment. Some people asked her to pay her salary, some asked her not to work after marriage, and even worse, some asked her to be a virgin. These strange requests made Xiangxiang unacceptable, and she began to lower her expectations for blind dates. However, even if her criteria for choosing a mate are lowered, she still struggles to find a suitable partner. Xiangxiang's family was very worried about her marital status and kept introducing her to blind dates, but she always insisted on her decision.
Family pressures and social attitudes
Xiangxiang's family is very anxious about her marital problems, and they believe that they are married to be taken care of in the future, regardless of the other party's conditions. They even asked Xiangxiang to marry a divorced man with children, hoping to solve their worries in this way. However, Xiangxiang resolutely opposes this kind of marriage, she is unwilling to become someone else's stepmother, and she is even more unwilling to compromise her married life to the other party's children.
This kind of family pressure is something that many women in modern society face. As women grow older, their ideas about marriage and family pressures are often challenged. On the one hand, the family hopes that their daughters can start a family as soon as possible and give them a stable future, and on the other hand, women themselves also hope to find a suitable partner and live the life they want. The contradictions and conflicts between these two ideas often leave women entangled and troubled.
Self-acceptance and self-confidence rebuilding
Xiangxiang encountered a lot of criticism and ridicule during the blind date, which made her doubt her own conditions and charm. However, through experience and reflection, Xiangxiang gradually realized that his own value should not be determined by others, but by himself. She was no longer willing to settle for herself, no longer pinning her happiness on marriage, but began to try to find her own happiness and satisfaction.
Xiangxiang realized that marriage was not her only way out of life, and she could pursue the life she wanted through her own strength. She began to focus on her career and hobbies, and constantly improved her abilities and qualities. She regained her confidence in herself, no longer feeling like a loser, but bravely pursuing her own happiness.
Through the story of Xiangxiang, we can see the concept of marriage and family pressure faced by women in modern society. However, we should also recognize that everyone has different pursuits and values, and we cannot pin our own happiness on others. Blind dates, whether successful or not, should not be the only criterion for a woman's happiness. Instead, women should find their own happiness and fulfillment and strive for the life they want. Only in this way can self-acceptance and self-confidence be truly rebuilt.