The essence of sibling relationships is not in parties and borrowing money
We often think that the closest expression of sibling relationship is to eat, drink, and gather often, and to borrow money from each other to help each other when times of difficulty. This seems to be a yardstick for measuring whether the relationship is good or not.
However, beneath this surface, a truly strong relationship still needs to be tested.
Brothers and sisters eat, drink and have fun together on weekdays, and they are happy on the surface, but if something really goes wrong, they may not be able to.
The issue of inheritance distribution and benefits was put on the table, and the smiling face disappeared immediately. It turns out that people who are full of food, when they mention money, they are red-eyed, and even turn their faces and don't recognize people.
In the same way, isn't it possible for brothers and sisters who borrow money from each other on weekdays to break up because of "borrowing money"? In particular, "borrowing becomes an enmity" is even more heartbreaking.
It can be seen that the sibling relationship that often gathers and borrows money to help on weekdays seems to be intimate on the outside, but it is not as strong as imagined in the bones. None of this is the most essential manifestation of the relationship.
True love needs to be tested at a more critical moment.
Wang Wei and Wang Jin, who do not compete for profit at home
The Tang Dynasty poet Wang Wei was convicted by the emperor for being involved in the Anshi Rebellion and faced the fate of beheading. At this moment, Wang Wei's younger brother Wang Jin stood up and did not hesitate to give up his official position, just hoping to save his brother's life.
This spirit of sacrificing one's life for righteousness is admirable.
Afterwards, Wang Wei deeply felt the kindness of his younger brother and took the initiative to write to the emperor, asking for a pardon for Wang Jin's official position and allowing his younger brother to return to Beijing to reunite with him. The brotherhood revealed between the lines is deeply touching.
In fact, before this incident, the two brothers were already like glue. Wang Wei was a famous man in the dynasty, and Wang Jin made great contributions on the battlefield of quelling the Anshi Rebellion and was appreciated by the emperor.
Originally, the two brothers were a scholar and martial artist, and it can be said that they have achieved fame and a smooth career.
But when they were separated, they fought because of the ownership of a tree. The so-called "same."
The roots are frying each other, why is it too anxious". Eventually, they reflected and realized that brotherhood is the most precious thing.
This also laid the foundation for Wang Wei and Wang Jinneng to sacrifice their lives for righteousness in the future.
Blood is thicker than water, and the brotherhood of flesh and blood is stronger after this "test", and there is nothing in the world that can compare it. This is the true meaning of "time at home is not profitable".
Su Shi and Su Zhe, who are still inseparable after going out
Su Shi was demoted to Huangzhou because of his involvement in the Wutai poetry case, and Su Zhe immediately rushed to help after learning about it, and wrote that the emperor was willing to share weal and woe with his brother Su Shi. This brotherhood is moving.
Later, Su Zhe was also implicated in the demotion, and although the two brothers were in a different place, they still expressed their thoughts and concerns for each other through frequent correspondence.
The two poured out their hearts in the letter, and the words revealed deep emotion. Su Shi said, "I wish people a long time, thousands of miles together", which shows how much he misses his younger brother; Su Zhe said that "everyone has a heart of compassion and filial piety", expressing his sincerity and sincerity to save him by all means.
Many years have passed, Su Zhe is going to go out on a business trip to Liao, Su Shi still can't help but worry after hearing about it, and said, "The sea of clouds looks at each other and sends this body, and it is more stained because of the distance." Life and death, they truly achieved life and death, honor and disgrace.
Before Su Shi died, he specially instructed his younger brother Su Zhe to write a sacrifice for himself. This kind of trust and delivery can only be achieved between close relatives.
The lifelong relationship between the Su brothers can be described as a model of siblings.
The love between relatives does not have to be more serious
Whether it is Wang Wei, Wang Jin, or Su Shi and Su Zhe, these two pairs of brothers have shown a brotherhood at a critical moment. Of course, there are few saints in the world, and there will still be some calculations or misunderstandings on weekdays.
But the relationship between relatives should not be easily broken, and no profit calculation should be based on siblings.
As Huang Zongxi's famous words are quoted at the end of the article: "Between flesh and blood, a little more is thick, and there is more family affection, and right and wrong don't have to be too clear." "Brotherhood is worth preserving and cherishing.
It is inevitable that there will be some uneven division of interests or misunderstandings between relatives, but they can be run-in. It's not worth it to have money and possessions.
What's more, the kindness and affection between relatives are difficult to calculate clearly. You come and go, and the feelings that arise are invested by both parties. There is no need to be serious, even if the contact is broken, the family will still be reunited during the New Year.
This is the relationship between flesh and blood, not as thin as the skin of the teeth. Instead of not giving an inch, it is better to be tolerant and understanding, and to be more considerate and tolerant, in order to win a long-term brotherhood.