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My name is Li Feng, I am 45 years old this year, and I am an ordinary office worker. My mother's name is Liu Meifang, and she is in her 70s this year. My mother has been living with me all these years, and I have always tried my best to take care of her life.
However, my mother has suffered from Alzheimer's disease in recent years, and her memory has become worse and worse, and it has become more and more difficult for me to take care of her alone. A few days ago, my mother turned on the gas in the house overnight, and it almost became dangerous. I was so anxious that I didn't know what to do.
In desperation, I contacted my mother's eldest brother, that is, my father-in-law, Uncle Wang, and explained my mother's current situation in detail, asking him if he could take her in and give her a warm home.
"Hey, Fengfeng, you said your mother is in a bad situation? On the other end of the phone, Uncle Wang's voice sounded very concerned.
I sighed heavily, talking about my mother's relapse over the years, and the plight of me being unable to continue to provide care alone. Uncle Wang listened quietly, interjecting a few "um" words from time to time to show understanding.
After chatting for half an hour, Uncle Wang finally spoke: "Fengfeng, don't worry, your mother will leave it to me." My aunt and I will take good care of her. ”
I said excitedly, "Uncle Wang, thank you so much! I really can't continue to take care of my mother, I feel much more relieved to have you to rely on me." ”
"Okay Fengfeng, we are a family, don't be so polite. Your mother raised me, and I can still do this little thing. "I was very touched by Uncle Wang's words.
So, a few days later, I sent my mother to Uncle Wang's house and started to live. Uncle Wang's family lives in a house on the outskirts of the city, and the environment is quiet. Uncle Wang has retired at home, and Aunt Wang is still working as a nurse in the village hospital. Their daughter, Xiaofang, is 18 years old and a lively and cheerful college student.
At first, my mother was not very comfortable with the new environment, and often asked me "when will we go home", but under the careful care of Uncle Wang and Aunt Wang, my mother gradually became familiar with life here. Xiaofang often chatted with her mother, and her mother gradually regarded her as her granddaughter. I would call home every week to say hello, and my mom was always happy to talk to me about my new life here.
I will also remit 3,000 yuan per month to Uncle Wang on time, hoping to share some of the expenses of taking care of the elderly.
Uncle Wang has always said repeatedly that it is appropriate to take in the elderly, so that I don't have to give too much money. But I still send 3,000 yuan to him every month, which is what I should do.
In this way, under the care of Uncle Wang's family, my mother spent three years of peace. Until one day, Uncle Wang suddenly called, and his tone was a little hesitant:
"Fengfeng, the situation on my side is a little different. Let's see if you can add a little more to your living expenses every month, 3,500 yuan should be fine. ”
I was a little surprised: "Uncle Wang, isn't 3,000 yuan a month enough? ”
I was lost in thought. Indeed, the cost of living has risen a lot in recent years, and taking care of the elderly is also very energy-consuming. But to add 500 yuan, it is more stressful for me.
"Uncle Wang, I also understand your difficulties, but can you maintain the status quo first? My side to add 500 yuan is also a challenge to my life. "I tried to express it as much as I could.
"Fengfeng, you also have to put yourself in our shoes. After so many years, we have given so much, you should add a little more, right?" Uncle Wang's tone began to harden.
"Then you're going to pick up your mom and go back!" Uncle Wang suddenly raised his voice, "I'm tired too, if you don't want to add money, take care of your mother yourself!"
I was silent. I was shocked that Uncle Wang asked so excitedly. We had never had an argument with each other, how could he suddenly say such a thing?
"Uncle Wang, calm down. I'll come by car and we'll talk face-to-face. "I tried to keep my tone calm.
"Come on, we'll talk about it then. Uncle Wang said in a stiff tone.
I hung up, my mind jumbled. Uncle Wang has helped me a lot in the past three years, and I should certainly be grateful. But the increase of 500 blocks at a time was really too sudden, and it took me time to get used to it.
However, what worries me even more is why Uncle Wang's attitude has suddenly become so tough? I have to go over and see for myself what happened to my mother.
When I arrived at the door of Uncle Wang's house, I took a deep breath and rang the doorbell.
"It's coming, it's coming!" I heard Uncle Wang's voice.
The door opened, and Uncle Wang still had yesterday's displeasure on his face: "Fengfeng, you are here." Come in and talk about it. ”
I followed Uncle Wang into the house, and I saw my mother sitting on the sofa, next to Aunt Wang and Xiaofang.
"Mom!" I hurriedly stepped forward and hugged my mother.
"Son, why are you here?" Mom said happily.
"Let's see how you're doing. "I looked at my mother carefully, she seemed to be in good spirits and should be doing well.
"I'm doing well, they are very good to me, Xiaofang chats with me every day, I feel like I've lived a teenage year now!" Mom said with a smile.
"Really? That's good. I breathed a sigh of relief and turned to Uncle Wang, "Uncle Wang, can I talk to you alone?"
"Okay, go to my room. Uncle Wang nodded.
I followed Uncle Wang to his room, closed the door and sat down.
"Uncle Wang, to tell you the truth, I was shocked by your phone call yesterday. I have taken care of me and my mother for more than three years, and you don't have to be so excited. I tried to be as calm as I could.
"I understand, but I can't add so much at once, right? Why don't we increase it gradually in installments, by 100 yuan per year?" I came up with a compromise.
At this time, the door was suddenly pushed open, and the mother helped Xiaofang walk in.
"Son, you listen to Uncle Wang, don't worry about money. Mom said.
Xiaofang also followed and said, "Uncle, don't go, I'll be very sad to take my grandmother away." ”
I looked at my mother, and then at Xiaofang, with mixed feelings in my heart.
I thought my mother was having a bad time, but now it seems that she is living happily here. Am I really too impatient?
"Mom, it's even harder for me to say this. It's not that I don't give money, but it takes time to adapt to such a big change. I sighed and turned to Uncle Wang, "Uncle Wang, can you give me two more days to think about it? ”
Uncle Wang pondered for a moment and nodded: "It's okay, you can think about it again." But don't delay too long, we have our own difficulties. ”
"Thank you, Uncle Wang. I understand. ”
So I left Uncle Wang's house, but my heart was still very entangled. I've been thinking about this question a lot these days. I am really grateful to Uncle Wang's family for taking care of me and my mother over the years. But $500 is also a lot of money for me.
Two days later, I called Uncle Wang, and it was still the same proposal: "Uncle Wang, I thought about it again, if it is increased by 100 yuan a year, it will be more suitable for both parties." Do you think it's okay?"
Uncle Wang on the other end of the phone was silent, and after a long time, he said, "It's okay, just do it." ”
I breathed a sigh of relief and thanked Uncle Wang for his understanding. I suddenly realized that I had only thought about myself before, and I didn't think about the problem from Uncle Wang's point of view. It is indeed very hard to take care of the elderly, and I should thank Uncle Wang's family for their efforts over the years.
So I said, "Uncle Wang, I didn't think about it well before. I should be grateful for all the years you have worked so hard. We will solve the problem of money slowly, and you will continue to take care of your mother. ”
"Well, we're a family, don't worry about it. You can also come and see Mommy. Uncle Wang's tone finally relaxed.
I hung up, a sense of relief rising in my heart. Communication is the most important thing in the relationship between people. I shouldn't blame Uncle Wang just for a momentary emotion, but I should understand it from his point of view.
I learned a lot from this incident. I have to learn to communicate with others and understand everyone's difficulties, not just myself. Be grateful for the help of others, not for what you should be. I also have to go home often to visit my mother, and I can't just send money.
The dispute during this period of time made my relationship with Uncle Wang even closer. I will continue to be grateful to Uncle Wang's family for taking care of my mother and often go home to visit.
Thanks to their help over the years, I can work with peace of mind and no longer worry about my mother's life.
After another year, I remitted 3,100 yuan a month to Uncle Wang as promised. Although it has increased by 100 yuan, it is not unbearable for me.
On this day, I took a special leave to go home for my mother's birthday.
"Hey, Uncle Wang, I came back today to celebrate my mother's birthday, and I prepared gifts and longevity noodles, I hope you will also celebrate together. I said happily to Uncle Wang.
"Okay! Your mom will be pleased. Uncle Wang also seemed very happy.
I bought clothes and nutritional products that my mother liked as gifts, and I even made longevity noodles on the train. When I arrived at Uncle Wang's house, as soon as I opened the door, my mother was already standing at the door.
"Son!" My mom hugged me excitedly.
"Mom, happy birthday!" I also hugged my mother tightly.
Uncle Wang and Aunt Wang also came over to hug their mother, and Xiaofang happily held her mother's hand. This birthday was spent warmly in my mother's smiling face.
In the evening, as the family sat around the dinner table, I couldn't help but feel emotionally moved when I saw my mother's happy appearance.
"Mom, I'm sorry I couldn't stay with you all the time. Fortunately, with Uncle Wang's family taking care of you, you can live happily, and I am grateful as a son. ”
"Son, I've always been happy. Don't blame yourself, just come back to see me often. "My mother looked at me lovingly.
"Thank you family for taking care of me all these years, I will be back often. "I said to Uncle Wang's family from the bottom of my heart.
"We're a family, don't be so polite. Uncle Wang smiled and patted me on the shoulder.
At this moment, I felt the warmth of home and the preciousness of the emotions between people. I will continue to work hard and go home regularly to visit my mother and Uncle Wang's family. I am grateful for the help and love they gave to my mother and me.
In life, gratitude is the most important thing. I will remember what this experience taught me in life.
Look at life with a more tolerant attitude and cherish the bits and pieces with your family.
After another two years, my mother's condition was already very serious, and she often couldn't recognize me and Uncle Wang. But her life is still very regular, walking, chatting, and watching TV every day in the company of Uncle Wang and Xiaofang.
I called home that day, and my mother happened to recognize me:
"Hey, son, when are you coming back?" Mom said excitedly on the phone.
"Mom, I'll go back to see you in a few days, tell me if there's anything you want to eat, and I'll bring it over. ”
"Just bring some of the delicious food you made when you were a kid. Mom said like a child.
"Okay Mom, take care of yourself, I'll go back soon. ”
I was glad my mom still recognized me and decided to go home again over the weekend. Over the years, I have tried to go back once a month to spend time with my mother.
On Saturday, I came to Uncle Wang's house as promised, and my mother saw me and hugged me excitedly: "Son, you are here!"
"Mom, I brought you a lot of delicious food. "I took out carefully prepared snacks, fruits and other foods that my mother loved to eat.
"Great, let's eat together. "Mom is as happy as a child.
In this way, I spent a warm weekend with my mother. Sitting and chatting with Uncle Wang's family made me feel the warmth of home that I had not seen for a long time.
Before leaving, I solemnly said to Uncle Wang, "Uncle, I am grateful for your care of me and my mother over the years. In the future, I will work harder to earn money and make my mother's life better. ”
Uncle Wang patted me on the shoulder: "We are a family, don't see each other like this." Just come back and see Mom more often. ”
"谢谢你,叔。 "我紧紧地拥抱了王叔。
On the road of life, I am grateful to everyone who cares about me. I will keep in mind the kindness of Uncle Wang's family and live and work with a more positive attitude.
When you grow old, happiness is to have a warm home. I sincerely thank Uncle Wang for giving my mother a warm home and letting her live in life