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My name is Bai Mei, I am 28 years old and I am a primary school Chinese teacher. Two years ago, my husband Xiaolong passed away in a car accident at the age of 30. Xiaolong was my college classmate, and we got married after four years of dating. Married life should have been happy, but unfortunately the good times didn't last long, and Xiaolong suddenly left me like that.
After Xiaolong left, I lived alone for two years. These two years have been very difficult for me, and I miss Xiaolong very much. The huge house was empty, and every day when I came home, I seemed to see the figure of the little dragon.
My parents-in-law have always cared for me. They often called me and asked me to come to their house more often. "Mei'er, you live a hard life alone, you have to come to our house more often, we are all a family. "My mother-in-law always told me that.
A few days ago, my mother-in-law called again and said that they had something important to discuss with me. So I went to their house on the weekend, and as soon as I entered the door, my mother-in-law took me by the hand and said, "Mei'er, you have been widowed for two years, and it is time to consider continuing." You're still young, you can't just live forever. ”
I knew that my mother-in-law cared about me, but I couldn't accept her advice for a while. I shook my head and said, "Mother-in-law, I can't accept being with others now, I only have Xiaolong alone in my heart." ”
I heard what my mother-in-law meant, and she wanted me to consider giving birth to Xiaolong's flesh and bones, that is, giving birth to a posthumous child. I was amazed that my mother-in-law would have such an idea.
"Mother-in-law, I know you miss Xiaolong, but it is impossible to leave a belly. I'm not going to have children right now, and I don't plan to stay a widow. I think I'll remarry. "I firmly rejected my mother-in-law.
When my mother-in-law heard me say this, tears welled up in her eyes: "Mei'er, you refuse to help."
I was also sad to see my mother-in-law crying like this. The father-in-law persuaded her mother-in-law on the side: "Wife, we can't force Mei'er, this matter depends on her own thoughts." ”
I know that my in-laws miss Xiaolong very much now, and I hope to have his flesh and blood to continue the incense. I comforted my mother-in-law softly: "Mother-in-law, I miss Xiaolong too, but it is not advisable to rush to give birth to a child." I'll think about it. ”
After that, I took my leave. When I got home, I had mixed feelings. I understand my in-laws' thoughts, but I'm really not ready to be a mother again. What's more, the father of this child is no longer there, and I have to take full responsibility alone, which scares me.
A few days later, my good friend Xiaofang came to visit me and I told her about it. Xiaofang is my best friend, and she was surprised when she heard what happened to me.
"Oh, your in-laws are really good, how can they make such a request for you! You are still so young, and you will definitely find the right person to remarry in the future. Xiao Fang said disapprovingly.
I sighed: "I understand my in-laws' thoughts, but this is really too sudden for me. I'm also struggling. ”
"Mei'er, you must think about your own happiness. What you need most now is to look forward, work well, and meet new people. Believe that the right people will always be there. "Xiaofang encouraged me.
I nodded, and Xiao Fang's words made me figure it out a lot. I can't let my in-laws' pleas mess with my life.
After a while, I gradually moved out of my sadness and became busier at work. Occasionally I meet people on social media, but none of them develop into a relationship. My life is back on track.
I can't believe they did this without me. I was so angry that I immediately called my mother-in-law and confronted her.
"Mother-in-law, how can you find a surrogate mother without consulting me? I have clearly refused this request!" I asked my mother-in-law very angrily.
"Mei'er, listen to my explanation, our old couple really missed Xiaolong so much, so we thought that we would keep his flesh and blood no matter what, so we found a surrogate mother by ourselves. We're desperate too, so forgive us two old people. The mother-in-law pleaded.
"It's so unfair to me just because of your own selfishness and not taking into account my feelings. I'm doing well right now, and you're just messing up my life!" I strongly expressed my dissatisfaction.
"Mei'er, we know it's wrong, you should think we're old fools. But now that the child is here, you should raise him for the sake of Xiaolong, and we will also take full responsibility. "My father-in-law also persuaded me.
I sighed, "I need time to think about it." But the matter of children will definitely not be so simple, and my plan to remarry has been ruined. ”
Hanging up the phone, I sat alone in the room for a long time. I was very entangled, on the one hand, I understood my in-laws' intentions, but on the other hand, I couldn't accept their arbitrary behavior. I was so young that I could have started a new life, but now I was forced to raise a child I didn't want to have.
A few days later, Xiaofang came to see me, and I told her how things were going. Xiao Fang held my hand sympathetically: "Mei'er, I'm really sad that this kind of thing happened. But now that you have the child, you may want to consider adopting him, as long as the in-laws can afford the main responsibility. ”
"But I really don't know if I can fall in love with this child, and I even resent his existence a little. I said.
"Life is innocent, and this child should not bear any resentment. Maybe you can slowly learn to love him and believe that you can be a good mother. "Xiaofang encouraged me.
After much thought, I finally made up my mind to adopt this child. He exists after all, and I can't just throw away an innocent life.
In this way, after the birth of the child, my in-laws personally carried him to my house. The moment I saw the baby, my heart couldn't calm down for a long time. He slept in swaddling clothes, little ones, but he was born into this world because of the mistakes of our adults.
"Mei'er, this is the flesh and blood of you and Xiaolong, hug the child quickly. "My mother-in-law handed me the swaddling clothes.
I took a deep breath and carefully picked up the whimpering little being. The moment I held it in my arms, my heart suddenly softened.
"He's so small, but he's healthy, isn't he?" I couldn't help but ask.
"Yes, the child is healthy and the doctor said he is developing well. "My mother-in-law looked at us with relief.
I looked at the child's closed eyes, small nose, and soft little hands, and somehow an indescribable feeling rose in my heart.
"The child will be handed over to you in the future, and we will bear all the expenses, so you can raise him as your own son. The father-in-law said.
I shook my head and said, "I'm going to need time to get used to all of this, and there's no guarantee I'll keep him yet." Please take the children back first and give me a few days to think about it. ”
In the days that followed, I was stuck in a deep self-struggle. Adopting a child has had too much impact on my life, but I can't bear to push an innocent life away like this.
Xiaofang came to see me from time to time and encouraged me to think about myself. "Mer, I understand your heart, but you also have to plan for your future. It's not too late, you can talk to your in-laws again and let them think of other ways. ”
I knew Xiaofang cared about me, but I just couldn't make up my mind to reject this child. Finally, one day, I called my in-laws.
On the other end of the phone, the mother-in-law was so excited that she couldn't speak: "Mei'er, you are really our good daughter-in-law! We know that you will not let Xiaolong's flesh and blood be homeless." ”
So, when I was 28 years old, an unrelated child suddenly became my adopted son. I named him Mingbao and held him every day to feed, change diapers, and sleep. At first, I was a little rusty, but gradually, I also developed a mother's love for Mingbao.
I started taking Mingbao to the park to play, make him laugh, and watch him grow up. Mingbao also became more and more clingy to me, often opening his little arms to ask me to hug.
One day, when I was breastfeeding Mingbao, he suddenly smiled sweetly, and I couldn't help but cry.
"Baby, Mommy will always love you and protect you. I whispered to Mingbao.
I began to truly accept Mingbao and treat him as my own child. I am determined to give him the best care and education so that he can grow up healthy and happy.
Time flies by, and in a blink of an eye, Mingbao is already 3 years old. He turned into a lively and cute little boy who made me happy every day.
One day, Mingbao said to me, "Mom, I love you!" I was so excited that I picked him up and spun him around, and I knew that he had completely recognized me as a mother.
I also gradually accepted my in-laws, and I would take Mingbao back to see them regularly. The in-laws loved Mingbao very much and became his grandparents.
"Mei'er, thanks to you for accepting Mingbao, we now have happy things every day. My mother-in-law said to me gratefully.
"I really think of him as my own kid now. I laughed.
When Mingbao was five years old, I took him to the playground to play. He happily sat on the merry-go-round and beckoned to me: "Mom, look at me!"
I couldn't help but cry again, and the happiness of this moment came spontaneously. I know that my life will no longer be lonely because I have the source of happiness in Mingbao's home.
After Mingbao entered primary school, his grades were very good, and he was a good student praised by his teachers. I love him even more, often accompany him to do his homework, and take him to the playground and park on weekends.
I will also mention his biological father in front of Mingbao. "Baby, your biological father is a wonderful man, and he will be very proud of you. ”
Mingbao nodded and said, "Mom, I will definitely be as good as my father when I grow up." ”
I believe that Mingbao will definitely be a good boy, and the spirit of Xiaolong in the sky will also bless him.
Watching Mingbao grow up day by day, I feel extremely relieved and happy. He is 10 years old, has top grades, is smart and sensible, and is recognized by everyone as a good boy.
Yesterday after school, Mingbao said to me, "Mom, I want to ask you a question. What kind of person is my biological father?"
I was stunned for a moment, and said with a smile: "Your biological father's name is Xiaolong, and he is a very good person. He is very handsome, has good grades, and majored in computer science in college. ”
"What about his character, why do you fall in love?" Mingbao asked curiously.
"Your biological father has a very good character, is very responsible, and is very good to me. We were college classmates and later met when we participated in club activities. I reminisced about the past and couldn't help but feel emotional.
Mingbao nodded, and asked again, "Then why did he leave you and me so early?"
With tears in my eyes, I whispered, "It was an accident, your biological father died in a car accident." He left so suddenly that he didn't have time to say goodbye to us. ”
Mingbao was silent, and after a long time he hugged me and said, "Mom, I'm sorry, I shouldn't have asked this to make you sad." ”
I touched Mingbao's head and smiled, "It's okay, Mom is glad you asked me this." Remember, your birth father will always love you and bless you. ”
From that day on, Mingbao became more concerned about his biological father. He would take the initiative to look at the pictures of Xiaolong and ask me more about him.
Once, we went to sweep Xiaolong's tomb, and Mingbao reverently offered bouquets and thoughts in front of the tomb. "Dad, I will study hard Xi and strive to be a son you are proud of. Mingbao said, tears welling up in his eyes.
I also had red circles in my eyes and whispered to Xiaolong's tombstone: "Xiaolong, our son has grown up, he is so good, he will definitely become your proud son." ”
Since then, Mingbao has become more and more impressed with Xiaolong, who has become his eternal father and idol.
Now Mingbao is 18 years old and is about to graduate from high school. He was admitted to a very good university and became the pride of our family.
Yesterday, my in-laws called and said excitedly: "Mei'er, thank you for raising Mingbao so well! ”
"It's all Mingbao's own efforts, and I'm very happy for him. I laughed.