Today is a special day, my mother and I are preparing dinner at home, and my mother is standing in front of the stove to show off her cooking skills, busy from time to time, smiling. I was fiddling with a pot of greenery next to me, for fear of disturbing my mother's cooking. Suddenly, my mother put down the kitchen knife in her hand, turned to look at me and said, "Child, my mother wants to warn you that there are three things that are indispensable in love. I looked at her strangely, "What three things?" "Trust, understanding and respect, without these three things, no matter how much you love each other, you can't get married." My mother said, looking at me earnestly.
The mother went on to say, "It's easy to fall in love, but it's hard to get along. But with trust, understanding and respect, even the greatest difficulties can be overcome. As she spoke, my mother patted me on the shoulder, "Son, this is not my experience alone, this is the crystallization of the wisdom of several lifetimes. I nodded, slowly understanding my mother's intentions.
In the following time, I began to open up and confide in the trivial matters of my life, and my mother patiently gave me analysis and guidance on how to deal with it. Slowly, I found this communication very pleasant, as if my mother was no longer my guardian, but a friend I could rely on.
"Mom, does love really need so much to sustain?" I asked curiously. The mother sighed, smiled and said, "Yes, child, life is long, and the tempering in love is by no means a day's work. "However, I'm sure you'll understand," she continued, "as long as you're sincere, I'm sure you'll find someone who understands you in the future." ”
"I will, Mom. I replied with a smile.
Just then, my phone rang, and it was a message from my boyfriend. "Mom, he asked me to meet tomorrow, do you think I should go?" I asked with some hesitation.
The mother pondered for a moment, then said, "Child, feel for yourself, no matter what you decide, your mother will support you." ”
At this time, my grandmother's voice suddenly came, "Xiaoyun, Xiaoyun, come to dinner!" We packed up our things and prepared to have dinner with our family.
As soon as her grandmother entered the dining table, she began to complain that her grandfather did not care about her, saying that he was now obsessed with calligraphy and tea ceremony all day long, and he was not at all like the good man who worked hard for the family when he was young. Seeing this, I hurriedly persuaded me, but my grandmother glared and said, "Xiaoyun, you are in love now, I want to tell you that what is absolutely indispensable in the family is a sense of responsibility and dedication." ”
Grandma's words caused a heated discussion in the family. My grandfather defended that he was now proficient in calligraphy and tea ceremony in order to have fun, to relax himself, and to prove that he was the elder in the family, which did not conflict with his concern and financial support for his daughter-in-law and grandchildren. Grandma reluctantly argued that my grandfather was now so addicted to these hobbies that he no longer cared about the affairs of the family, and even the vegetable garden, which he used to help take care of, was almost abandoned.
Seeing this, I had to try to persuade my grandfather and grandmother, but to no avail. Grandpa thinks that grandma is too nagging, he is alive and well, and he doesn't need grandma to worry about it. Grandma felt that her grandfather did not put the family first, and complained that her children did not devote her heart and soul to it, as if the affairs of the family were none of her business. The whole table was at an impasse, and I didn't know what to do.
Seeing the awkward atmosphere, my grandmother proposed to go back to her hometown to review her incomprehension of my grandfather and let my grandfather reflect on his current behavior. Grandpa was unmoved, still insisting on his own opinion. As a result, the two became cold for a long time, and there was a tense atmosphere in the house.
At the dinner table, the family was eating happily, and my grandmother suddenly said: "The daughter of the Xiao Zhang family I know has recently gotten married, and I heard that her boyfriend's family is very rich, and the house and car are all available." Nowadays, it is not easy for girls to find a partner, and if you have the conditions, you have to seize the opportunity. "I keenly felt the subtle eye contact between my mother and grandmother. My grandmother's words seemed to convey an expectation to me, and my mother frowned.
"Grandma, love should not be built on material things, and money cannot represent everything. Mother said. Grandma waved her hand disappreciatively: "Child, you are young and ignorant, what's the use of just having love? Life has to go on, how can you do without money? How good is the daughter of the Xiao Zhang family now." ”
"Grandma, I think trust and respect for each other is the most important thing. If love is only based on material things, it will eventually become weak. "I tried to explain my idea to my grandmother.
"You two don't quarrel, grandma just cares about you, and it's for your good. Father chimed in.
"I still think it's better to have more material foundation. "My grandmother didn't give up, and her eyes were still locked on me.
At this time, my mother made up her mind, looked at my grandmother seriously, and said, "Grandma, feelings are not based on material things. Only holding the hand of the son, growing old with the son, truly loving each other, and supporting each other, is the most important thing. ”
Grandma looked at her mother with a spark of determination in her eyes. At the moment, I am a little worried, for fear that my mother and grandmother will have a conflict because of this topic.
"You're just young people's thoughts, it's confusing. Grandma sighed and said to herself. My mother sighed softly, then looked at me and smiled.
"Grandma, I believe that as long as we truly love each other, even if life is difficult, we will face it together. "I said to my grandmother, with a determined expression.
Then, my grandmother began to tell about her marriage experience, although life was very difficult when she was young, but the bits and pieces that she supported with her grandfather were the most precious treasures of her life.
And under my grandmother's narration, I also felt my grandmother's persistence and cherishment of the family. Perhaps in my grandmother's eyes, material things are a kind of security, but it is more like an expectation. I decided that no matter what kind of love I encounter in the future, I will not go against my innermost insistence.
At the dinner table, we enjoyed dinner as a family. Grandma said emotionally, "Look at Ah Yun, they are all so big and about to fall in love, but don't be like your mother, you can only live alone when you marry in a foreign country." The mother frowned, looking a little displeased.
"Mom, my grandmother said this out of concern. I gently persuaded her.
"I know, but her words always make me feel helpless, and I don't think that a person's happiness depends on whether they are married or not. Mother said with some excitement.
"But Mom, Grandma said this for your own good, she was worried that you would be alone. "I tried to defend my grandmother.
"Child, you don't understand, this is not the life I expect, I want her to understand my happiness now. There was helplessness and bitterness in the mother's voice.
"Jingshu, don't be angry, what Ayun said is also the truth, we are all for your good. Grandpa spoke first and tried to mediate.
My mother shook her head, looked at my grandmother and said, "Mom, I know that you are for my good, but you are always worried that I live alone, in fact, I am not lonely, I am doing well." ”
But my grandmother still didn't give up, "Don't you want to have a partner? No matter how good you are, you can't do it as well as two people who accompany each other." ”
At this time, I got up and said, "Grandma, grandpa, I think my mother's own choice should be respected, and everyone's concept of happiness is different. Mom is doing well now, and I'm sure she'll have her own plans. ”
Grandma looked at her mother and sighed, "Okay, I've said enough, but I'm always worried about you." ”
"Mom, don't pay too much attention to what Grandma says about you, she is out of concern after all. "I tried to comfort my mother.
My mother smiled slightly, "I know that my grandmother said this out of concern, but every time she has to mention my life alone, it always makes me feel stressed. ”
"I know, but we'll all support you, and we won't let grandma say that about you again. I took my mother's hand and said softly.
My mother looked at me with some emotion, "Thank you, child." ”
At this time, my grandfather walked over, "Ah Yun, Jingshu, don't argue about these things, the size of marriage and family is indeed everyone's choice, and only the parties themselves can truly understand their inner needs, and we all have to respect each other's choices." ”
Mother nodded, "I know, maybe I don't need a marriage, but I hope everyone understands and accepts my choice." ”
At this time, the sunset on the horizon was shining on our family, and I looked at my mother and swore that I would respect and support her in any decision. Everyone has their own way of life and outlook on happiness, and we should respect each other's choices, whether it is family or friends.
When our family was sitting around the dinner table, my grandmother suddenly said, "I heard that Xiaoyun's friend recently had a new colleague, a particularly good boy, have you ever met?" I felt a little embarrassed, but I still replied frankly: "Well, yes, I have seen him, but we are just ordinary colleagues." ”
"Oh, is it?" Grandma didn't seem satisfied with the answer. "Well, you're all too young, it's time to think about the future. ”
This made me a little panicked, but my mother immediately came out to play a round: "Mom, Xiaoyun is also very busy with work and socializing a lot now, so it is very normal that there is no one to talk to for the time being." ”
Grandma shook her head, as if dissatisfied with her mother's explanation. "However, you see that Xiaoyun is very good now, and his job is stable, if he doesn't think about getting married all the time, after a long time, he can..."
Dad couldn't listen anymore and interrupted his grandmother's words: "Mom, Xiaoyun is still young, I'll talk about it later." We should now support her to focus on her work and not put pressure on her. ”
My grandmother looked at my dad with a frown, and I felt a hint of embarrassment creeping over the dinner table. At this time, my grandmother began to express her views on my mother's work, thinking that my mother needed to spend more time with me, and accused her of spending too much time and energy on work. Mom tried to explain the importance of her work, but Grandma was adamant.
The atmosphere at the dinner table grew tense and I didn't know what to say. This left me feeling a little confused and annoyed. My grandmother has always been the backbone of our family, but she seems to be a little out of touch with us in some concepts.
"Grandma, it makes me sad that you say that. I spoke slowly. My grandmother looked at me with a hint of guilt in her eyes. "Xiaoyun, I'm just ...... for your good"
"I know, Grandma, but I hope you understand my choice too. I whispered.
The atmosphere of the meal was broken by these words, and I knew that this contradiction was not easy to solve. The conflict between my family made me feel helpless. Hopefully, we can find a solution that will satisfy everyone.