As the saying goes: When you are poor, you test your wife, and when you are rich, you test your husband.
Ding Haifeng, the actor of "Wu Song", once became famous, never thought that he would say to his wife who has been helping and supporting him: "I am in love with Pan Jinlian, let's divorce." ”
His wife Tang Ge's reaction was even more unusual, she didn't make a big fuss, and replied very calmly: "Okay, then let's separate, I just happened to find the person who can read my poems."
I'll give you half a year, you can think about it, as long as you don't regret it, you will get a divorce. ”
After speaking, he didn't procrastinate, packed his things and left.
However, two months later, Ding Haifeng tearfully wrote a letter begging to get back together, what is going on?
When I met for the first time when I was young, I never gave up
In 1969, Ding Haifeng was born in an ordinary family in Jilin.
His father was a construction worker and his mother was an accountant.
Ding Haifeng's parents sent him to Jilin Institute of Technology to go to university, hoping that he could inherit his father's business and learn a technology.
In the future, if you are lucky, you will be able to enter a state-owned enterprise and serve an "iron rice bowl".
However, Ding Haifeng is not here.
Ding Haifeng was seventeen or eighteen years old, coinciding with the golden age of Hong Kong pop music, and his youth was a period of chic dreaming.
Ding Haifeng fell in love with pop music, devoted himself to music, and formed a band.
In 1988, Ding Haifeng graduated from Jilin Technical School, but he did not follow the path paved by his family - enter a state-owned enterprise and work as a worker or architect.
Influenced by the Little Tigers, Ding Haifeng and a few like-minded friends formed the "Mountain Tigers Band".
If you are lucky enough to sing and perform in restaurants and bars in Jilin, you can also get a tip, and if you are unlucky, you can generate electricity with love.
At that time, there were many bands, but the Little Tigers had only one, and their band naturally did not become as popular as the Little Tigers.
However, it was because of the band that he became attached to his wife Tang Ge.
At that time, Tang Ge was still a kindergarten teacher, and he needed to find a band to open the kindergarten activities on this day to set off the atmosphere.
Tang Ge docked with the "Mountain Tiger Band" who came to apply for a performance.
At the beginning of the performance, Ding Haifeng was already tall and handsome, standing on the stage he loved and singing more selflessly and radiantly, Tang Ge was a little stunned for a while.
The teacher next to her teased: "If you take him down, he looks about the same age." ”
Tang Ge didn't take it seriously at the time, she just purely admired the dreams and vitality of the teenager, and didn't think that love at first sight would happen to her.
As everyone knows, the fate of the two has just begun.
Tang Ge herself is a romantic person, she can write her own poems, and she also likes music.
One day, she went to the square to watch a performance and met Ding Haifeng, and Ding Haifeng naturally recognized Tang Ge.
Two souls pursuing romance collide together, and a spark of love is gradually born.
Ding Haifeng often went to the kindergarten to see Tang Ge, and Tang Ge often accompanied Ding Haifeng to various performance locations.
However, the ideal is plump, and the reality is skinny.
Ding Haifeng has no stable job, and the band has no fame and no stable source of income.
Seeing that the development could not go on and was about to break up, Ding Haifeng's life was very poor, and Tang Ge often subsidized him out of his own pocket.
Tang Ge encouraged Ding Haifeng: "I know you don't like architecture and like art, music belongs to art, and performance also belongs to art."
Since music can't go the way, I think you look good and have the potential to be an actor, so it's better to try acting. ”
Ding Haifeng is also a persuasive person, and he does not reject acting in total, so he can change careers to become an actor.
In September 1990, 21-year-old Ding Haifeng was admitted to Jilin University of the Arts and starred in film and television dramas such as "Tears of the Sun" during college.
In 1993, after Ding Haifeng graduated from school, the two found that most of the film and television resources were in the capital Beijing.
So the two chose to go to Beijing for development, and held a simple wedding here.
Tang Ge's parents and friends are not optimistic about this wedding, Ding Haifeng is engaged in art and looks very attentive.
However, Tang Ge agreed that she felt that Ding Haifeng was a person worthy of trust.
However, the accident did happen, and no one expected that when Ding Haifeng became popular, the relationship between the two would face a huge test.
Wu Song became popular and fell in love with Pan Jinlian
Ding Haifeng's career was not smooth, after the two came to Beijing, they filmed several dramas, but none of them made a splash.
Until he met Director Zhang Shaolin, he accidentally got the opportunity to play the role of Wu Song.
In the drama "Water Margin", in order to achieve a realistic effect, Wu Song needs to fight a real tiger in this scene.
Although there is an animal tamer around, it is still very dangerous.
Many people were discouraged, and although Ding Haifeng was afraid, he wanted to seize this opportunity and overcome his fear.
In 1998, "Water Margin" became popular all over the streets.
This made Ding Haifeng an instant hit, and his Wu Song was rated by the audience as the most handsome and most suitable Wu Song for the original work.
Later, Ding Haifeng recalled that time and said: "At that time, I was so hot that I woke up a few times with a smile when I went to sleep, and I had to wear sunglasses on the street. ”
However, what this drama brought him was not only a rapid rise to popularity and fame, but also a relationship entanglement.
The story of Wu Song, Pan Jinlian and Ximen Qing in "Water Margin" is familiar to everyone.
In the play, Pan Jinlian and Ximen Qing were embarrassed to kill Wu Dalang, and Wu Song learned that he angrily beheaded the two to avenge his brother, and was unmoved in the face of the temptation of the beautiful Pan Jinlian.
Outside the play, it is a different scene, in the face of such a beautiful Wang Siyi, the two are in contact with filming every day, and they gradually fall in love with each other.
Ding Haifeng was uncontrollably moved by this woman.
The two often get together through the script, talking and laughing, and flirtatious.
Later, Pan Jinlian's role ended, Wang Siyi was very reluctant to Ding Haifeng, and volunteered to stay in the crew to make steamed buns for everyone as a cook, and left a month later.
Although the two tried their best to hide it, the interaction between the two could not deceive people.
Everyone knows that there is a scandal from the crew.
At that time, Tang Ge was still thinking about her husband at home in Beijing, and wrote letters to Ding Haifeng every day, although she heard some rumors, she didn't believe it.
Tang Ge waited left and right, looking forward to seeing her husband.
Who knew that Ding Haifeng's sentence came: "I'm in love with Pan Jinlian, let's divorce." ”
Tang Ge's heart was pricked, and she was stunned for a while.
I didn't expect that the person who once carefully proposed to her, I didn't expect that the husband who carefully proposed to her and went through the most difficult period together, and later became popular, would treat herself like this.
Tang Ge was sad and painful, but she wanted to retain her last dignity, and maybe she was willing to fulfill her husband.
She pretended to be calm and said, "Okay, then let's separate, I just happened to find the person who can read my poems."
I'll give you half a year, you can think about it, as long as you don't regret it, you will get a divorce. ”
Tang Ge's reaction was completely unexpected, Ding Haifeng thought that she would make a big noise, but he didn't expect her to be so indifferent and even want to fulfill herself, he felt a little guilty in his heart.
Looking at the empty room, the clothes were casually thrown on the bed and sofa, the kitchen utensils were not cleaned up, and they were placed in a haphazard manner, and when I opened the refrigerator, there were no more dishes in it.
Ding Haifeng's heart seemed to be missing, and he suddenly realized: This home, without Tang Ge, is a cold house, it turns out that he can't do without Tang Ge.
Ding Haifeng began to miss the days when Tang Ge cooked and waited for him to eat, and he began to think of the whispered words with Tang Ge.
Ding Haifeng found many unsent letters from Tang Ge in the bedroom drawer.
Some are to express their feelings of missing him, some are to let him pay attention to keeping warm and resting, and some are to share his life so that he doesn't have to worry about concentrating on filming.
When Ding Haifeng saw this, the man who had always been cold and hard actually shed tears, he felt guilty about his debt to his wife, and he was moved that his wife loved him more than he imagined.
Then he picked up a pen and paper and wrote a letter of peace to Tang Ge.
In the letter, he wrote: I was wrong, it turned out that you have always taken care of me, I can't do without you, I feel ashamed and sorry, and I hope to be able to give me one last chance.
Although Tang Ge was chic and indifferent when he left the fashion, he was also immersed in sadness afterward.
After receiving the letter written by Ding Haifeng, Tang Ge, who was still in love with him, decided to give each other another chance, so the two got back together.
Is it the prodigal son who doesn't change his money or the good horse who doesn't eat the grass?
Perhaps time will tell, and it is more appropriate to consider the conduct and needs of the parties.
The broken mirror is still covered with water
In the face of her husband's sentence, whether the wife should forgive has always been a difficult problem, and some people say: The prodigal son does not change his money, as long as he sincerely repents and changes, the relationship that has gone through the ups and downs will be more stable.
Some people say that good horses don't eat back grass, and in the face of those who have betrayed, how can two people have no mustard in their hearts?
In fact, it is still related to the personalities and needs of two people.
For adults, love is not a necessity, perhaps companionship and responsibility are.
The momentary heartbeat of Wang Siyi is not enough to shake his wife's dedication and companionship to him.
Ding Haifeng is not a person of rhetoric, and his repentance is also sincere.
Although he was shaken, he finally chose morality and responsibility.
Cao Dewang, a famous entrepreneur, once said: "It is difficult for someone to live a lifetime, never be touched by other members of the opposite sex, never make a splash for other members of the opposite sex, and the most important thing is to be affectionate and polite." ”
Ding Haifeng actually loves Tang Ge and needs Tang Ge, much more than he thought.
Ding Haifeng is a nervous person, which makes up for Tang Ge's meticulous and virtuous nature.
Not long after the two were together, Tang Ge went to Ding Haifeng's rented house and found that his clothes were scattered and not even washed.
She offered to help him clean and tidy everything before leaving.
After getting married, Tang Ge was also taking care of the big and small affairs of the family, and he hardly let him worry about it.
When Ding Haifeng's mother was seriously ill, Tang Ge took care of her every step of the way.
When he was dying, Ding Haifeng's mother only grabbed his hand and left a sentence "Tang Ge is a rare good woman, you are not allowed to live up to her in the future" before leaving with peace of mind.
Tang Ge's love for Ding Haifeng is a rational love, a tolerant love, and even a love that can be fully withdrawn.
In 2015, Tang Ge unfortunately suffered from breast cancer, Tang Ge was depressed, thinking that he was no longer worthy of Ding Haifeng, and he was even more worried that no one would take care of this man after he left.
She said to Ding Haifeng: "Let's get a divorce, so that someone will take care of you after I leave." ”
Ding Haifeng resolutely disagreed, and turned away all the scenes, took care of Tang Ge wholeheartedly, accompanied her to the hospital for treatment, and took her shopping and watching movies to relax.
It's as if they're back in love again.
God had mercy, and Tang Ge finally recovered in 2017.
In the time that followed, the two cherished each other even more, and the love story of Ding Haifeng and Tang Ge was also rumored to be a good story.
Today's Ding Haifeng has gradually faded out of the entertainment industry, and his family lives comfortably.
Hayao Miyazaki once said: "Love is not to look for a perfect person, but to learn to appreciate the imperfect person with perfect eyes."
The two took the initiative to bend down and pay, and they were distressed and considerate of each other.
Such a marriage can survive the long years, withstand the passage of time, and grow old with the son.
Author: Qi'an