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There are many battles in life, and one of the most complicated ones is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Behind the problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are often deep pursuits and contradictions. Looking back over the past 30 years, I understand this very well. From the initial opposition to my daughter-in-law, to my daughter-in-law's constant efforts to gain my approval, to my daughter-in-law's later self-reliance and growing estrangement, these twists and turns deeply shocked me.
At that time, I was not happy with my son's choice of marriage. I don't think he married a woman who didn't fit in with our family's expectations. Because my daughter-in-law is from an ordinary background, sensible and dignified, I have always maintained a cold attitude towards her in order to express my dissatisfaction. My daughter-in-law redoubled her efforts to please me, but I kept her out of my circle.
But adversity can often forge a real woman, and my daughter-in-law was not defeated by my indifference. In the face of my indifference, she chose to stand on her own and worked hard to run a small supermarket. She did not want to be attached to my traditional family, on the contrary, she used her own strength to succeed step by step. The supermarket business was booming, and she made a lot of money. From that moment on, she became more and more independent, and gradually distanced herself from me, an elder.
For years, I thought I had won this mother-in-law battle. I watched my daughter-in-law's success, and I felt proud of my judgment. However, life does not always develop according to one's wishes. The advent of a serious illness made me start to re-examine my relationship with my daughter-in-law.
As I collapsed on the hospital bed, helpless and decadent, I began to recall every detail between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The coldness, exclusion and discrimination I had in the past all came to mind. At that moment, I suddenly understood that I was losing a good daughter-in-law and a warm relationship.
At that time, the daughter-in-law did not give up on herself and did not give up the connection with our family. She turned her success into her help to my family, both in life and materially, and she was unstingy in giving to us. However, as an elder, I have always been indifferent to her without a word of gratitude.
On this hospital bed, I seemed to see my daughter-in-law's disappointed eyes. It was a look I had never seen before, and it deeply shattered the self-esteem I had always had. Tears of remorse flowed down my cheeks, and I understood what I had lost, and I had lost a mess in this battle between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Life in the hospital bed was tough, and I realized that I couldn't get my daughter-in-law to do more for me. I decided to apologize to her and show her my recognition and gratitude to her. This is not only my compensation for my daughter-in-law, but also a reflection and lesson for me in my past.
On my first day after recovery, my daughter-in-law took care of me as usual. She prepared a sumptuous meal for me, and looking at her industrious and tender eyes, I suddenly felt a warmth that I had never felt before. I shook her hand and muttered words of apology.
The daughter-in-law had a surprised look on her face, but she didn't speak. She looked at me and told me that she didn't need my apology. She said that she just wanted to be able to persevere herself when I needed help so that she would not disappoint my expectations as an elder.
Hearing her words, I was moved like I had never felt before. At that moment, I truly realized that the relationship between my daughter-in-law and me was not one of winning and losing, but of mutual assistance and support. I began to understand that the dispute between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a fruitless battle in itself, and only mutual understanding and tolerance can make the relationship truly harmonious.
In the days to come, I will try to change my attitude and behavior and rebuild that kind of family relationship with my daughter-in-law. I understand that sometimes in life it is not necessary to win every battle, but to understand the balance between right and wrong, and the harmony of relationships is the most important thing.
My mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been in conflict for 30 years, and I thought I had won my daughter-in-law, but I realized after a serious illness: I lost a mess. This title is not only a description of the twists and turns of a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, but also a deep reflection on life, family and family affection. In this complex world, relationships between people are often both fragile and resilient. When we understand this truth, we can repair and understand it from the heart, rather than simply pursuing victory. Therefore, when facing the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, let us all become more tolerant and more thoughtful, so that this bond can become stronger.