Pan Xiaoting, a woman who was once known as a "national treasure-level beauty". She has a natural top-notch appearance, coupled with hard work, and a successful career, and is regarded by everyone as a model of the perfect woman.
However, on the road of love, she has gone through hardships and is still alone.
Pan Xiaoting has been the object of attention since she was a child, her beautiful face, tall figure, and outstanding temperament make her the goddess that all boys dream of.
Since she was a student, she has never met a person she truly loves. There are always people who judge people by their appearance, and use her as a symbol of showing off their capital and achievements.
After graduating from university, Pan Xiaoting relied on her own efforts to achieve great success in her career, with a net worth of more than 100 million. She thought that there would be like-minded Prince Charming in Vanity Fair, but found that success could also be a stumbling block to relationships.
Someone likes her wealth more than she is a person, and she gradually becomes disillusioned with human nature.
The twists and turns of the emotional experience made Pan Xiaoting lose confidence in love. She began to pursue a career, wanting to fill the emptiness in her heart with busyness. But every night when she is alone, she will feel inexplicably desolate and lonely.
The desire to be treated with sincerity is always hard to dispel.
Pan Xiaoting once wanted to put down her body and take the initiative to approach a seemingly good object. However, the other party finally chose the right woman as his wife. Pan Xiaoting understands that in the eyes of many people, her success has become a burden.
The material abundance could not compensate for her emotional poverty.
The ups and downs of her relationship over the years have made Pan Xiaoting more and more confused and fragile about love. She longs to be loved, but she no longer believes in true love. This confusion has become the biggest obstacle on her life road.
Pan Xiaoting has had the beauty of the country and the city since she was a child, and is known as the "little angel". She has beautiful long hair, large bright eyes, a tall nose, and a small cherry mouth.
The petite figure and slender curves show her moving charm. On campus, Pan Xiaoting is the goddess that all boys dream of.
However, under the glamour on the outside, Pan Xiaoting is extremely sensitive and inferior inside. She realizes that her natural conditions are destined to invite misunderstandings. The classmates around her acquiesced that she could exchange her face for everything she wanted.
This made Pan Xiaoting feel pressured, she didn't want to be a vase to be used.
In order to prove herself, Pan Xiaoting studied hard and Xi, ranked first in the school in high school, and was admitted to the finance department of a top university. During her college years, she worked hard to enrich herself and became an impressive representative of the top students in the department.
In order to avoid being misunderstood, Pan Xiaoting rarely falls in love, and puts all her mind on her studies.
After graduating from university, Pan Xiaoting made a name for herself in the investment banking industry with her excellent professional ability. At the age of 25, she became the youngest female partner in the world.
From the grassroots to a successful career, Pan Xiaoting has proved with her strength that she not only has a glamorous face, but also has extraordinary insight and skill.
The success of her career gave Pan Xiaoting a great sense of satisfaction. She hopes to find true love and build a happy family. A person who is like-minded with her and really likes her as a person rather than an external object has been Pan Xiaoting's dream for many years.
However, what Pan Xiaoting didn't expect was that the success of her career became a stumbling block on the emotional road......
When her career was in full swing, Pan Xiaoting suddenly broke the news of her engagement to the rich second generation, which became entertainment headlines for a while. Many reporters dug out their hearts to reveal the secret of this mysterious fiancé, but Pan Xiaoting never mentioned it.
The public's thirst for curiosity puts her under immense pressure.
"I am in my 30s, and getting married is a major event in life, and I hope you can understand and bless me. Pan Xiaoting flickered in public. But that didn't stop the speculation that was all sorts of nonsense on the Internet.
In desperation, Pan Xiaoting decided to disclose her mate selection criteria to let the public understand her view of marriage. "My fiancé doesn't matter, what matters is that he has the qualities I want to be the ideal partner.
Pan Xiaoting said frankly that the first condition is that the two have the same family background. This surprised many people, because she is already a strong woman with a net worth of hundreds of millions. Then, she wants the other person to be self-motivated, not to have fun all day.
In the end, she hopes that the two will have a common language and similar ideals in order to grow old together.
The public's standards for Ms. Pan are mixed. Some people think that she attaches too much importance to her family background and is not realistic enough. Others think that she is just looking for a partner who is truly suitable for her.
In short, Pan Xiaoting's sincere confession calmed down the public opinion turmoil for a while, and also gave the outside world a new understanding of her.
However, the marriage eventually ended in divorce. "Is my standard really that high?" Pan Xiaoting couldn't help but reflect.
Pan Xiaoting's mate selection criteria seem simple, but when analyzed, the threshold is actually quite high.
First of all, she hopes that the other party's family is comparable. Considering that she is already a billionaire herself, this condition is actually very difficult to meet. The people who can match her family background are either beautiful and rich, or the children of large business families.
This greatly narrows down the range of options.
Secondly, Pan Xiaoting hopes that the other party will be self-motivated. This is more difficult for the cynical rich second generation to meet. Most of the children who inherit the family business prefer to eat, drink and have fun, and are not too serious about their careers.
The people who can be self-motivated are usually either entrepreneurs who start their own businesses or a minority who serve in the group according to the family rules.
In addition, the similarity of the common language and ideals she proposed is also a difficulty. Successful women tend to be sharp in words and strong in style, and need a partner who is not inferior to each other to improve each other.
If the ideals are too far apart, it will be difficult to find resonance in life. This requires the other party to not only have her own career pursuits, but also to be inherently compatible with her on issues such as life values.
To sum up, Pan Xiaoting's standards include multiple dimensions of family background, ability and temperament. An object with a decent appearance, a mature heart, a successful career, and similar concepts is really difficult to find. It's no wonder she's still celibate.
At the same time, this also reflects Pan Xiaoting's inner contradiction: she longs to be loved, but she is afraid of being hurt again. She needs a partner who can stand side by side, but is worried that the other person will only look at her sugar-coated appearance.
Setting standards is a protective mechanism, but at the same time, it is also self-limiting. The pursuit of perfection has made Pan Xiaoting go further and further on the road of love.
Entering the age of 41, Pan Xiaoting is still single. None of the many scandal objects in the past came true, and her emotional path never seemed to reach the end. This is in stark contrast to the vision of countless suitors in her youth.
First of all, aging is undoubtedly a burden for women. Even if Pan Xiaoting is still in her early twenties, she can no longer enjoy the romance and mystery of adolescence when she enters middle age. This limits the number and enthusiasm of suitors.
Secondly, the success of her career made it difficult for Pan Xiaoting to find a match. Appearance and conditions alone can't impress her heart for a long time. And the people who are really like-minded with her are often already successful in their careers and will not be easily attracted by external attractions.
In addition, after experiencing emotional ups and downs, Pan Xiaoting's defensive psychology has strengthened. She longs for true love, but is more afraid of being hurt again. Worried that the object's purpose is not pure, she will not be able to give it wholeheartedly. It also becomes an obstacle to lasting relationships. It can be said that the combined effect of age, career and emotional journey has made Pan Xiaoting's love road full of thorns.
Her standards have not changed, but she is willing to have little time for herself and others. Only by treating each other sincerely and going with the flow can it blossom and bear fruit. With a successful career but empty feelings, Pan Xiaoting's heart is full of pain. She longs to be understood and dedicated, but she is always in a twist.
The so-called unhappy successful people, Pan Xiaoting is a typical one. When attending social occasions, Pan Xiaoting is calm on the surface, but she is dry and empty on the inside. She seems to have it all, even the most secret dreams have come true.
But every time she was alone in a room, she would still be struck down by a biting sense of loneliness. Efforts to fill time and life cannot make up for the scars in the heart. Sometimes, Pan Xiaoting can't help but cry in the middle of the night. She is so emotionally vulnerable, but she can't reveal it to others.
The image of a strong man has been integrated into her identity, but she is still an ordinary woman with a lot of feelings. For the future, Pan Xiaoting always has hope. She believes that life cannot be lonely forever. The wounds in her heart have gradually healed, and she is ready to accept the presence of a person again.
As long as the other party really likes her now, not the fame and fortune of the past, everything is still possible. Maybe love will break ground in an inadvertent encounter, and maybe she needs to take the initiative to let go and pursue. In any case, Pan Xiaoting is determined to live a positive life and reconcile with the world and herself.
Her eyes once again shimmered with the light of life, ready to enjoy the good times of life. One day, she will meet another lonely heart and complete the last lesson of life together.