Coming home for the Spring Festival, I went back to my old village, my village is very small, it is the smallest village around ten kilometers, it seems that there are less than 20 families, almost every family has a son, more than ten years ago it was easy for men in our village to get married, those men knew to go out to work and find a wife to come back, or a matchmaker introduced, there are also single, but not much.
However, in the last decade, there have been more and more singles in our village. There are less than 20 households in a village, but there are no less than 10 singles.
Why are there so many singles? Because my grandparents had a lot of children in that era, take Grandpa Tang next door to me as an example.
His family had six children, four boys and two girls, and another grandfather in the village also had five children. The grandparents' generation seems to have very few children, usually three to seven. My parents' generation had a little less children, two or three.
There are three families in our village that are the most single.
That's like this. The eldest son is 45 years old and has worked outside for more than ten years, but he has not married a wife. The second son is 42 years old and has brought back a girlfriend before, but people don't like the family being poor, so he ran away. The third is almost 40 years old, and the third is the most beautiful of the three sons, and he has also talked about two or three girlfriends, but when he talks about marriage, he blows it again. There is no daughter in the family.
Another family has two sons and a daughter, the daughter went to Shanghai to work for more than ten years, and is now 40 years old, but not married, two sons are 45 years old, one is 40 years old, but the two sons are very lazy, and the parents are not motivated in order to marry their daughter-in-law, his two sons are not motivated, in addition to eating and sleeping every day, and even in order to have 50 yuan for their son to smoke, they will go to the mountains to cut a few trees and sell cigarettes for money.
A matchmaker introduced them before, but the family couldn't even get a bride price of 10,000 yuan, so the marriage was blown away, and the two sons were still single.
There is also a family. He has three sons and one daughter. The youngest son has a problem with his IQ, and his speech and walking are a little abnormal. The second son went to be a son-in-law, and it seems that he came back after four years. It is said that the mother-in-law over there scolded very badly, and the eldest son had been married before, but then the daughter-in-law ran away, leaving a daughter. The family is still good, with at least one offspring.
My grandparents had two or three sons in almost every family because everyone lived in the same village. I also call my uncle or something.
When I was a teenager, they were young. Now I'm older, married, and have kids. They have also gone from being young to middle-aged. They didn't marry a wife when they were young, but now that they are forty or fifty years old, the probability of marrying a wife is even smaller, and it can be said that at least 90% of the probability is that they will die alone.
Because no one likes to marry in the countryside, they don't have the ability to go out and buy a house, and there are more than 100,000 yuan to build a house in the countryside, and almost all the money is built to build a house, where is the money to go out and buy a house?
I'm talking about the old bachelor now. There are a couple of young bachelors, but now it cannot be said that they are bachelors, because they are only twenty or thirty years old. They may marry wives in the future, but those in their forties and fifties will have a hard time marrying unless they have money in their pockets.
In fact, not only did my mother's village have bachelors, my husband's village had more bachelors, definitely not less than 30, because my husband's village was huge, I remember the first time I met my husband, he took me to drink with his village friends, those friends were divided into three or four tables, there were at least 20 or 30 people, my husband said they were still bachelors, those people also asked me to introduce their girlfriends, my husband and I have been married for five years, five years ago twenty or thirty friends were bachelors, and now they are still single, and my husband has not gone to any friend's wedding wine for these five years, because no one can marry a wife。
I used to say that my husband's village was called Singles' Village, because there were so many Singles. I only know twenty or thirty. What about those who don't know? What about those who are forty or fifty or fifty or sixty? There must be bachelors in their forties and fifties.
My husband's village is huge, the largest of the several villages around. I think there are no less than 40 bachelors in the village. I say that the number may be less.
In the past, love depended on character and life. In that era, some people succeeded in starting a family through introduction, just thinking that it was enough to have two acres of land at home to eat and drink.
But now it's different, and now girls are relatively demanding.
Take my brother as an example, my brother is very handsome, he is 1.83 meters tall, he is the most handsome person in the family, but he doesn't like to talk very much, mainly because the conditions of our family are very poor, and then my brother is still single. My brother will be 27 years old after the New Year, and he will be 30 in three years, and he can really be called a bachelor when he reaches 30.
It is easy for a woman to get married, whether it is a divorce or a divorce with children, and there is no woman who cannot get married unless she is very demanding. But men are different, it is difficult for a man to marry a wife, unless the economic conditions are very good, or the eloquence is better, if the man does not have a house, does not have a car, and cannot speak, the possibility of marrying a wife is really a bit low.
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