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It was once said that parents are the most important mentors in our lives. However, sometimes the words and actions of parents can make people feel disappointed and frustrated, and even make people feel bound and suffocated. Have you ever had this experience?
——【·Netizen Experience·】——
Have you ever had such an experience? Share happiness with your parents, happiness will disappear, and confide in your parents about your troubles, and your troubles will be doubled! Next, here are the real experiences of some netizens, see if there are you among them?
I bought a hat for my family, pure wool, and I was quite happy and wanted to show filial piety, but it turned out to be just a deal. Alas, blame yourself for not being nice to yourself, and everything you buy for yourself is discounted.
My ex-mother-in-law is the kind of person who is "very unhappy", I ordered a cake for her daughter's birthday, and the atmosphere was very good during the meal, and then she suddenly asked how much, and I said "It's more than fifty" (many years ago, the price of goods in our small town was not high). She shouted, "Buy this for more than fifty, it's worth so much money, and I will lie to you children", I suddenly lost my appetite, and my ex-wife was also embarrassed.
My mother is like this, now she goes to lectures every day, receives some rice noodles that don't cost money, and then pays money to buy some milk powder and health care products that come out of nowhere. Stubborn to paranoia, greedy for cheap, and have to be an egg full of seams, it's really 。。。。。。
I've been at odds with my parents all my life, and if I had the choice, I'd rather not be there. I have been despised and sarcastic since I was a child, and now I am talking about what others say about how good other people's children are. They don't want to think about it, others say yes, that's really what other parents do, and they praise your children for deliberately provoking your family, they don't understand this, go home and quarrel with me, I'm enough, since it's already like this, love is what it is.
I remembered that my aunt went to Beijing to play and brought a pair of shoes to my grandmother 20 years ago, and I was afraid that she would be too expensive, so I said that I only spent 30 yuan to buy them, and my grandmother showed off among my friends, and then gave my aunt 60 yuan to let her buy two more pairs for the old sister.
If you have a lot of fun, you don't buy anything, you go out to eat, you always eat near home, and occasionally you want to take them to other places to eat different things, and after a while, you say that you are not healthy, this is not good, that is not good, is it not good that the restaurant near your home must be healthy, forget it anyway, they are happy.
My husband is such a very unhappy person, many years ago, my daughter just worked in Zhengzhou, with a meager salary plus the living expenses we usually give her, she saved, happily bought her father a more than 1,000 yuan Hengyuanxiang down jacket, as well as sweaters and the like, people actually did not have a good word, so that the daughter was particularly disappointed.
My old man is like this, a "huge" pension, or a fish first eats the middle part, then the head and tail, and finally eats fish jelly, until he goes directly to the hospital once to change his Xi, and the "atmosphere" eats the fish in one day. After sitting in a wheelchair, he could only eat liquidly, and watched us eat with great interest, as if he was eating by himself. Perhaps the concept is deep-rooted, or perhaps Xi has become natural and does not know how to enjoy life, and children can only make up for their parents' love in other ways.
My parents are usually reluctant to eat and wear, but they are willing to spend thousands of dollars to buy health care products, and they don't feel distressed when they can't finish eating and throwing away a lot of them after they expire.
My mother-in-law is like this, and good things will always be lost because of her few words. Everything has to be managed, the strong one can't be done, as soon as she doesn't follow what she said, she will start to point a face and scold Huai, she has to take care of us and the child to buy some clothes, saying that you are wasting money, the key clothes worn by the second child are worn by some bosses, and the clothes that fit and can be worn are good to say that they are good to use, but they are all either big or small, and the whole is like a food, I don't know where the meaning of making money every day is, isn't it to improve the quality of life of my family?
Some words can really be remembered for a lifetime, I didn't go well to find a job after graduating from graduate school, it was annoying enough, my mother called me and said: You are not as good as someone else going to a technical school after graduating from graduate school. At that time, I was angry and cried, but then I can be angry every time I think about it (really, if a child doesn't like to go home, most of the time it's not the child's own problem) It's also good, now that I'm a mother, I sometimes scold my child, but I will never say those ugly and disappointing words. As parents, let's keep some morality, everyone encourages each other.
I found out that my parents were the same, taking them out to play, all the way saying that there was something fun here, not delicious, what to see, and finally came home and told relatives that it was not fun, and after taking Yunnan, Jiuhua Mountain, and Hengdian, I didn't want to take it anymore. I didn't know what this was before, but now I know that this is a disappointing parent.
My mom always had nothing to do when I was a kid and quarreled with my father, after I grew up, my mom always said that if it weren't for the fact that you were still young, I would have divorced early, she meant that she didn't let me become a child of a single parent, you should thank her, and when she gave birth to me, she seemed to have a violent pregnancy reaction, and she blamed me for all this, even if I was in my 30s, she still nagged, saying that I almost lost you back then, and I thought that I should thank her for saving me for a lifetime, my sister spent 3000 on make-up classes in high school, and my sister was still nagging when she was in her 30s, and when she saw our sisters, it hurt this and that,Or talk about who died at a young age or something.,In short, it's very depressing!I don't want to have any communication with her, and she's very jealous.,Seeing others buy a new dress, she always says that people are scared or something.,In short, her character is not good at all!
——【Unhappy Parents·】——
In our lives, there are always some people whose words and deeds always make people feel disappointed and disappointed. They may be our colleagues, friends, or relatives, but today we're going to talk about our parents who are disappointing us.
When we were children, our parents were the most important people in our lives. Every smile and encouragement is the driving force for us to move forward. However, as time goes on, some parents become more and more disappointing. They always hit us with endless blame and questioning when we needed support the most.
Imagine you're working overtime on an important project, staying up late into the wee hours of the morning every day, physically and mentally exhausted. However, when you present your results to your parents, they only care about your income and status, and are blind to the effort you put into the process. At such times, you will feel a deep sense of frustration, as if all the effort has become meaningless.
Or maybe when you decide to pursue your dreams and give up your stable job to start a business or pursue the arts, your parents are adamantly against it. They worry that you will fail and suffer, but such worries ignore your dreams and passions. Eventually, you may give up on your dreams because of their opposition, and you will regret it years later.
Of course, that's not to say that this is the case for all parents. There are also many parents who will support their children's dreams and decisions, grow and progress with their children. But it is undeniable that some parents' actions do disappoint and disappoint their children.
So, what should we do in the face of such parents? First of all, we need to be clear about our goals and dreams, and firm in our beliefs. No matter how much our parents oppose and question, we have to believe in our own abilities and worth. Secondly, we need to have in-depth communication with parents. Try to convince them with facts and reason so that they understand your decisions and pursuits. If possible, you can also seek help from a third party, such as a relative or counselor.
Finally, we need to learn to let go. Although our parents' actions may be disappointing and painful, we need to understand that life is our own, not someone else's. We need to live for ourselves and pursue our dreams and values. Only in this way can we truly grow and progress.
There are always some people in our lives who will disappoint and disappoint us. For those parents who have discouraged us, we need to be firm in our beliefs, communicate deeply with them, learn to let go and live for ourselves. Only in this way can we truly grow and progress.