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My friend has always felt that things are not going well at work recently, and he is always being found faulty, and his friend thinks that he has met a "villain" in the workplace and complained to his family.
But he was scolded back by his aunt: "I think your problem is out of your mouth." There are no taboos in his mouth every day, and his speech stinks. ”
People who have problems in their mouths also have problems in their hearts. If you always have evil thoughts in your heart, you will inevitably spit out evil sounds.
As the saying goes, "Speaking a good word is like a lotus flower coming out of your mouth, and saying a bad word is like saying a poisonous snake out of your mouth." ”
There are some people around us who often speak without thinking about what they say, never taking into account the feelings of others, and never choosing good words to speak.
Over time, he not only offended the people around him, but also provoked a lot of right and wrong, and even let the original luck leave him.
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Su Shi, a great writer in the Song Dynasty, once praised a woman, Rou Nu.
Rou Nu was the concubine of Su Shi's friend painter Wang Gong.
When Wang Gong was implicated in the Su Dongpo Wutai poetry case and was demoted to Lingnan, Rou Nu accompanied him alone.
When the two returned to the capital, Su Shi had a feast with Wang Gong, and the concubine Rounu, who had been exiled with him, came out to persuade him to drink.
Su Shi casually asked Rounu: "Lingnan is very bitter, right?"
But surprisingly, Rou Nu did not complain at all, but replied softly: "This place of peace is my hometown." ”
This answer shocked and admired Su Shi.
So, he couldn't help but write the famous article "Fixing the Storm" for Rounu that has been sung through the ages:
万里归来年愈少，微笑，笑时犹带岭梅香。
I asked Lingnan if it should be good, but he said, this place of peace is my hometown.
At that time, many exiled officials died in other places because of depression.
Only Wang Gong has always been fortunate to be accompanied by a strange woman.
Rou Nu's words were passed on by Su Shi's word of mouth, and soon spread out, and although Wang Gong was difficult in Lingnan, he still spent four years unharmed, and was finally pardoned and returned to the north.
Although life has been in a difficult situation, it has finally been relieved by a word.
So the ancients said:
“得人善言，如获金珠宝玉。
Seeing people's good words is more beautiful than poetry and articles.
Listen to people's kind words, and be happy to play bells, drums, and harps. ”
A person who speaks kind words is like a banner that brings good luck, and can always benefit others and himself, gain the respect and praise of others, and get the rewards of life.
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I once listened to an entrepreneur talk about his experience when he was a child.
He had very low self-esteem as a child, short and somewhat lame.
Once, his teacher asked him to come to the blackboard and write silently.
He was leaning over at that time, and his writing was crooked and ugly.
However, the teacher commented:
These words are like little shoots arching out of the ground. It's a bit messy, but maybe it's these shoots that will bloom the most beautiful flowers in the world in the future. ”
It was this sentence that gave him confidence and strength, helped him get out of the predicament of low self-esteem, and enabled him to succeed.
And many years later, this teacher has also become a well-respected teacher in the local area.
In a man's mouth, his fate is hidden.
Zeng Yun in "The Book of Sentences: Words": Those who speak will make themselves free and will not overcome others, so as to be able to speak well.
Human luck, to put it bluntly, is a magnetic field, and everything comes from our attraction.
What is in a person's heart and what is in his words will really be met in life.
Will Bowen, one of America's greatest and most revered spiritual teachers, said in The World Without Complaining:
"Negative thoughts are like the seeds we sow in this world by complaining. They will take root and sprout more negativity. ”
And if these negative factors accumulate too much, it is bad luck.
If you speak evilly, it is a branch and leaf born of bad luck. Then kind words are like the fragrance of flowers and sunshine.
A person who knows how to pay lip service is the beginning of good luck.
Psychologist Henry Gourd once conducted such an experiment:
He used an instrument called a "force tester" to measure a person's level of fatigue.
If you say a good thing, the dynamometer immediately shows new energy, electrical impulses;
When speaking badly, the electrical impulse suddenly drops.
This shows that good words can indeed give people new strength and vitality.
Therefore, people with good hearts are closer to happiness.
Always have a good heart and accumulate virtue, which is to accumulate blessings for yourself.
Every word spoken will not bring any hidden dangers to oneself, let alone slander others harshly, it is called "kind words".
To see if a person can be transported, it is enough to look at his mouth.
Therefore, it is often said that "if you want to be rich and noble, you must first raise a rich mouth".
Be kind, speak good words, and do good deeds, and you will reap good results.
Only by showing the goodness in your heart can you make more friends, get more kindness, and get along more harmoniously with others.
Once we know how to take care of other people's feelings from words, we will find that every kind word that truly comes from the heart has a sweet return.