My wife and I have been married for many years, and we have always had a good relationship, but recently something happened that left me confused.
It was a sunny weekend, and my wife and I were out running errands, and when I got home, she suddenly told me that a classmate was celebrating her birthday tonight and was going to party at a bar.
That night, I spent a peaceful night at home with my son. It wasn't until late at night that the wife came home.
I stepped forward to help her and took the key from her.
"Are you having fun tonight?" I asked her.
"Well, it's a pleasure, it's been a long time since I've been with them. She replied with a smile.
I didn't ask any more questions, because I knew she was under the influence of alcohol and wouldn't say anything meaningful.
The next morning, my wife woke up in bed with some regret that she had drunk too much last night. She said she had seen some old classmates at the bar, talked a lot about the past, and was a little out of control.
But this incident made me feel a little uneasy. I began to wonder if she had done something sorry for me when she was with her old classmates.
This doubt slowly took root in my heart like a seed, gradually changing my opinion of her.
I no longer share the worries and joys of work with her as I used to, nor do I go shopping, watching movies or going for a walk with her.
My wife noticed the change in me and she started trying to communicate with me, asking me if I was angry because of her drunkenness last night.
Her explanation did not dispel my suspicions, but only made me feel more uneasy.
I began to wonder how this change had happened. Was it because I cared too much about her relationships with other men, or did she really do something to be sorry for me? I gradually realized that this was the trigger that changed my relationship with my wife.
Now, our relationship has reached an impasse, and I don't know how to solve it. My relationship with my wife had become confusing, and I needed to find a way to resolve it.
Just when the contradiction between us was getting worse, another thing happened that made me confused.
She introduced herself as a colleague of her wife's work and praised her for being a good person and doing a good job, but then she told me that she had been unusually close to another male colleague lately, which made her very uneasy.
The conflict between us deepened, and I began to gradually distance myself from my wife, and I communicated less and less with her.
My wife, too, felt aggrieved by my coldness and suspicion, and she tried to explain it clearly, but my heart was as hard as a stone.
But as I continued to investigate, I realized that the truth of the matter was far from being as simple as I thought, and the situation behind it was far more complicated than I imagined.
Soon after, our contradictions escalated again. One day, my wife and I had an argument over a trivial matter, and as a result, she said something hurtful to me in a fit of rage.
The contradictions between us are intensifying and seem to never be resolved.
At this moment of intensifying contradictions, I began to wonder what the problem between us was.
So, I decided to break the silence and have a good talk with my wife.
When I told her about this decision, her eyes filled with joy. We found a weekend afternoon to sit on the balcony of our home and meet face to face.
"My dear, the problems between us actually stem from our misunderstanding and lack of understanding of each other. "I tried to start with a calm tone.
She nodded, a little confused in her eyes.
"I'm starting to doubt your every move, and you're probably confused and hurt by me getting cold.
She was silent for a moment, then said, "I also noticed your coldness towards me, I know that I was drunk last night and made you very concerned, but I didn't mean anything else.
I looked at her and continued, "We need to be honest with each other and talk about our doubts and uneasiness. Only in this way can we truly untie the knot in our hearts.
She nodded, not saying a word.
We began to talk about the contradictions of this time, some of the problems that could have been solved by simple dialogue, because mutual reservations and suspicions became complicated, and only aggravated each other's injuries.
Our dialogue has become more and more frank and sincere.
Many nights, I lay in bed and thought about what happened between us. I realized that these doubts and suspicions only deepened the contradictions between us, but did not solve them.
So one day, I decided to be honest with my wife and tell her about my doubts and concerns. I told her that my change in attitude towards her was not because of her actions, but because of my own inner turmoil.
After listening to my words, she silently took a sip of water. Then she said that she also realized that the problem between us had become serious.
She promised to be more mindful of her actions and try to avoid upsetting me.
The dialogue between us gave us a new beginning, and we began to communicate harder to build a more solid trust and understanding.
Although our relationship was once confused, every conflict and challenge became an opportunity for us to grow.