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I live in a remote mountain village, with my grandparents, my parents, and my brother. Our house is not far from the edge of the village, and there are several families living next to it, and one of them is a headache for us.
The family had a large population, with two old men and old ladies living there, as well as their married sons and daughters, adding up to a dozen people. This family usually likes to be vexatious and often finds us in trouble.
I remember one time, when my brother and I came home from school, we saw the old man and the old lady standing in front of our house, shouting at the grandmother who was feeding the chickens in the yard: "Your chickens have come to our house again!
Grandma hurriedly said, "I'm sorry, I'm going to drive the chickens back." I'll pay for the food if it's pecked, don't be angry. ”
"What's the use of compensation, the vegetables we worked so hard to grow were damaged by your chickens, and our hearts are broken!" The old lady did not give up.
"Alright, I'm going to lock up all the chickens, and I won't run to your house again. I will also compensate for the dishes, so don't be angry. Grandma is still softly reassuring.
"Who cares about your compensation! We want you to teach your chickens a good lesson, and they can't come to our house again!" The old man also joined in the invective.
My brother and I couldn't stand it anymore, and my brother said to the old couple: "Please stop blaming my grandma, the chicken touched the bad dish unintentionally, and we will definitely compensate for it." Don't be angry, we are all neighbors, and living in harmony is the most important thing. ”
"Little bunny, what are you talking about as a child!" When the old man heard that someone persuaded him, he became even more angry, "This is our old man's business, and it has nothing to do with you!"
"Yes, yes, we haven't settled accounts with you yet, you kids are running around all day long, and you've broken a lot of things in our house!" The old lady also seized the opportunity to vent her frustrations.
"Report to you, we never run around and never break your things. I couldn't help but retort.
"You dare to talk back! You children who have no tutor will be the pests of society when you grow up!" The old lady said viciously.
"Alright, okay, stop arguing. At this moment, my second uncle walked out of the room. He said to the old couple: "I have heard it, I will deal with the problem of the chicken touching the bad vegetables, so don't blame my wife and children anymore." ”
"Second uncle, they are unreasonable and bullying grandma, we can't promise them!" My brother wanted to say something, but was stopped by the second uncle.
"Child, there are some things that can't be tough, let one step open the sky. The second uncle said calmly to his brother. Then he turned to the old couple and said with a smile: "Come, that's all for today, I'll lock up all the chickens, and there will be no more problems like this in the future." I will also compensate for the part of the food that is pecked, you can do it. ”
"Hmph, count you as acquaintances!" The old man snorted coldly and pulled his wife away.
My brother and I still wanted to catch up with the theory, but the second uncle stopped us: "Don't mess with them, there's no need to meet them in general." ”
"But second uncle, you are already so good at talking, they still don't appreciate it. I said unevenly.
"They're hard-mouthed, give them a little time, and they'll calm down. The second uncle smiled and comforted us.
"Grandma, what's wrong with you?" My brother and I rushed over to help my grandmother up.
"Grandma, don't be afraid, tell us what's going on. My brother asked softly.
"What!" My brother and I were furious, "How can they bully you like this!"
"No, they're too much, we can't just leave it at that!" As the elder brother spoke, he picked up the manure rake in the yard and ran to Lao Zhang's house.
"Brother, what are you going to do!" I hurried to catch up with my brother and hold him back.
"I want them to know that we're not easy to bully!" My brother said with red eyes.
At this moment, the second uncle came back and saw the two of us arguing, so he hurriedly came over and asked, "What's wrong with you?"
We told the truth of the matter, and the second uncle was silent after listening to it. After a while, he said, "Son, lay down your arms, we can't fight violence with violence." ”
"But second uncle, we have to give them some color to see, we can't let them continue to bully us!" My brother still wants to rush out.
The second uncle stopped his brother and said calmly, "I know you're angry now, but we can't solve the problem with violence." Let me go talk to them first and try to resolve the dispute peacefully. ”
"Trust me, kid, violence only complicates the problem. We need to influence the other party with reason and kindness, and this is the fundamental way to solve the problem. The second uncle patiently persuaded his brother.
I also advised my brother to calm down and not act rashly. The elder brother slowly calmed down, but he still looked unwilling.
The second uncle came to Lao Zhang's house and knocked on the door. The one who opened the door was Xiaofang, the eldest daughter-in-law of the old Zhang family.
"What are you doing again?" Xiao Fang said unceremoniously.
The second uncle said politely, "Xiaofang, I'm here to talk to you about what happened today." I know you're angry for a reason, but please understand that we are all neighbors, and we can't hurt our anger because of a misunderstanding. I sincerely hope that our two families can reconcile, what do you think of this idea?"
Xiaofang was silent, and only said after a while: "I don't want to fight either, but today my mother insists that we go to your house to find fault, and we can't help it." ”
"I understand your difficulties. Well, I apologize to your mother, and I hope you can convince her that we can get to the bottom of this matter and start over. Do you think it's okay?" The second uncle continued to say patiently.
Xiao Fang thought for a while and said, "I'll try it." But you have to apologize to my mom from the bottom of your heart, and don't be perfunctory. ”
"Okay, I'll apologize to your mom sincerely. The second uncle nodded.
So Xiaofang let the second uncle into the house, and the second uncle saw Lao Zhang's mother, sincerely apologized to her, and expressed his wish to live in harmony with his neighbors. After hearing this, Lao Zhang's mother still looked dissatisfied, but she didn't say anything more.
The second uncle came back after negotiating and told us about the process. My brother and I admired the wisdom and mind of my second uncle.
Two days later, Lao Zhang's mother suddenly came to our house and said with an embarrassed face: "I'm sorry for what happened last time, but I was confused for a while and did something excessive." Let's live in harmony in the future. ”
The second uncle smiled and said, "It's all over, and we are still good neighbors." ”
Since then, the attitude of the old Zhang family towards us has been much better, and they often take the initiative to greet us. Our lives have also returned to tranquility.
I learned a lot from this. You can't use violence to solve problems, but use reason and kindness to influence the other party. The second uncle used his wisdom to resolve the neighborhood dispute and let them become good neighbors again. This also made me understand the truth of turning hostility into jade.
This matter has been a topic of conversation in our family for a long time.
This incident made our brothers look at the second uncle with admiration. We all admire the second uncle's mind and wisdom.
One day when I came home from school, I couldn't help but say to my second uncle: "Second uncle, last time you handled neighborhood disputes in such a powerful way! How can you reason with them and resolve their dissatisfaction and misunderstanding?"
The second uncle smiled and said, "Well, it depends on patience and kindness." Misunderstandings and estrangements between people are difficult to avoid, and the key is to face them with an inclusive mindset. ”
"But second uncle, if others are unreasonable, we can't blindly back down, right?" My brother also interjected, "If they have to make an inch, we have to be more resolute." ”
"You have a point. The second uncle nodded, "I'm not saying to blindly back down, but at least solve the problem in a peaceful and rational way first." If the other party is really excessive, we will consider other methods. But even so, it is necessary to try to avoid intensifying the contradictions. ”
"Well, I understand, Second Uncle, your way of dealing with problems is very wise!" I say it from the bottom of my heart.
"Haha, I don't dare to say whether wisdom is wise or not, it's just a little experience from years of life. The second uncle said modestly.
"Second uncle, can you tell us how you learned to deal with problems in such a wise way?" My brother asked.
"I see, second uncle, you have read a lot of stories and famous sayings of the ancients. I sighed.
"Actually, you can learn a lot from it. The second uncle said, "For example, the story of "Sun Bin Saves Sister-in-law" tells us to be generous and benevolent, and "Kong Rong Makes Pears" teaches us to be humble to others, etc. You should also read more of these books in order to benefit from the wisdom of the ancients. ”
"Okay second uncle, what you said is very reasonable! We will definitely study Xi hard, learn from the wisdom of the ancients, learn how to be empathetic, and turn hostility into jade. I said immediately.
"Haha, good boy, you brothers are both very smart and can be humble and friendly people. The second uncle smiled and praised us.
I learned a lot from this conversation. We all have to learn from our second uncle Xi treat ourselves and others with his generosity, kindness, wisdom and wisdom, so as to make the world a more beautiful place
After that conversation, my brother and I took what my second uncle said to heart and worked hard to put it into practice.
One day, when we came home from school, we saw Xiao Ming, the younger brother of our neighbor Xiao Wang, sitting on the side of the road and crying.
"Xiao Ming, what's wrong with you, why are you sitting here crying alone?" I asked with concern.
"What, your plane was taken away?" My brother was also surprised, "Let's help you find it together, maybe it fell somewhere." ”
"Don't cry, we'll find it. I comforted Xiao Ming, "Let's go home first, and we'll help you find it in the evening." ”
Xiao Ming nodded and went home. After discussing with my brother, I decided to help Xiao Ming find his plane.
"Found it! in this tree!" My brother said happily. We quickly took the plane off.
"Great, Xiao Ming will be very happy. I said, "Let's get the plane back to him." ”
"We're all friends, you don't have to thank us. I said.
"Yes, we can help each other in the future. My brother said too.
My brother and I felt a sense of accomplishment. We all want to help more people in need and carry forward the spirit that our second uncle taught us.
A month later, the village will hold a sports day. Our school needs to send a few students to train for the relay race. My brother and I both wanted to participate.
"I'm running fast, so don't go to the school, let me represent the school. My brother said to me.
"But I also want to go, and the teacher said that the best students should be selected to participate in the competition. "Not to be outdone.
"Don't be overwhelmed, you're no match for me. "My brother is a little proud.
"I've been training every morning now and I'm pretty prepared. The teacher said to play fairly, so I'm going to fight for this opportunity too!" I said firmly.
"Okay, let's compete and see who can run faster!" My brother said excitedly.
When my brother heard this, he was a little surprised, but then he smiled: "Brother, you let me do this because you remembered what the second uncle said, right?"
I nodded shyly: "Well, I think it's right to give it to you this time, and it can also hone my tolerance and humility mentality." There are many opportunities in the future. "
My brother patted me on the shoulder approvingly: "Good brother, you are much more mature than me now." However, I think you are also very strong, and we can go and discuss with the teacher together to see if we can all participate in the competition. "
"Okay, let's go together!" I said happily.
So we went to the teacher and expressed our willingness to participate in the competition together. After thinking about it, the teacher agreed, saying that let's train together, and then select the best people to compete.
Through friendly negotiations, both of us brothers were given the opportunity. This is thanks to the second uncle who taught us to be tolerant and humble, and not to be selfish.
During training, we take it seriously and encourage each other. Eventually, my brother and I were both on the shortlist, which made us very excited.
The night before the race, the whole family cheered us on. The second uncle said: "Children, stay calm tomorrow, the most important thing is to promote each other in the arena." It doesn't matter what the result is, it's important to show the spirit of teamwork. "
This incident has strengthened our determination to learn the way of the second uncle Xi. We must all take the second uncle as an example, be more kind, be strict with ourselves, and strive to be a loving, humble and benevolent person.
Since then, we have often reminded ourselves in our daily lives to be tolerant and humble and to help others. When we encounter unfairness, we also learn to resolve it through friendly negotiations. All these made me feel that the teachings of my second uncle were so valuable.
There will be many challenges and choices on the road of life. We are determined to keep in mind the wisdom of our second uncle's life, live with a loving heart, and guide the course of life with the light of wisdom. When we also become adults, we should become a loving, generous and benevolent elder like our second uncle, and pass on this wisdom.