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Recently, the China Statistics Press published the Yearbook of Chinese Population and Employment Statistics 2023, compiled by the Department of Population and Employment Statistics of the National Bureau of Statistics.
Among them, in the second part of the Statistical Yearbook, "2022 Population Change Sample Survey Data", the "marital status of the national population aged 15 and above by age and gender" was announced, which aroused heated discussions among netizens.
Data published in the Statistical Yearbook
From the data, it can be seen that late marriage has become a common phenomenon, and the unmarried rate of 29 years old and before is more than 3 percent, which means that even at the age of 29, 1 in 3 people is not married.
After the age of 32, the unmarried rate dropped to less than 20%, and the unmarried rate of 30-year-olds and 31-year-olds was as high as 27.7% and 23.7% respectively.
If we divide the age groups into three age groups: 25-29 years old, 30-34 years old, and 35-39 years old, we can also see that the unmarried rate of 25-29 years old is as high as 51.3%, which means that in this age group, 1 out of every 2 people is unmarried, and even in the age group of 30-34 years old, the unmarried rate is as high as 18.4%, and nearly 1 in 5 people is not married.
Netizens have a lot of discussions
1. Some netizens have obviously accepted the status quo of late marriage and late childbearing, and feel that they should be optimistic, after all, 48.7% are already married.
Second, some netizens said that 51.3% may be just the lowest value, and the unmarried rate will only get higher and higher in the future.
3. Some netizens obviously have no confidence in marriage and do not support marriage, thinking that there is only such a low unmarried rate, and that there are still many people who have not woken up.
Fourth, some netizens are speaking out for the unmarried, thinking that although they are not married, they have made very positive contributions to work, life, and GDP.
Fifth, this netizen is unmarried, and he personally appeared to say that he was unmarried in 88 years, but he was very happy alone.
Sixth, this part of netizens clearly expressed the reason why they are not married, they think that marriage will only make him poor, and it will increase a lot of debts.
7. Some netizens pointed the finger at housing prices, believing that housing prices are one of the important factors affecting marriage.
8. Some netizens said that doing anything at the age of 25-29 is better than getting married.
9. Some netizens should be supporters of late marriage and non-marriage, thinking that the unmarried rate of 30-34 years old has also reached 51.3%, so they think it is reasonable and makes them happy.
The author's personal thoughts
The author chose to enter the palace of marriage at the age of 27, and has been married for nearly 12 years now. As an insider, the author wants to talk about my true feelings, which is actually the following sentence:
Getting married isn't scary, and there are plenty of obvious benefits. What's really scary is an unhappy marriage!
In summary, unhappy marriages are usually due to the following reasons:
1. Married for the sake of getting married:
The vast majority will not be too happy, because most of them are for some purpose, and when this purpose fails, it is the beginning of misfortune
2. Those who are too self-assertive in marriage:
Getting married means that two people have to live together, then there will inevitably be a lot of run-in and compromise, even if only one party insists on himself, it is destined not to be happy, because no one can blindly tolerate it, it is just a prelude to the outbreak.
3. The division of labor between husband and wife is unreasonable, resulting in different growth frequencies:
This is actually very common. For example, in some families, the boy works hard outside the home, and the girl is a housewife at home. It seems that the division of labor is reasonable, but in fact, if you think about it carefully, after many years, will their way of thinking, life pursuits, and so on still be the same? If not, how can they grow old together? This is also one of the reasons why there are so many derailments now.
4. The integration of the families of both parties is not smooth:
This is where you have to mention the door. The family is a good match, including but not limited to economic ability, family background, but also includes world view, outlook on life, values, etc. If you choose a marriage that is not the right one, you should be psychologically prepared in advance to accept more complicated run-ins and compromises, but this is often ignored by everyone.
Of course, the above are only the 4 main reasons summarized by the author, real married life will be more complicated, because human nature is complex.
But if we can fully avoid the above 4 points when we choose marriage, the benefits of marriage for us are likely to outweigh the disadvantages.
epilogue
Many people will listen to their friends, girlfriends, etc., and complain about their married life.
But this is actually just a siege effect, they have already got married, they naturally have no fear of marriage, and then they are extremely agitated to get unmarried that they can't get.
Finally, I would like to share with you three words about marriage, I hope everyone can have some understanding, get married positively together, and enjoy a good life!
1. There is no perfect marriage, only a partner who adapts to and tolerates each other.
2. Marriage is not static, but needs to grow together. We need to keep an eye on the changes of the times and constantly adjust our concepts and perceptions. Only by keeping pace with the times can the three views of marriage keep up with the pace of the times and maintain long-term charm.
3. Family is not an arena, but a warm harbor for hand in hand, tolerating and understanding each other.