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Preface
Jet Li, a name that has made countless people's blood boil.
He is a legend in the martial arts world, a superstar in the film industry, and an active promoter of public welfare.
Today's Jet Li has entered the "year of sixties" and has gradually faded out of the public eye.
However, recently, he has been frequently exposed to poor health, and the news of "Jet Li's death" has even been circulated on the Internet, and he has given 2 billion assets to "new love".
All of a sudden, netizens exploded and began to speculate and discuss.
For this reason, he himself was deeply troubled, and his friend in the circle couldn't stand it, so he personally posted an article to help him refute the rumors.
When he attended the event a few days ago, he quickly said as soon as he appeared: "Hello everyone~ I'm not dead yet." ”
In order to reassure fans, he often shares his recent situation on social platforms.
However, a recent set of photos has sparked heated discussions among netizens.
In the photo, he is shopping with his current wife's daughter Jada, snuggling happily.
Below this dynamic, many netizens sighed: Jet Li's four daughters, although their family backgrounds are not very different, their fates are very different, which is inevitably embarrassing.
Among them, Jet Li's eldest daughter Li Si, because she is not loved by her father, never falls in love, and even does not want to get married.
Now 35 years old, she is still single, and she publicly accused her father on social platforms, claiming that she hated him for 33 years.
What is it that makes her so dissatisfied with her father? Let's take a look.
1. Divorced families, neglected children
Jet Li grew up in a single-parent family, his father died when he was very young, and his mother brought him up with difficulty.
At the age of 8, he was discovered by Wu Bin, the coach of the sports school, and entered the Beijing Shichahai Sports School to learn Xi martial arts, starting his martial arts career.
After entering the sports school, he got acquainted with his sister Huang Qiuyan, and the two lived and trained in the school together.
Over time, they fell in love with each other and came together, but the relationship between the two was extremely difficult.
In 1986, Jet Li unfortunately fell to his spine while filming the movie "North and South Shaolin", causing spinal dislocation and lumbar spine cracking.
After being injured, his girlfriend Huang Qiuyan rushed to take care of him as soon as possible.
From her boyfriend's daily life to food, clothing, housing and transportation, she takes care of everything in every way.
Her care and care made Jet Li feel endless warmth and comfort. So, he proposed to his girlfriend that he wanted to get married.
After Huang Qiuyan heard this, tears fell like rain.
Over the years, she has expressed her desire to get married to her boyfriend many times, but she has not received a response.
This time, her boyfriend actually took the initiative to bring it up, and she was very surprised when she heard it, and she couldn't believe it was true.
So, without thinking about it, she immediately agreed.
In addition to being happy, when Huang Qiuyan and her boyfriend discussed how to prepare for the wedding, her boyfriend said: "We don't earn much now, and most of the money I earn is subsidized to the family, if not, let's register first, and then think about the wedding later." ”
In this way, without notifying the parents of both parties, the two hastily registered their marriage.
After registering, Huang Qiuyan told her parents.
The parents were very dissatisfied when they heard that she and a poor boy had received the certificate.
After all, their daughter was born in a ballet family and lived a prosperous life since she was a child, and they were worried that their daughter would be wronged after marriage.
However, the matter has been decided, and her parents don't have much to say, just saying to her: "In the future, you may be wronged, and the relationship between you as husband and wife is not easy to handle." ”
After getting married, Huang Qiuyan gave up her job, stopped taking on dramas, devoted herself wholeheartedly to the family, and gave birth to two lovely daughters: Li Si and Li Taimi.
In order to provide a better education and environment for their children, the two decided to move to the United States to live.
Because Jet Li's work focus is still in Hong Kong, the responsibility of taking care of the children is placed on his wife alone.
In this way, he and his wife began to live separately in Hong Kong and the United States.
Being in a foreign country and taking care of her two children alone made Huang Qiuyan inevitably feel tired and lonely. But for the sake of their small family, she never complained about anything.
While taking care of the children, she hopes that her husband can come to live in the United States as soon as possible, so that the family of four will never have to be separated again.
However, she waited hard, but what she was waiting for was her husband's words: "Let's divorce." ”
Why was she abandoned by her husband because of her hard work? Let's look down together.
In 1987, when Jet Li was filming the movie "Dragon in the World", he met the young and beautiful Li Zhi and fell in love with her at first sight.
Although he already had a family at that time, he abandoned his wife and daughter and still chose to be with Lizhi.
Huang Qiuyan, who was alone abroad and was abandoned by her beloved, now understands that her parents opposed her marriage's good intentions.
She could no longer stand her husband's infidelity and betrayal, and chose to divorce him in 1991.
At this time, Huang Qiuyan was no longer the rich girl who stayed with her parents.
In the past few years of taking care of her family, she has not only lost her job, but also taken on a huge mortgage.
was afraid that her daughters would suffer with her, so she could only let her ex-husband take away her two children.
But Jet Li at that time gave all his time and energy to Li Zhi, where could he take care of the children.
After the divorce, he took his two daughters directly back to his hometown, threw them to his mother at home to take care of them, and turned around and left.
Second, her father's indifference made her hateful
For work reasons, Jet Li rarely returns to his hometown, so for the two children, there is no excessive care.
In the early years, the children were too young to express their emotions.
But as the two children grew up, they slowly felt that they were different from their peers.
I often wonder: why do other people's parents stay with their children?
Once, when his father, who had not come back for a long time, stayed at home for a few days and was about to leave, Li Si finally mustered up the courage and pulled the corner of his father's clothes and begged: "Dad, please don't go..."
Even so, Jet Li still forcibly broke his daughter's hand, left a word of sorry, and turned to leave.
Since then, Li Si has no expectations for his father.
Growing up, her father's absence often made her feel lonely and helpless, as if she had been abandoned by the whole world.
She often asked herself: why did my father do this to me, what did I do wrong?
She also tried to understand her father's departure, telling herself that maybe adults have the hardships of adults, but it was really difficult for her to accept her father's disregard, and slowly, she hated her father more and more.
In 2000, Jet Li's mother Zhang Fenglan passed away due to illness.
Before leaving, the old man called his son to him and patiently instructed: "You have to raise the two children well, don't let them be wronged, so that I can feel at ease under Jiuquan!"
The mother's request before her death finally woke up Jet Li.
In order to make up for his previous regrets and take care of his mother's funeral, he is ready to take his two daughters over and live with him. But who knows, but he was strongly rejected by his daughter.
Li Si even shouted at him: "I will never stay with you again in this life!"
For so many years, Li Si's hatred for his father has only increased.
Back then, when Jet Li and Li Zhi got married, in order to ease the relationship between father and daughter, he hoped that his daughter could come to their wedding.
In the face of his father's flattery, Li Si felt complicated and contradictory in his heart.
However, when she thought of her classmates' ridicule of her, she deeply hated this man.
She had heard more than once that everyone was talking about her behind her back: "Her father married another woman, she is a wild child that no one wants!"
For this reason, in the face of this man's invitation, she said coldly: "Go away! I will never see you again!"
At the same time, she also asked the outside world more than once: "Why am I Jet Li's daughter?"
For her, the name of her father Jet Li did not make her feel much honor.
On the contrary, she believes that it is because of her father that her life is full of tragedy.
Because of their father's betrayal of their mother, the two sisters fell to such a point.
The divorce of her parents made her sensitive, fragile and inferior, and she even lost the courage to pursue happiness.
In her 30s, she has always insisted on not falling in love or getting married, because she is afraid of following the old path of her parents, and she is afraid of being hurt again.
She once said to the public: "The shadow of my parents' divorce has been difficult for me to get rid of. ”
3. Untie the knot and break the ice in the relationship between father and daughter.
Faced with his daughter's cold face, Jet Li called his ex-wife more than once, hoping that she could come forward to mediate the relationship between the two.
In addition, Huang Qiuyan was also very worried about the children's condition, so in 2006, she brought her two daughters back to her side to soothe the wounded hearts of the two children.
In the process of getting along, through her patient persuasion, Li Si gradually opened her heart.
After living with her mother, she saw that her mother, who had reorganized the family, was now living a happy and happy life, which changed her long-standing concept.
She has hated her father for more than 30 years, and she finally let go of her knot and let go of her old suspicions with her father.
Now, she often calls her father to talk about their current situation, prepares gifts for her father on his birthday, and asks him to pay more attention to his body.
No matter how many holidays the father and daughter had before, it is really gratifying that they can get back together now.
epilogue
The impact of divorce on children is complex and far-reaching.
Each child may react and adapt differently in the face of parental separation.
As parents, you should minimize the harm caused by divorce to your children, maintain good communication and interaction with your children, and give them more love and guidance to help them through this difficult period.
Let them build a healthy mental and emotional health to grow and develop better.