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My wife and I have been married for 5 years. We were high school classmates and college were in the same city, so we got together early and got married well. I've always wanted to have children since I got married, but I always said I wasn't ready and wanted to work for a few more years. I understood her thoughts and didn't force it.
Until a few days ago, she suddenly said that she didn't plan to have children in the future, because it would affect her career development. I was sad and felt that a marriage without children would lack a lot of joy. So I told my mother-in-law, Aunt Li, about it.
"What?! Say you don't want children in the future?" After listening to my story, my mother-in-law immediately blew up and said loudly, "This unfilial daughter! Giving birth to a child is a matter of course, why shouldn't she?!"
"What's there to explain!" Aunt Li decisively interrupted me, "Son, don't pay attention to her! If she doesn't agree to give birth, you can find someone else to give birth, and I will fully support you!"
"What's extreme!" The mother-in-law said strongly, "It's your right to have a child, if you don't cooperate, just find someone else to give birth, and I will immediately help you introduce candidates!"
I was speechless, it seemed that things were going in a bad direction. At this moment, Aunt Li had already grabbed her mobile phone and said loudly into the earpiece: "Let me tell you, if you don't agree to have a second child, I will let my son find another woman immediately!
"That's right, because you women are so selfish!" Aunt Li didn't let it go at all, "Do you know that you have to have children when you get married? This is your least responsibility! My son works hard to support the family, and you don't even meet the only request, so I confiscate your daughter!"
I saw that the situation was getting more and more wrong, so I quickly dissuaded: "Auntie, having a child is a matter for the two of them after all, don't get too excited, let's discuss it slowly." ”
"Don't meddle with me!" Aunt Li gave me a blank look and turned to the person on the other end of the phone, "It's just three things, you'd better be honest and agree to have a child immediately! Otherwise, I'll go to you in person, believe it or not!"
Uncle Zhao blocked the door with a serious face and said, "Auntie, don't meddle in the matter of having children, they young people have their considerations." ”
Aunt Li said anxiously: "Uncle Zhao, you don't understand! What should he do in the future with that unfilial daughter who doesn't want my son? I can't watch him live like a monk!"
Uncle Zhao nodded and said, "I understand your anxiety, but it's not right to force it." Otherwise, even if they don't agree to have a child now, you can find a girl for your son to have one, and when they change their minds in the future, you can ask for another one yourself. ”
I was dumbfounded and said, "Dad, that's a weird idea, isn't it? ”
Uncle Zhao laughed: "What's the matter, many people do this! Don't worry, I promise to find a girl with a good body and good personality!"
cried on the other end of the phone and said, "Dad, don't mess around, okay, I will discuss it with my husband as soon as possible, and we will make a choice responsibly." ”
At this moment, Aunt Li had already gotten into a taxi and went straight home. I had to let Uncle Zhao go back first, and I hurriedly took a taxi to rush over.
When I got home, I saw that Aunt Li was already questioning loudly in the house with red eyes.
"Why don't you agree to have a baby? Do you dislike that my son is not enough to support the family?" Aunt Li roared angrily.
"Come less! You're obviously selfish!" The more Aunt Li spoke, the more excited she became. At this moment, I arrived, and quickly hugged Aunt Li to stop her, and at the same time asked for warmth to the cold and shhh
"Don't get excited, Auntie, this is also unintentional, we can discuss it slowly. I persuaded.
"Heartless, I think it's a black heart!" Aunt Li shook off my hand, "Since she is so unreasonable, then don't blame me for not agreeing with you continuing to be together!"
Me and I were dumbfounded. Aunt Li, this is going to provoke us to a dead end before she will give up.
"Auntie, your approach is too extreme. "Having a child must be decided by the person concerned, and your coercion and threats are not allowed." ”
Aunt Li quibbled: "I'm doing it for your good." For your happy marriage in the future. ”
I shook my head and said, "No, you're controlling us." Even if you are an elder, you have no right to force us to have children. I believe that it is for the sake of the family that we will negotiate the best outcome in peace. ”
Aunt Li was speechless and her face was ugly. At this time, Uncle Zhao also arrived and once again dissuaded Aunt Li from meddling in the matter between us.
After this incident, I understand and respect the idea more. Having a baby is a big deal and you can't make a hasty decision. I will slowly reach a consensus and believe that through gentle and effective communication, we will definitely be able to make the most beneficial choice for the family. Under Uncle Zhao's persuasion, Aunt Li's emotions finally calmed down. She said with red eyes: "Silly daughter, my mother was emotional just now, and she said something serious, don't take it to heart." It's up to you and your husband to decide what to do with having a child. ”
Tearfully nodded. I also comforted her softly, saying that I would respect her choice.
Aunt Li sighed and said, "Mom may still be stuck in the old thoughts, thinking that giving birth to children is the wife's duty. But now society is different, and many girls will postpone or cancel their birth plans for the sake of their careers. As a mother, I should not force you, I should understand and support you. ”
hugged my mother, sobbed and said, "Mom, I am also at fault, I should discuss with my husband first, and then communicate with you." I promise that I will consider this matter in the near future and reach an agreement with my husband. ”
Aunt Li stroked her daughter's hair distressedly and said, "Good daughter, you can just discuss it." Even if you don't want to have children in the end, your mother will support your decision unconditionally. ”
Uncle Zhao said with a smile: "We must be happy to have grandchildren, but the most important thing is that you are happy or not." Don't be bound by the traditional ideas of our older generation. ”
I nodded, clenched my hand and said, "Yes, fertility issues are complex and sensitive, and we will treat them carefully." Thank you for your understanding and support. ”
This controversy has made me and I more aware of the importance of communication and understanding between family members. The change in the concept of childbearing also makes the older generation feel uncomfortable, so we need to discuss it in a gradual and gentle way.
A month later, after much deliberation, I decided to have a child first. Because in fact we all like children, we just want to have them later. Now with the support of our families, we decided to start our parenting journey.
Aunt Li and Uncle Zhao were also very excited and immediately rushed to the hospital to see our baby. "We finally have grandchildren!" The two old men hugged each other and wept bitterly, and the scene was unforgettable.
In my life, what I am most grateful for is to have such a sensible and considerate wife, as well as a supportive and understanding family. Together, I think we will do our best to give the baby the most beautiful and warm home.
One day, Aunt Li said with a smile: "Daughter, it's normal to be so busy after giving birth, you have to learn to adjust your state, and it will be much easier in the future." Tell your mom if you need anything!"
nodded with red eyes: "Mom, the child came too suddenly, I myself was a little uncomfortable, and I had to trouble you and Dad so hard, I really didn't want to go." ”
Uncle Zhao smiled heartily: "What's better than not going, grandson is our greatest wish! You can rest assured that the baby will be handed over to us, and you and your husband will have a good rest." ”
I also hurriedly said: "Yes, it has only been a few months of hard work as parents, and we young people can afford it." On the contrary, it is grandparents who should pay attention to their bodies. ”
Aunt Li hurriedly said: "Uncle Zhao and I are very strong, and it is not a matter to help take care of our grandson." You young people are going to be tired enough. ”
I smiled at each other, glad to have such considerate elders.
After confinement, I returned to work, and I got back on track. Outside of work, we take turns babysitting. Although the child is very naughty, his innocent smile can always heal our tiredness.
Aunt Li and Uncle Zhao also came over to help from time to time and had a lot of fun with our baby. We feel extremely relieved and happy.
On the child's first birthday, we held a small birthday party for the baby and invited Aunt Li and Uncle Zhao. The baby holding the big cake smiled super brightly, and we sang birthday songs for him, and spent a happy and warm day.
When the baby was two years old, she became pregnant unexpectedly. At first, we both panicked because the baby was still young and his career was on the rise. But thinking of the unconditional support of our family, we quickly dispelled our worries and began to look forward to the arrival of a new life.
This time, Aunt Li and Uncle Zhao were also ecstatic after hearing the news. They were happy like children, jumping and cheering: "Great, now we have a second grandson! We will definitely do our best to help them!"
Looking at the innocent smiles of the elders, I couldn't help but redden. Thank you for their continued support and encouragement, so that we have the courage to meet the new challenges of life!
Once, the eldest baby had a cold and fever, and I couldn't come back from overtime, so I was in a hurry to take care of Erbao, and I couldn't get out of it at all. At this time, Aunt Li happened to come to see us and immediately took over the care of Erbao, so that I could concentrate on taking the eldest baby to the doctor.
"Auntie, thank you for your hard work. I don't know what I would have done if it weren't for your help. I say from the bottom of my heart.
Aunt Li patted me on the shoulder and said gently, "This is what I should do." You can go with confidence, I will watch the two treasures. ”
Then again, I went on a business trip, and I returned late from overtime. At this time, Uncle Zhao took the initiative to come over to help take care of the children, and did not leave until we went home.
"I'm really sorry not to go, I'm still bothering you so late. I hid my face and thanked him.
Uncle Zhao laughed and said, "No trouble, no trouble, how much fun my grandchildren have with me!"
With the full support of our elders, our "small family" was able to get through the most difficult period and gradually get on the right track. Now that the children are growing up, our lives are becoming more and more regular.
Once I smiled and said to Aunt Li: "I really didn't expect that you were so opposed to not having children at the beginning, but now you have become a big savior for children." ”
Aunt Li also laughed: "Auntie couldn't think about it at the time, and she was still stuck in the traditional concept, but now she finally realizes that the right to have children is all between you and your husband and wife." The most important thing is that these two little balls are so cute, I can't put it down!"
I nodded, once again sincerely thanking my elders for their understanding and support. Children are the greatest spiritual sustenance between husband and wife, and with the unconditional love of relatives, our small family is full of happiness.
Looking at the innocent smiling faces of the children, I deeply realized the preciousness of life. Their upbringing reminds us adults of our childhood curiosity and love for the world. I think that's the best gift of life. Looking at the innocent and cute smiling faces of the children, I couldn't help but think of the argument between the children at the beginning. Fortunately, in the end, we reached a consensus with our elders through gentle and rational communication and made the right decision.
Children have brought countless joys and joys to our lives. I and I will take them out regularly to celebrate various small festivals. Aunt Li and Uncle Zhao will also happily follow along. The happiness of children is our greatest happiness.
However, the good times were short-lived. Just when the eldest baby was in the third grade, the company suddenly went bankrupt and she was unemployed at home. My job was also laid off due to changes in the industry. For a time, the family's economy was in trouble.
During those days, both of us felt great mental and physical pressure, and we often lost our temper over trivial matters. Fortunately, the children were still young and did not notice anything unusual in the house. This is thanks to the care and cover of Li Yan and Uncle Zhao.
Even if we don't offer it, they will come and help with cooking, picking up the children, funding for living expenses, etc. He also often instructs us to keep our faith.
"Son, Mom knows that it will not be easy for you for the time being. You and you have to support each other to get through this period. If you need anything, just ask!" Aunt Li said.
Uncle Zhao also encouraged us: "Come on, young man, this difficulty is nothing, you must persevere, and it will definitely get better!"
With the help of our elders, we gradually got out of the trough. I found a new job, I got back into the workforce, and we worked together to make the family a reality. Seeing the children grow up, the longing smiling faces inspire us to keep fighting.
I often proudly said to Aunt Li: "You see, without the encouragement of you and Uncle Zhao, I would have collapsed a long time ago." Thanks to you, we can regain our confidence and allow our children to continue to live happily ever after. We owe you so much!"
Aunt Li just smiled and shook her head, looking at our family of four with a loving expression. I know that's the most important thing about being a family.