When love knocks on the door, no one can stop the surging hearts of young people. 20-year-old Kim Yu-hee meets 24-year-old Choi Min-hwan, and the two hearts sprout ambiguous flowers.
Under the bright spring light of Chang Dawn, they could not hide their longing and expectation for love in their hearts. However, the reality of life is cruel, in the face of his family's doubts that "you are still too young", in the face of the persuasion of friends around him to "be down-to-earth", and in the face of the society's condemnation of "how risky is early marriage", Jin Luxi is extremely entangled in his heart.
She understands that as a member of an idol group, choosing to marry early means the end of her career.
At that moment, she experienced heart-rending pain in her heart. Reason and emotion clash fiercely, and she is like a flat boat, drifting with the flow. In the end, her youthful impulse prevailed over her indecision, and she chose to heed the call of her heart.
The moment he put on the white wedding dress, and the moment he made a sacred vow in front of Choi Min-hwan in formal clothes, Kim Yuxi burst into tears. This is her best choice at the moment, even if there is no way back.
However, the good times did not last long, and the unexpected surprise caught Kim off guard. When the doctor diagnosed her pregnancy, her mind roared and her body went limp. She wasn't ready to be a mother yet, but the baby was already here.
Faced with the disappointment of his family and the criticism of the public, Jin Luxi could only grit his teeth and bear it alone. She doesn't want to be a burden to anyone, she just wants to be strong enough to protect this new life that has not yet been born.
In our traditional oriental culture, it is a natural responsibility for in-laws to help grandchildren, and many elderly people also enjoy it. However, for modern urban youth, this concept may need to be adjusted and changed.
Taking Jin Luxi as an example, her mother-in-law does have the ability to take care of her grandchildren, but she did not offer to help for various reasons, which undoubtedly brought great pressure to Jin Luxi to bring three children alone.
We should not simply blame the mother-in-law for not being responsible. In the fast-paced modern society, many young and middle-aged people are overloaded with work all year round, and they may not have the energy to cope with the need to take care of their grandchildren around the clock.
What's more, the physical function is also declining compared with young people, and various problems may occur at any time, and whether there is enough physical strength to ensure that the child is supported is a problem.
Take Granny Kim Luxi, for example, she may be like many middle-aged people, with bad knees and backache from time to time, and if she has to take care of three bear children during the day, it will undoubtedly be a test and wear and tear on her health.
Of course, this is not an excuse for the mother-in-law to shirk her responsibility, but a practical difficulty that requires peace and understanding between both parties.
Another reason lies in the generation gap and differences in thinking. Many of the older generation have shortcomings in their educational philosophy and are prone to disagreements with young people. For example, they may not understand the meaning of games and electronic gadgets, and they may not accept children playing with mobile phones or watching cartoons, and it is normal for them to disagree with young people on these issues.
If the mother-in-law helps her granddaughter and disagrees with Kim Ryu-hee's concept on these issues, the contradictions will slowly accumulate. For this reason, the mother-in-law may actively choose not to intervene in the child's education, and only provide necessary life care and let Kim Luxi take on the educational task herself.
For Kim, this is undoubtedly a relief. She can take care of the children alone without worrying about her mother-in-law's eyes and judgments, and has greater autonomy, which is very important for her to be a competent mother.
Of course, we should not dismiss the mother-in-law from other support that she may provide to the family, such as cooking, laundry, cleaning and other household chores, just because she is not obliged to help her granddaughter, and as a member of the family, the mother-in-law should undoubtedly fulfill these responsibilities.
So the conclusion is that there is no standard answer to whether the mother-in-law will help take care of her granddaughter, and it is still necessary to adapt to the situation of the person. But no matter what, we must send understanding and gratitude to every ordinary person who has paid.
When her first child was born, Kim felt like being a mother on thin ice. She was always on the lookout for fear that one would hurt this fragile little life if she wasn't careful.
Feeding, bathing, disinfecting, she handled every detail carefully, but it was inevitable that she didn't do it enough. She would often wake up in the middle of the night, worried about whether her child had kicked off the quilt and caught a cold.
When the child cries non-stop, she will fall into the painful self-blame of self-doubt, worrying about whether her mother's love is not enough.
The three children doubled Kim Rik-hee's anxiety. She found that her time and energy were simply not allocated, and she was often faced with a dilemma. The elder brother had to change his diaper, and the two younger sisters were noisily asking for food, and it became a problem who to take care of.
Kim Luxi deeply felt that he was powerless, and a mistake in his thoughts might cause irreparable regrets. So she learned to be more efficient in a limited amount of time, allowing the children to play under her gaze and react immediately to any abnormalities.
It's fair to say that three children honed her multitasking skills and allowed her to grow into a competent stay-at-home mom.
At the same time, the pressure of real life also makes Kim have no time to take care of the emotional needs of children. In order to make ends meet, she had to leave her children to go out to work, and at that moment her heart was like a knife.
When the child cries, she can only simply coax it with snacks and candy. This made the child develop the bad Xi of relying on candy, and it also became her new moral condemnation and self-reflection.
But when faced with a livelihood, how can she have any other choice? Kim Yuhee struggles with the harsh reality and the responsibility of being a mother, which is the path she has to face to grow up.
Her daughter's bad Xi of relying on snacks made Kim remorseful herself. At first, in order to make the child happy, she would not hesitate to prepare all kinds of delicious snacks, and the more her daughter ate, the more proud she became, as if this was her value as a mother.
Gradually, however, she discovered that her daughters were not only hungry, but also that the amount of food they ate was drastically reduced, resulting in slow physical growth, which made her feel deeply frightened and guilty.
So she decisively threw away all the snacks at home and blocked her daughter's access to snacks. At first, her daughter cried a lot, and Kim Yuxi was also tormented, but she gritted her teeth and was resolute.
This is for the sake of her daughter's healthy growth, and she has to do it. Gradually, at her insistence, her daughter stopped making noise and learned Xi eat regularly. Throughout the process, she learned to reflect on her own methods and let her daughter develop a good Xi habits.
From this, she has also grown into a more mature and stable mother.
The twin daughters are the pearls of Kim Yuxi's palm, and she watches them grow from a ball of pink to big girls, and her heart is full of love and joy. The daughters are not only the closest sisters, but also have an excellent relationship with their brother Zan'er.
Jin Luxi often sees the three children playing together, full of family fun.
The two daughters have very different personalities, one is lively and active, the other is gentle and introverted, but they are both very intelligent. Their dexterous little hands are always playing non-stop, whether it is peeling fruits, sorting toys or doing crafts, they can easily play and eat by themselves.
Kim admires her daughter's independence and believes that with this resilience, she will eventually create her own brilliant brilliance in life.
Raising three children was hard and fulfilling for Kim. When she tosses and turns in the middle of the night, she will look at the three little heads that are sleeping soundly, and her heart will be full of love and courage.
These three little lives are the greatest glory of her life, and watching them grow up every day is her happiest thing. After becoming a mother, she learned to give, learn to tolerate, and learn to be self-reliant.
From an immature girl who raised three angels in the years, she eventually grew into an excellent and sensual woman.
Kim Rik-hee's life experience is full of ups and downs, but she still chooses to fully enjoy the joy of life with a smile on her face. Perhaps, it is this perseverance that has made her the opportunity to witness her daughter's growth.
In this unpredictable world, each of us is looking for our own meaning in life. And when you are shocked by the way your child stands for the first time, and the voice that calls you "Mommy" for the first time, you will find that the meaning of life can be so simple and straightforward.
May Kim and every strong mother continue to be happy on the road of nurturing life. Let's hope that in the near future, they will appreciate the blooming of their children's splendid lives.