Maybe you have such a trouble in life? That is, in your peaceful and happy life, an invitation suddenly comes to you and makes you instantly overwhelmed, so that it perfectly disrupts your next work mood. For example, a college classmate who has cut off contact after graduation, or a colleague who has only met a few times at work suddenly informs you one day, "I'm getting married, can you come?" In this regard, you will fall into a contradiction, whether you want to be courteous, whether you want to be courteous, if you don't follow the courtesy, will it not look good, although you will feel that there is no reason for each other, obviously there is no contact with each other at all, why should you follow the courtesy, if you really have to follow the courtesy? Think about it, your head is going to explode, but in fact, there are many kinds of etiquette that do not need to be followed.
Collect money by giving gifts
With the prevalence of various bad practices today, there are more and more people who use favors as an excuse to achieve the purpose of collecting money in disguise, which is naked accumulation of wealth. Not only marriage, but also weddings and funerals people have to pay tribute to the host's family to express their friendship. The historical origin of Suili is understood to have been led by the ancients Zhu Yuanzhang. Zhu Yuanzhang's parents died of illness when he was a child, and he had no money to bury his parents, so Zhu Yuanzhang went to advance wages to the landlord, but in the end the landlord refused. Then Zhu Yuanzhang thought that one person was in trouble and supported from all directions, and used the money raised by crowdfunding to bury his parents, nominally as a gift. But with the development of society, the taste of etiquette has changed, and for those so-called friends who are not very close to themselves to ask for gifts, this kind of etiquette is not easy.
Gift not invited
As the name suggests, people didn't invite you, so why should you stick a hot face to a cold ass. This kind of courtesy will only turn into embarrassment in the end, maybe you want to get closer to the relationship because of this, or maybe in the eyes of outsiders, your behavior is climbing the relationship. Perhaps your willingness to be so generous will become a burden to the other person. Therefore, a healthy gift is that people don't invite us, so don't go forward.
Sudden salute
For those who haven't been in touch for a long time, such as roommates who have graduated for many years, if they suddenly show their concern with courtesy, it will often make the other party overwhelmed. Therefore, treating people sincerely is the king, if the friendship between two people is to be maintained by courtesy, it will only be empty. In the face of this sudden gift, don't feel embarrassed, be brave enough to say no, refuse all moral kidnapping, don't be wronged, he is embarrassed to let you go, don't be embarrassed to refuse, there is no need to continue this relationship.
There is a gift of going and no return
This kind of etiquette is like a meat bun beating a dog, there is no return. Although courtesy is not a good way to maintain a relationship, a person's long-term unilateral contribution will inevitably lead to the gradual deterioration of interpersonal relationships. This time Zhang San got married, Li Si gave a gift of 500 yuan, and it was Li Si's turn to get married, but Zhang San was missing, for this kind of relationship, then Li Si would think: Is it necessary to continue this relationship with Zhang San
courtesy
As the saying goes: courtesy is light and affectionate, once the courtesy is linked to money and how much money, it is over. With the gift is a feeling, so as to achieve the effect of the gift, effective with the gift will make the relationship between relatives and friends become intimate, and the ineffective gift will only make the giver feel troubled, so that the recipient feels burdened.
Of course, with the acceleration of the pace of social life, it may be that very close relatives can only get together for a meal for a year and a half, so people have come up with these banquets such as school banquets, housewarming banquets, opening banquets and military banquets, etc., perhaps the original purpose is just to find a suitable reason for relatives and friends to get together, but slowly, the nature and original intention have changed, and they have begun to discount these so-called banner disguised gift money.
Rites and red envelopes have a very important place in Chinese culture, as they represent the emotional connection, social etiquette and cultural traditions between people. First of all, both gifts and red envelopes carry emotions and relationships between people. Gift-giving is a way to express friendship, gratitude, and blessings, which can not only enhance the feelings between people, but also a way to convey heart. In Chinese culture, red envelopes symbolize blessings and respect for others. Receiving a red envelope is not only the meaning of money, but also a recognition of the other party's heart. Whether it is a birthday, wedding, Spring Festival and other festivals, receiving gifts and red envelopes represents care and blessings for each other, and conveys emotional warmth through these gifts and red envelopes.
In addition, in business occasions, gifts and red envelopes are also a common business etiquette to express respect and gratitude to partners. Secondly, red envelopes also carry some cultural and traditional meanings. In Chinese culture, red envelopes are one of the many traditions, and red envelopes from elders to juniors and leaders to subordinates are even more common during the Spring Festival. This kind of red envelope not only contains material gifts, but also represents the inheritance of traditional culture and the blessing of family happiness. At the same time, the red envelope is also a symbol of family values and relationship exchange, and the warmth and happiness of the family are conveyed through the giving and receiving of red envelopes.
However, with the development and change of society, the perception of gifts and red envelopes is also gradually changing. Some people believe that the phenomenon of excessive courtesy and red envelope culture has formed a "comparison" mentality, losing its original sincerity and purity. Others believe that gifts and red envelopes have become illusory due to commercialization and utilitarianism. Some people take a middle-of-the-road attitude, believing that reasonable courtesy and a moderate red envelope culture can enhance the affection and friendship between people, but the emphasis is on sincerity and heart. In general, as a symbol of traditional culture, the gift and red envelope carry the emotional bond, respect and blessing between people. Although the changes in modern society have brought new challenges to the gifts and red envelopes, they still retain their unique connotations and values, and are of great significance to people's lives and cultural traditions. For gifts and red envelopes, we should pay more attention to their sincerity and emotional expression, rather than simple material exchange.