Chunyan in "The World" is blackened, in fact, after reading it, you will find that there is a reason for Zhou Bingkun, showing two completely different faces in handling interpersonal relationships.
On the one hand, he showed a kind and enthusiastic side to Zheng Juan and Yu Hong, not only giving them material help, but also doing his best to teach them some life skills.
On the other hand, Zhou Bingkun showed indifference and neglect when facing Qiao Chunyan. Although Qiao Chunyan had given him selflessly, he did not pay attention to and care for him.
This attitude undoubtedly exacerbated the contradictions between the two and eventually led to the breakdown of the relationship.
It is precisely because of Zhou Bingkun's double standards that Qiao Chunyan and Debao feel unfair and betrayed.
They originally had a deep friendship with Zhou Bingkun, but in the end they were dissatisfied and resentful because of Zhou Bingkun's indifference and neglect.
The accumulation of this emotion eventually led to their blackening.
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Zhou Bingkun showed a completely different attitude towards Chunyan and Yu Hong's requests for help.
Chunyan asked Zhou Bingkun for help twice, but he directly refused with impatience.
In stark contrast, Yu Hong's family asked for help twice, and Zhou Bingkun did not hesitate to lend a hand, and even helped others to the end.
Zhou Bingkun's double standards undoubtedly made Chunyan feel deeply unfair and betrayed.
When Chunyan encountered difficulties in the Zhou family, she always stood up to help as soon as possible, and never cared about gains and losses.
When she needed help, Zhou Bingkun rejected her indifferently. This kind of indifference and neglect undoubtedly exacerbated the dissatisfaction and resentment in Chunyan's heart.
On the contrary, Zhou Bingkun's help to Hong not only reflects his kindness and enthusiasm, but also allows him to establish a good image in Yu Hong's heart.
If there are many times, it is easy to have a heart of contrast, and what people are most afraid of is unevenness, which is the case with human nature.
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Chunyan and Zhou Bingkun have a deep friendship, far more than Yu Hong.
The bond between them is not only a kinship relationship, but also built on years of mutual support and trust.
During the period when Zhou's mother became a vegetative person, it was Chunyan's massage techniques that awakened her, which was undoubtedly Chunyan's great contribution to the Zhou family.
In addition, Chunyan's mother also saved Feng Yue, making Chunyan's family a lifesaver for the Zhou family.
Although Chunyan has such a deep friendship and contribution to the Zhou family, Zhou Bingkun's attitude towards Chunyan is very indifferent and impatient.
Not only did he not give enough care and patience to Chunyan's request for help, but he also hurt Chunyan's feelings by directly refusing.
This attitude is clearly not in line with the proper way of a friend or savior.
It can be said that Chunyan's blackening is not entirely due to her selfishness and narrow-mindedness, and Zhou Bingkun's attitude has also contributed to this result to a certain extent.
If one party turns a blind eye to the other's efforts, or even treats them indifferently, then the relationship will be difficult to sustain for a long time.
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Chunyan has been helping Zhou Bingkun, while Yu Hong and Catch-up have been asking Zhou Bingkun for help.
Regarding Chunyan's request, Zhou Bingkun always refused directly with indifference and impatience, and even gave no explanation.
As for Yu Hong's request, Zhou Bingkun showed patience and concern, not only helping to the end, but also making an exception to ask his brother Zhou Bingyi for help.
This difference in attitude undoubtedly made Chunyan feel cold.
If Zhou Bingkun could give Chunyan a good attitude, even if he just listened to her with care and patience, Chunyan might not feel so disappointed and betrayed.
When dealing with interpersonal relationships, we should focus on balance and fairness, and should not have different attitudes towards different people.
If one person keeps giving to another and the other person doesn't know how to reciprocate and be grateful, then the relationship is prone to problems.
After Yu Hong received Zhou Bingkun's help, he did not reciprocate and be grateful like Zhou Bingkun.
She didn't realize that her actions had caused harm to Chunyan, and she didn't take the initiative to make up for it.
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Although Chunyan sometimes seems selfish, she still shows a kind side at critical moments.
In the demolition and relocation of the light word piece, Chunyan questioned Chang Jin's qualifications for subdivision, but did not target Yu Hong.
This shows that although Chunyan is dissatisfied, she still takes into account a certain amount of fairness and justice.
On the contrary, although Yu Hong was helped by Zhou Bingkun many times, he did not hesitate to refuse the only time Zhou Bingkun asked her for help.
Yu Hong obtained Zhou Bingkun's loan and Zheng Juan's house through a miserable sale, but when Zhou Bingkun asked her to discuss with the tenant to expand the business, she refused without hesitation, and even showed impatience.
When an awkward situation arose between Zhou Bingkun and Yu Hong, Chunyan appeared in time and shifted the focus of the conflict, avoiding further disputes.
This kind of behavior makes people wonder if she really knows how to be grateful and reciprocate.
Although it seems to be trustworthy on the surface, this kind of behavior is actually a kind of profit calculation, lacking real gratitude and reward.
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Chunyan asked for a room to be divided and took the way of reporting, which is indeed wrong.
When we consider Zhou Bingkun's double standards for Chunyan and Yu Hong, Chunyan's psychological imbalance is understandable.
While helping Yu Hong, Zhou Bingkun rejected Chunyan's request many times. It's easy to feel unfair and ignored by this kind of behavior.
Chunyan's contribution to the Zhou family is obvious to all, she not only helps materially, but also supports spiritually. In contrast, Zhou Bingkun's help to Yu Hong was more positive.
Some people think that Chunyan didn't lend money to Zhou Bingkun because she didn't trust him, but this is not entirely true.
Chunyan is actually a very righteous person, and she once gave great help to the Zhou family during their difficult times.
Zhou Bingkun should pay more attention to balance and fairness when dealing with interpersonal relationships. His different attitudes towards Chunyan and Yu Hong can easily lead to an imbalance in the relationship.