30 years old is a golden age of hope for a woman.
Yan Hongwei passed away at the age of 30. She could have had more and more brilliant lives, but God made a joke and took away her short life.
In 1984, in Jinzhong, Shanxi, Yan Hongwei was born in an ordinary family. At that time, there was still a shadow of poverty in China, and it was not easy for girls like her to get an education.
However, Yan Hongwei relied on his own efforts and perseverance, step by step, and finally got his wish and was admitted to Nanjing University of Science and Technology.
The university gave Yan Hongwei the opportunity to spread his wings and fly high. She not only focused on her studies and Xi, but also actively participated in club activities, and the colorful campus life also made this Shanxi girl shine brightly.
At a dance, she met the love of her life, Wu Zaibin.
After graduation, Yan Hongwei chose to continue his studies. Eventually, she got her Ph.D. and became a university lecturer. What should have been a smooth sailing life suddenly stopped at the age of 30, and the cancer accident put an end to her future.
The fight against the disease used up all her courage, and she was not willing to give up easily, even if there was little hope. However, the cancer cells eventually broke her fragile life.
With the support of her husband and daughter, she reached the end of her life at the age of only 30.
It's all over before it even begins. She missed the happy family she could have, the peak moment of her career, and the joy of accompanying her daughter to grow up...... Youth withered, and life and bloom came to naught in an instant.
Every passing of life reminds us to be more appreciative of the fragility and impermanence of life.
In life, sincere love is like a flash in the pan, and that beautiful encounter has also made Yan Hongwei and Wu Zaibin bond across time.
A dance party in college made two hearts that should have operated independently intersect at that moment. Yan Hongwei took the initiative to invite Wu Zaibin, who was still shy in the corner, to be her dance partner, and the two danced on the dance floor, and the fit between music and body evoked inexplicable familiarity.
After the dance, Wu Zaibin asked Yan Hongwei to have dinner to show his gratitude. Since then, Xi has become Xi, and the relationship between the two has become natural.
After graduating from college, they chose to go their separate ways, but their hearts never changed. Six years later, the two lovesick hearts reunited, and in this year, their wedding bell finally rang.
Married life should have been a happy portrayal, and they did reap this accumulated auspicious reward - a lovely daughter added endless laughter to the couple.
However, the good times did not last long, and a diagnostic report ruthlessly rewrote the trajectory of their lives. Yan Hongwei is destined to fight to the death against the accident of cancer, and Wu Zaibin must also face this sudden change.
Every day when his wife was fighting against the disease, Wu Zaibin held her hand tightly and staged all his responsibilities to the guardian of this home. He always believed that happiness was just around the corner, and only by fighting side by side with his wife could he go to the other side of hope.
However, he still lost her. Also lost was the most important pillar of the family, and he had to take on everything on his own. Rather than nostalgia for the love and dreams that have passed, it is better to say that it is a touching encounter.
"Give me another chance!" This is Yan Hongwei's inner cry. Faced with the desperate situation of coming to the end of her life, she still wants to try one last time.
In the cold winter of 2018, Yan Hongwei embarked on a journey to the United States for medical treatment with slim hope. The world's top MD Anderson Cancer Center was the best choice for her.
Even if the process is difficult, she has to fight for that one in 10,000 chance.
However, expectations are always easily dashed. The high cost of examination is the first bucket of cold water, blood draw, CT, PET ...... She spent $6,000 on a single checklist.
This is far beyond her imagination.
In a foreign country, high medical bills keep coming. Everything, including punctures, films, and even just medical consultations, comes with a huge "entrance fee".
These astronomical figures do not give any concession in the slightest because of her terminal illness.
Waiting is what she feels most in the United States. Wait for the test, wait for the results, wait for the face-to-face ...... The long time was infinitely extended, and the disease in her body quickened its pace.
All the waiting was telling her that the end of her expectations was already doomed.
Thirty-nine days and nights passed, and she had not received any treatment, no new medicines, and the only thing that had changed was her account balance, which was 0. Choosing to give up treatment and return to China is a very obvious helplessness and despair for Yan Hongwei.
High-tech treatment does not bring hope, but a double drain of money and time. Under the cruel tricks of fate, she saw so clearly for the first time how far the distance between life and death is.
Wu Zaibin used to be the definition of "perfect husband" in the minds of the public, but the label of "scumbag" replaced him overnight.
The reason was that he made his new relationship public only a year after Yan Hongwei's death. The short time change is shocking, and what is even more incredible is that the new lover turned out to be the nurse who took care of Yan Hongwei.
"This is the true face of Wu Zaibin!" I've been waiting so long just to find a new love!" After netizens saw the news, they relentlessly vented their emotions, and thousands of comments constituted an airtight web of accusations.
Some people question whether Wu Zaibin's past dedication and care are also acting, and his current performance seems to confirm these conjectures. The scuttling of the perfect image is staged on the Internet.
But are we in a position to judge the private lives of others?
The finite life and the trauma of losing his loved one made Wu Zaibin also struggle in pain. A new romance may just be his instinct to seek spiritual sustenance. If we put ourselves in his shoes, the merits no longer matter.
Behind this incident is the characteristics of the current netizen comments. In moral judgment, we are always Xi of habitual choice to attack and deny. Such a negative spread of emotions will not solve any problem and will only make our time lose the ability to tolerate and understand.
The fragility of life is like morning dew, fleeting.
Each of us will leave this world, the difference is when and how. Yan Hongwei could have had a happy life, but she died of illness at the age of 30, and her tragedy reminds us to cherish the meaning of life even more.
Life means the accumulation of time. Before the green boy had time to bloom, it had already withered. We must strive to move forward in our lifetime, and strive to live a meaningful life at every moment; It is necessary to make up for all regrets in time, because life does not wait for anyone, it will only pass mercilessly.
Life means the sublimation of feelings. Love and marriage are a portrayal of happiness and eternity, but a diagnostic report makes them change rapidly. The most precious thing about a relationship is its fragility, and we need to maintain, nurture and sublimate it on the basis of time.
Life means the continuation of family affection. Even if the deceased are gone, the flesh and blood they leave behind will live on in the world. We all have the obligation to protect the inheritance of this life, so that future generations can avoid the suffering of their ancestors and enjoy more sunshine that belongs to them.
Everything will eventually turn to dust, but the meaning of life is hidden in this fleeting moment. Each of us has a responsibility to cherish life, protect it, and make our lives more meaningful.
This is the only answer that life has left us.