As we all know, the longer you are in a relationship, the harder it is to get married.
Originally, a couple who couldn't get married after seven or eight years of talking, went on a blind date after breaking up, and then they could marry the opposite sex who had known each other for a few months.
At this time, the partner who has expectations for long-distance running love will be stunned, are those feelings in the past fake?
It turned out that it was not that I couldn't get married, but that I didn't want to marry myself.
In fact, we all know that being in love and living together for a long time is really similar to getting married, but just a certificate is missing.
I have loved everything that should be loved, I have experienced everything that should have been experienced, and in the end, it is just the responsibility left.
Some couples who have been in love for many years and finally enter into marriage have more responsibilities than love.
I remembered an interview with Shen Teng, he said: "I feel that if I don't marry Wang Qi now, I will be a sinner!"
At that time, everyone could see that he didn't want to marry Wang Qi, but just said to marry out of responsibility.
He and Wang Qi have been in love for 12 years, and they have been together without a formal confession.
There was no Valentine's Day, no birthday gifts to each other, and no Christmas, Wang Qi said that they were a couple who didn't know how to be romantic.
Shen Teng's marriage proposal ceremony was probably the most touching moment in Wang Qi's life.
Shen Teng said that he had the obligation to give her a result, and in his heart, Wang Qi was his relative.
Human love is always the hottest at the beginning and can last up to 4 years.
And 12 years have long been out of the mood, and the relationship has become a foregone conclusion.
Therefore, Shen Teng is very trouble-free, and he doesn't want to manage his feelings at all.
Wang Qi accompanied him from obscurity to today's household name, from the trough to the peak.
If he doesn't marry Wang Qi, not only will he feel like a sinner, but the audience will also feel the same.
Being the real-life version of Xue Pinggui is too costly for him, after all, his career achievements today are only available through hard work.
In addition, Du Haitao and Shen Mengchen, who have been in love for almost 10 years, are also constantly urged to marry.
Xie Na and He Jiong were speechless when they asked, and they didn't want to tie the knot.
But recently it was rumored that he was going to get married, is it really because of love?
Unknown.
For public figures, if they are not careful, the marriage event directly leads to the overturning of their careers.
We always see couples who have been married for 10 years, and they feel so romantic, and they believe in love again.
But we often don't see the impulse and determination of the boy to get married in such stories.
Being repeatedly urged by relatives and friends, and being urged by public opinion is more important.
Comparing hearts to hearts, I think those who can still enter marriage after 10 years of relationship are really brave.
The longer you are in love, the harder it is to get married, and this kind of relationship is more testing.
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Loss of freshness
When the novelty is lost, it is difficult for two people to go on without spiritual integration and attachment.
Because it is instinct to like the new and hate the old, it is not easy to stick to a relationship against instinct.
I talked to a netizen who was looking for a temporary girlfriend everywhere, and I chatted with him out of curiosity.
He talked about a girlfriend of 8 years, from school to work, and didn't talk about getting married.
Because he said that sleeping together in the back was purer than brothers, and he felt that there was no future together, so it was better to break up.
Many people may say that this man is really scumbag, and he has been delaying girls for so long!
But what can he do if he doesn't love him, even if he marries a girl, it's not a good thing for her.
This thing is very helpless, after all, people have changed their hearts, and even he has nothing to do about himself!
I was thinking that a woman who makes a man no longer have any desires probably won't really marry.
Because we won't marry a man who has no desires, men will get tired of it, and so will women.
Falling in love and living together is the same as living after marriage, and the life that can be experienced before marriage naturally does not want to spend money to do it again.
So men tend to be very shrewd at this time, and they get married happily if they change someone.
And some women think that the longer the time, the deeper the feelings.
Maybe it's not deep feelings, but a Xi that permeates the bones.
Men and women release their love when they first meet, but this has a time limit and cannot be maintained in a state of high concentration all the time.
Marriage really needs to rely on hormones to stimulate it, and go to get a certificate.
Otherwise, the more you get along, the more sober you become, time will expand a person's shortcomings, and it will be more difficult to get married when the time comes.
The loss of freshness and the risk of cheating are both huge tests for both of them.
And love is a very ethereal feeling, we don't know when it starts and when it disappears, but we need this feeling to enter into marriage.
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Without love, marriage is in vain
Because the boy delays the girl for too long, some people will marry her out of guilt and pressure.
For example, Shen Teng, such as Chen He.
Chen He and his ex-wife have been in love for 13 years and got married as they wished.
But after marriage, he quickly cheated on the grounds that his ex-wife didn't want to have children, and he wanted them.
On this issue, I didn't reach a consensus after 13 years of love, and then I divorced after a year of marriage because of fertility problems.
Chen He was guilty, so he was also generous to his ex-wife, and his ex-wife also knew the general situation and came out to speak for Chen He.
In fact, if you don't love it, even if you reluctantly get married, it's not the end of happiness.
It's a pity that the relationship for many years has disappeared, but if you don't love it and forcibly continue your fate, isn't it a tragedy?
If a man does not love a woman and wants to marry her, then after marriage, this woman will not be spiritually satisfied.
For example, Wang Qi and Shen Teng live without any sense of ceremony, and Shen Teng said that he will never express any feelings.
If a man wants to express love, will he not know the sense of ritual, will he not know how to give gifts?
Living with such a man, we don't know how much Shen Teng can meet Wang Qi's spiritual needs.
Shen Teng said that he and Ma Li had a more tacit understanding than Wang Qi, how did this sound to Wang Qi?
Of course, Shen Teng is a box office king of tens of billions, and Wang Qi is cost-effective even if he is not mentally demanded.
It's just that if a man under ordinary conditions, if he is unwilling to get married, there is no need to force such a marriage.
Respect a person's heart, respect your own heart, don't force others to make things difficult, so that you will not hurt yourself.
Although the loss of years of relationship will be painful for a while, it is always smaller than betting on the loss for the rest of your life.
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There is no need to regret the long-distance running of love without results
If a person doesn't want to get married, you can't force him.
The unwillingness of long-distance running love without results is a bit like a gambler who loses too much money at the gambling table.
Suddenly to lose everything, once the top has to invest more gambling money to return to the capital, the dealer is not done, he will make trouble.
Therefore, this kind of psychology is not love, the sunk cost is already high, the acceptance is over, and the investment must be increased, and it will only be higher in the end.
Xiaotong did this, she and her boyfriend have been in love for 7 years, and the boy has no plans to get married.
At the beginning, he said that he wanted to start a career first, but then his career improved, and he wanted to buy a house, but it dragged on for 7 years.
Xiaotong's parents were very anxious, she saw that her boyfriend was getting better and better, and she was afraid that he would leave her one day when his wings were hard.
So, she got pregnant.
Xiaotong's mother said that when a man has a child, he will start a family and start a family.
With the stability of the rear, he will be able to better create a happy life for his wife and children.
Now that both parents have met, they both thought they would get married.
Xiaotong actually felt that her mother was reasonable, men can't give up their children.
When her boyfriend learned that Xiaotong was pregnant, he was not particularly happy, but he didn't say that he would let her beat it, and since she had it, she would give birth.
At the beginning, Xiaotong was also happy, as if she had a child, and her boyfriend cared more about her.
He said that children are married after they are born.
However, the change also happened after the birth of the child, who came home less and less and was busier at work.
The birth of the child made Xiaotong even more anxious, but she was more worried about someone outside her boyfriend.
When it comes to getting married, he began to shirk it again, he said that his career is on the rise, and he is all about work, what do you eat with your children if you don't have a job?
Xiaotong was anxious when she heard this: "Marriage doesn't affect your work, are you someone outside and don't want me and my children?"
How many times have you cared for your baby since it was born, how many times have you hugged it?"
The boyfriend would argue at first, saying that he was so busy with work that he couldn't be understood at home.
He couldn't see the hardships of pregnant women in his eyes at all.
Women want to check the clues of men outside, and they can always find them.
Xiaotong finally found out on her boyfriend's mobile phone that he had an ambiguous relationship with his female boss, and a lot of the reason for his career development was because of this boss.
After finding out, there was a showdown, he didn't want to marry Xiaotong at all, he was going to break up, but he didn't expect to have a child.
After the derailment, he has no feelings for Xiaotong.
He pays child support, but will not get married.
The reluctant feelings really can't last long.
Xiaotong regretted his efforts, but he couldn't kidnap the man, and finally hurt himself even more.
It is really important to stop losses in time in a relationship, especially if the other party is not in love, even if it is painful, you have to let go.
When it comes to marriage, only willingly, a man will want to marry a woman back.
And he will arrange everything, and he doesn't need a woman to urge behind the ass.
It's not good to keep urging it, it's better to give the relationship a deadline.
If you don't get the desired result by the deadline, it's better to let it go.
Time is limited, no one can afford to delay, if you don't love, you should fulfill each other and find what you love.