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My name is Li Xiaofang, I have been married for two years, and I have been sleeping with my husband Li Xiaoming. The two of us have a good relationship, we sleep together every night, and when we wake up in the morning and look at each other, our hearts are warm.
Yesterday, I said that I would go back to my parents' house for a few days, but Xiao Ming firmly objected to letting me go back. I was taken aback and asked him why. Xiao Ming said: "The wife can't go back to her parents' house to sleep, this is superstition, which will affect the relationship." ”
I think he is too superstitious and said: "Xiao Ming, this is the era of enlightenment, and these superstitious concepts have long been outdated." What does it matter if I go back to my parents' house and won't sleep with other men?"
Xiao Ming said: "This is not superstition, you can't deny the wisdom of the ancients." It makes sense for couples to sleep in separate rooms. ”
I thought he was inexplicable, and insisted on going back to his parents' house: "Xiao Ming, you are too superstitious." I'll just go back to my parents' house for a few days, what's the big deal, anyway, I'll video chat with you every day. ”
Xiao Ming looked unhappy, but he couldn't stop me. Today I took the high-speed train back to my parents' house alone. As soon as I arrived at my parents' house, I missed Xiao Ming. Although he was sometimes superstitious, he was really good to me and a responsible husband.
When my mother saw that I was back, she hurriedly asked me, "Xiaofang, why are you back alone?"
I said, "Xiao Ming, that superstitious ghost, won't let me go back to my parents' house to sleep, saying that my wife can't go back to her parents' house to live." I thought he was too unreasonable, so I came back. ”
Mom smiled and said, "Xiaofang, men are a little superstitious, don't mind." Is Xiao Ming not good to you? Your relationship is the most important thing. ”
I said, "It's just that the relationship is good." I won't do anything to be sorry for him at my mother's house, what's there to mind. ”
Mom came over and touched my head and said, "Good boy, Mom knows that you are not happy." But you also have to be considerate of Xiao Ming, he is kind, don't be angry with him. ”
I leaned on my mother's arms, still a little angry with Xiao Ming. But on second thought, he has lived in a traditional environment since he was a child, and it is understandable to be conservative.
Actually, I love him very much, but there are some conceptual collisions. Going back to my parents' house for a few days this time may be a new experience for both of us.
Back at my parents' house, I sat in the courtyard in a daze, remembering my love experience with Xiao Ming.
Xiao Ming is a good traditional man and takes good care of me. Since he was a child, he heard his parents say that after marrying a wife, he can't let her go back to her parents' house, which is an ancient precept. I laughed at him at the time for being superstitious, but he looked serious: "Xiaofang, this is the wisdom of our ancestors, it is about family happiness, you have to believe it." ”
Looking at his serious appearance, I can't refute him anymore. Now that I think about it, Xiao Ming's growth environment and I are indeed very different.
I am an only child, and my parents both work in the city and are open-minded. Xiao Ming is from the countryside, and his parents taught him many ancient precepts since he was a child, and he has them firmly in his heart.
This time I insisted on going back to my parents' house, Xiao Ming must be in a hurry. But I'm sure he loves me so much that he'll figure it out.
Just when I was distracted, the phone suddenly rang, and it was Xiao Ming who made a video call. I quickly picked it up and saw his anxious face.
"Xiaofang, have you arrived at your mother's house, are you uncomfortable?" Xiao Ming asked nervously.
I comforted him, "I'm fine, don't worry." I'm sorry, I shouldn't have gone back to my parents' house without listening to you. ”
Xiao Ming said: "It's okay, it's my fault, I shouldn't stop you from going back to your parents' house." As long as you're happy. ”
Seeing him so attentive, my heart warms. I said, "I'm sorry to worry you." I only stayed at my mother's house for two days and then went back. ”
Xiao Ming nodded: "Well, you have a good time at your mother's house." I'll miss you. ”
After hanging up the phone, my mother came over and said, "Look, how anxious your husband is." I just love you so much. Don't blame him for being superstitious, learn to be considerate. ”
Mom smiled and nodded: "Good boy, as long as you have a good relationship, don't worry about small things."
In my parents' house these days, I think about Xiao Ming all the time. I remember when we first fell in love, we often talked on the phone all night and talked sweet love words. Now that we're arguing, I miss his voice so much.
Last night, I sent a message to apologize to Xiao Ming: "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have gone back to my parents' house without listening to you, and I shouldn't have said that you were superstitious." Will you forgive me?"
After a long time, Xiao Ming replied: "It's okay, it's me who overreacted." Just have fun at your mother's house. ”
After Xiao Ming connected, I said with red eyes: "Xiao Ming, I'm sorry, it's all my fault, don't be angry with me, okay?"
Xiao Ming sighed and said, "Fool, how can I be angry with you." How could I really blame you for this little thing?"
I said with teary eyes, "Then why did you reply to my message in such a cold tone?"
Xiao Ming hurriedly explained: "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I have a problem with my expression." I'm not mad at you, I love you. ”
Hearing him say this, my heart finally fell back to its original place. I said, "I love you too, Xiao Ming." I want to go home to you right now. ”
Xiao Ming smiled and said, "Okay, I'll pick you up at the train station." By the way, I have something important to tell you when I get back. ”
I was curious, "What's the matter?" ”
Xiao Ming smiled mysteriously: "You'll know when you turn around." I'm going to buy a ticket first, love you!"
When I hung up, I was overjoyed. It seems that Xiao Ming is not only not angry with me, but also has a surprise for me.
Mom saw that I was happy, smiled and said, "Look, your husband loves you more than you think." In the future, if you encounter something you don't understand, you have to learn to communicate, instead of arguing in a hurry. ”
I nodded, "I see, Mom." I'll communicate well with Ming. ”
Mom instructed again: "When you go, listen to your husband, don't be stubborn." Your relationship is the most important thing. ”
I smiled and agreed. After packing my bags and getting on the train home, I was looking forward to Xiao Ming's surprise. This time I went back to my parents' house, and I grew a lot. From now on, I will understand Xiao Ming better and build a stronger relationship with him.
The train slowly approached the platform, and I looked to find Xiao Ming. When I walked out of the platform, I saw him standing at the exit with a flower waving to me, with a happy smile on his face.
I walked over quickly, and Xiao Ming hugged me into his arms.
"Xiaofang, welcome home. You must miss me a lot these days, right?" Xiao Ming said softly.
I nodded, blushed, and said, "I think you think you think about it." I won't leave you for so many days again. ”
Xiao Ming smiled and rubbed my hair: "Fool, I think you can't think of it too." Let's go, go home and I'll tell you the surprise. ”
When I got in the car, I couldn't help but ask, "What kind of surprise is it?"
Xiao Ming smiled mysteriously: "You'll know later." By the way, have you been reflecting on our problems these days?"
I said seriously, "Yes, I know I was wrong. In the future, if I don't understand something, I will communicate with you well and will not lose my temper unilaterally. Also, I will respect your opinion and will not laugh at your superstition. ”
Xiao Ming nodded with satisfaction: "I also have reflections, and in the future, I will explain the truth in the traditional concept to you in a more scientific way, instead of forcing you to accept it." The most important thing is that we understand each other. ”
I smiled happily: "Great! It seems that going back to my parents' house this time has brought our relationship one step further." ”
When he got home, Xiao Ming mysteriously took out a book from the drawer: "Come, this is my surprise preparation!"
I took a look at it, and it turned out to be a book that explained the connotation of traditional Xi science. I was so happy that I quickly opened it and took a closer look.
He patiently explained to me, and I listened carefully, asking my own questions from time to time.
This quarrel made my relationship with Xiao Ming even stronger. We learn to understand and trust each other instead of blindly criticizing. In the future, when we encounter disagreements, we will communicate and resolve them in a more mature way.
I am grateful for this experience of returning to my parents' home and allowing me to grow into a better woman and wife. From now on, I will go hand in hand with Xiao Ming to build a happy marriage.
This book gave me a new perspective on many traditional ideas. I found that there was a very deep philosophy in it, and it was not as superstitious as I thought.
After reading a chapter, I couldn't help but sigh: "It turns out that the ancients established these Xi customs out of the wisdom of life, which is actually very scientific. I really didn't know much about it before. ”
Xiao Ming smiled and said: "I'll just say it, you don't always regard traditional culture as superstition." We should understand them with a rational and scientific attitude. ”
I nodded and said, "You're right, I'll read more books on this subject in the future, and don't jump to conclusions." Perhaps there are more scientific connotations of traditional ideas that are worth exploring. ”
Xiao Ming said happily: "Great, I am relieved that you can have such an idea." We learn together and Xi makes life more meaningful. ”
Seeing his excitement, I couldn't help but laugh. I said, "yes, that's exactly what I want to live in life." I will try my best to learn Xi and explore the mysteries of life with you. ”
We read a few more chapters with great interest. I found that many of the truths mentioned in the book were actually subconsciously agreed with by me, but they were diluted by modern thought.
For example, the problem of husband and wife sharing a bed and sleeping together is mentioned in the book to affect the spirit and energy, resulting in a lack of concentration. I remember that I've been feeling tired lately, and it probably really has something to do with it.
Later, Xiao Ming pointed to a paragraph and said: "You see, it is said here that husband and wife should pay attention to ventilation when sharing the same bed, and they should sleep separately, so as to achieve the effect of regulating essence." ”
It suddenly dawned on me: "It turns out that there is still this kind of exquisiteness! It seems that we usually do things wrong, no wonder I always feel uncomfortable." ”
Xiao Ming said with a smile: "Yes, we didn't understand scientific principles before, but now that we know it, we will follow these Xi customs, and the quality of life will improve." ”
I nodded and said, "I totally agree!" Let's fix these unscientific Xi habits. ”
Since that day, Xiao Ming and I have been practicing the scientific Xi in the book in our lives. After the adjustment, I feel much better in spirit, and Xiao Ming's work efficiency has improved.
This book changed my mind and taught me to respect the combination of tradition and modernity. As a result, my relationship with Xiao Ming was strengthened, and we found our own happy lifestyle.
After reading this book, I have a new understanding of traditional culture. It is not an immutable superstition, but a treasure trove of rich scientific wisdom.
I excitedly said to Xiao Ming: "My dear, I have really learned a lot! The traditional culture of our Chinese nation is broad and profound, and we need to explore it with a scientific and open-minded attitude. ”
Xiao Ming smiled and nodded: "Yes, traditional Chinese medicine, dietary therapy, Kanyu, etc. all have profound cultural heritage, and we should carry them forward, rather than despise them." ”
I said, "I was really short-sighted. This experience of returning to my parents' home has given me a major upgrade in my understanding of traditional culture!"
Xiao Ming held my hand and said gently, "My dear wife, you can have such an understanding, which is a sign of the progress of our relationship. Let's explore the mysteries of traditional culture and live a meaningful life together. ”
I was so moved that I nodded with tears in my eyes.
Since then, Xiao Ming and I have often studied other traditional culture books together and discussed how to apply those scientific Xi practices in our lives.
Once, we studied TCM books and found that many therapies are very effective for common ailments in modern people.
I said, "We can often drink some Chinese herbal health soup, regulate the spleen and stomach according to the book, and we can also acupuncture acupuncture points." It's good for improving your physique. ”
Xiao Ming agreed: "You are right, we use traditional Chinese medicine health care methods to improve our own resistance, reduce the number of illnesses, and it is also environmentally friendly and economical." ”
Again, we looked at dietary therapy. It turns out that many daily ingredients have medicinal effects, and when paired properly, they can achieve the purpose of conditioning the body.
I said to Xiao Ming: "We can try these therapeutic menus in the book, eat less greasy food, and eat more medicinal and edible things, and we should be healthier." ”
Xiao Ming smiled and nodded: "You're right, we adjust the diet according to the diet therapy, and we can also help the elderly and children supplement their nutrition, killing multiple birds with one stone." ”
I felt extremely happy and satisfied to see him listen to my thoughts so carefully. I will continue to work hard to learn Xi traditional culture and live a meaningful life with Xiao Ming.