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My name is Zhang Dashan, I am 38 years old, I work as a sales manager in a foreign company, although the work is very stressful, but the income is okay. My wife Li Mei and I were college classmates, and we got married after three years of dating, and we have been ten years now.
Li Mei has a gentle personality and is beautiful, and she is the perfect wife in my mind. After getting married, she quit her job, concentrated on her husband and children, and gave birth to a lovely daughter, Xiaofang. I love them very much, and I always remind myself to work hard for the sake of my family.
But recently, Li Mei often said that I was too focused on my career and neglected my family, and she often complained that I worked too late and that she was all worried about her children's education. I understand her frustration, but it's hard to get out of work and I can only make sure to go home as soon as possible. Li Mei's words made me anxious, but I didn't know how to make her happy.
Just yesterday, I worked late and didn't get home until almost 12 o'clock. When I entered, the living room light was still on, and I walked over lightly, wanting to surprise Li Mei. Just as I was passing by the living room, I saw Li Mei hugging our neighbor Xiao Wang!
I stood there in shock, my mind blank. After a long time, I asked tremblingly, "Li Mei, what are you doing?"
I looked at them with mixed feelings, angry, sad, and a little scared. I tried to control my emotions, took a few deep breaths, and then pretended to be calm and said, "Meimei, I believe you, there must be some misunderstanding." Let's have a good talk, you go back to your room and wait for me first. ”
Li Mei nodded and went back to the bedroom. I asked Xiao Wang to go back to his house as well, closed the door, and sat down on the sofa in the living room by myself.
All kinds of thoughts are rolling in my mind, and I can't believe that Li Mei will betray me! How can our marriage break up? How can I ask clearly? What if I think too much? Should I believe Li Mei or my own eyes?
After more than ten minutes, I sorted out my emotions and went to the bedroom. Li Mei sat on the edge of the bed, and as soon as she saw me coming in, she anxiously explained: "Dashan, it was really a misunderstanding just now! Xiao Wang just came to borrow something, and we have nothing to do with it!"
I tried to stay calm and said, "Meimei, I've seen it all, don't hide it anymore." Even if you have a special relationship with Xiao Wang, we can talk about it. ”
Li Mei said anxiously: "Dashan, I am absolutely loyal to you! I take care of my family every day, how can I cheat? You have to believe me!"
I still wanted to say something, Li Mei suddenly burst into tears: "Dashan, is it possible that our ten-year relationship has no weight in your heart."
Seeing Li Mei crying like this, I was also very distressed. Although I still doubted it, I couldn't bear to let her be so sad.
I comforted her softly: "Meimei, don't cry, you calm down first." I believe you, just a little confused. Shall we talk slowly?"
Li Mei sobbed and said, "Dashan, I really didn't do anything to be sorry for you. Not long after Xiao Wang moved in, he came to the house today to borrow a lunch box, and I happened to have it in my hand, so there was a short hug, which was purely a friendly gesture between normal friends. ”
I hesitated, but decided to believe Li Mei: "Then this misunderstanding will end here, I shouldn't be cranky." I'm sorry, Meimei, I believe you didn't do what was sorry for me. ”
Li Mei finally stopped crying, wiped her tears and said, "Thank you for believing in me, Dashan." I'll be more careful not to let this misunderstanding happen. ”
Although I believed Li Mei on the surface, I still had a little doubt in my heart. In the past few days, I often think back to the scene of that day, although Li Mei explained it clearly, but I just felt that something was wrong. Li Mei also seemed to sense my strangeness, and sometimes looked at me cautiously.
A few days later, Li Mei said that she was going to a friend's house for a party and might come back later in the evening. I was vaguely uneasy, but I couldn't stop her directly.
"You go, Xiaofang and I are waiting for you at home. I said this to Li Mei.
She nodded, finished dinner and headed out. I washed the dishes, accompanied Xiaofang to do her homework, and put her to sleep. Seeing that it was not early, Li Mei had not come back yet, so I decided to look for her.
I went downstairs to my friend's house, but I saw Li Mei coming from the other side of the community. She looked visibly startled when she saw me, and then feigned calm.
"Why are you here? Are you having fun at a friend's house?" I asked, pretending to be casual in my life.
Li Mei was a little flustered: "Well, it's okay, let's have a meal and chat together." Aren't you at home with Xiaofang, why did you come over?"
I was silent for a while, and finally asked her directly: "Meimei, you just came back from Xiaowang's house, right?"
"Say no more!" I suddenly raised my voice, "I saw it all, you just came from the community, very close to Xiao Wang's house!
Li Mei was forced to ask by me, and a trace of panic and fear flashed on her face, but she quickly calmed down again.
She looked at me and said, "Dashan, I'll be honest with you. Xiao Wang and I do have a special relationship, but we didn't do anything to be sorry for you. I love you and Xiaofang very much, but sometimes I feel that life is monotonous and boring. I assure you, absolutely nothing happened
Li Mei's words shocked me. I didn't expect her to have an affair with Xiao Wang!
"Meimei, how can you betray me and our marriage! I gave you so much love, but you are looking for another man outside!" I was very angry.
"Dashan, I didn't betray you, nothing substantive happened, please calm down. Li Mei hurriedly explained.
"Don't make excuses for me again!" I exclaimed, "We've been married for so many years, and our relationship is so worthless? Do you know how sad I would be!"
Li Mei said with red eyes: "I'm sorry, Dashan, it's all my fault, I shouldn't have approached Xiao Wang behind your back." But I really love you and care about this home. Please give me a chance to start over, and I promise to focus only on my family in the future, and I will not do anything sorry for you again. ”
Seeing Li Mei crying, my heart was also very messy and painful. We've been through 10 years, and I'm really reluctant to divorce like this.
"Meimei, I forgive you this time. But you must cut ties with Xiao Wang and concentrate on our family, and I will trust you again. I said.
"Thank you, Dashan! I promise that I will not see Xiao Wang again, and I will put all my thoughts on you and Xiao Fang. Li Mei said with tears in her eyes.
After that, Li Mei really changed her previous style and became a model of a good wife and mother. She gets up early every day to cook and doesn't go out at night, taking care of the family wholeheartedly. I saw that she was genuinely repentant, and gradually lost her temper, and our lives seemed to be back on track.
But my doubts and uneasiness remained. Sometimes I would pretend to ask Li Mei casually, "Have you been to see Xiao Wang recently?" She always shook her head and said no. But I just didn't feel at ease and decided to try my luck at Xiao Wang's house in person.
One day, I left the company early and came to Xiao Wang's house to squat. But after waiting for more than an hour, I didn't see Li Mei. I was about to leave when I saw Xiao Wang come out of the building, get in the car and leave.
This further confirmed my suspicion that Li Mei was still in contact with Xiao Wang! I was so angry that I called Li Mei directly to question.
"Hey, Meimei, you still said that you didn't contact Xiao Wang? I just saw him driving away alone, are you still secretly meeting behind my back?" I asked bluntly.
Li Mei said in surprise on the other end of the phone: "Dashan, are you at the door of Xiao Wang's house? I really didn't go to see him, you can't believe me like this!"
"I've seen it with my own eyes, and there's nothing to believe!" I was very angry, "Meimei, it seems that our marriage really can't last, let's get a divorce!"
At the law firm, I formally filed for divorce. The lawyer inquired in detail about the reason and asked me to consider it calmly. But I firmly asked for a divorce.
"Mr. Lawyer, please prepare the divorce agreement as soon as possible. My wife and I had a broken relationship and could no longer hold the family together. I said firmly.
The lawyer advised me to think twice, but seeing my resolute attitude, he could only agree to help me prepare for the divorce procedures.
I messaged Li Mei and told her directly that I was going to divorce my decision. Li Mei immediately called, crying and said, "Dashan, please give me another chance! I really didn't continue to contact Xiao Wang, please believe me!"
"Say no more, my decision will not change. I said coldly.
"Dashan, how can you do this to me and Xiaofang! It's been ten years, don't you think about me and the child?" Li Mei cried even more sadly.
After hanging up, I let out a long breath. Even though I was sad in my heart, I knew it was the right choice.
The divorce settlement was quickly drawn up. I asked Li Meilai Law Firm to sign it. Her eyes were red and swollen, and I cried when I saw it, and I felt very uncomfortable, but for my own sake, I had to be decisive.
"Meimei, I've thought about it for a long time, we are really not suitable, so we can only divorce. You take the child away, and I will pay child support every month. I said as calmly as I could.
"Dashan, as long as you don't get divorced, I can do nothing, even if you spy on me every day!" Li Mei pleaded.
I shook my head: "My decision will not change. Come, sign, and complete the formalities. ”
Li Mei couldn't cry, but I insisted that she sign it. Finally, the divorce agreement was signed, and our marriage officially came to an end.
On the way home, I drove very slowly. The pain of the breakup gradually overwhelmed me, and I couldn't help but burst into tears. Although I took the initiative to ask for a divorce, I was still heartbroken in the face of the breakdown of my relationship.
A little more than a month later, the divorce agreement officially took effect. Li Mei moved out of my house and moved into a new home with Xiaofang. I live alone, and the empty house reflects the loneliness and loneliness of my heart.
As the days passed, I began to reflect on my decision. Maybe I overreacted at the time and didn't give Li Mei one last chance. Now it's too late, what should I do?
One day, I went to the supermarket to buy something and happened to meet Xiao Wang. He took the initiative to come and greet me, and I was a little surprised.
"Mr. Zhang, long time no see, how are you doing?" Xiao Wang said politely.
I nodded, a little embarrassed. At this time, a young girl ran over, took Xiao Wang's hand and said, "Husband, let's go after buying good things." ”
Only then did I notice that Xiao Wang was wearing a wedding ring on his hand, and it seemed that he was already married.
Xiao Wang explained: "Mr. Zhang, this is my wife Xiao Yang, we just got married two months ago. ”
"Yes, it's all thanks to Sister Meimei for helping me catch up with her. Xiao Wang said with a smile.
A buzz in my head turned out that I had completely misunderstood Li Mei! Her relationship with Xiao Wang was pure and innocent, but I wronged her and insisted on divorce.
"Xiao Wang, I'm really sorry, I misunderstood that you had an affair with Meimei before, and divorced her, I was so impulsive. I said reproachfully.
Xiao Wang explained that he and Li Mei were just ordinary friends, and asked me not to blame myself. But my heart was already full of remorse.
When I got home, I called Li Mei, and she hesitated for a moment before picking it up.
"Hey, what's wrong?" Li Mei's tone was cold.
"Meimei, I met Xiao Wang today and know the truth between you. I'm sorry, but I really misunderstood you during this time. "I apologize outright.
There was silence on the other end of the line. After a long time, Li Mei said, "What's the use of talking about this now? We are already divorced." ”
"Meimei, I really knew I was wrong, I shouldn't have believed you at the time. Our divorce was impulsive on my part, would you like to give me a chance to start over?" I pleaded.
Li Mei still said in a cold tone: "No, Dashan, it's too late." I'm living a good life now and don't want to look back. ”
"Meimei, I beg you to think about it again, you and Xiaofang are the people I care about the most. "I don't give up.
"Don't contact me again. After Li Mei finished speaking, she hung up the phone directly.
The phone call I begged for was also lost, and Li Mei never answered it again. I realized that my stupid decision had broken her heart and she couldn't trust me anymore.
After a few months, I finally came to terms with the reality of our divorce. I began to reflect on my own problems, if I had trusted Li Mei and given her support and encouragement, maybe our marriage would not have come to this point.
I decided to let go of my obsession with Li Mei and sincerely wish her a new life. I will also start again, correct my shortcomings, and hope that next time, I can become a better husband.
This marriage has taught me a lot. I can't doubt others easily, but I have to learn to listen and trust. Feelings come and go quickly, and I have to cherish the people in front of me more.
Life is impossible
Life cannot be smooth sailing, only through wind and rain can we see the rainbow. I told myself to let go of the past and start over.
One day, I received a strange call, saying that it was Li Mei's friend Xiaohong. She said that Li Mei had been experiencing some difficulties recently and wished I could go and see her.
I immediately became worried, and although we were divorced, I decided to go and see Li Mei to find out what was going on.
When I arrived at Li Mei's new home, I gently rang the doorbell. After a while, Li Mei opened the door and saw that it was me, and her face was obviously stunned.
"Why are you here?" Li Mei asked with some vigilance.
"Meimei, I received a call from your friend Xiaohong, saying that you have been experiencing some difficulties recently? I asked with concern.
Li Mei was silent for a while and said, "I'm fine, Xiaohong is worried." Go back. ”
At this moment, Xiaofang ran out, saw me, and happily shouted, "Dad!" Then he threw himself into my arms.
I picked up Xiaofang and spun around, I really missed her so much. Turning around and seeing a trace of softness on Li Mei's face, he plucked up his courage and said, "Meimei, I know you don't want to see me, but since I'm here, you let me go in and sit down, and we'll have a good talk." ”
Li Mei thought about it, but let the door open and let me in.
The house is very simple, and it seems that it is not easy for her to live alone with her children. I said distressedly: "Meimei, it's too hard for you and Xiaofang to live here, I can help you with the money, you just ask." ”
Li Mei shook her head and said, "No need, I can take care of myself and my children." ”
Seeing that she still had a cold attitude, I plucked up the courage to say: "Meimei, I have been reflecting on this time, I shouldn't have doubted you at the beginning, and I shouldn't have decided to divorce without authorization. I really know it's wrong. Will you give me a chance to start over?"
Li Mei looked at me with a complicated look in her eyes. After a long time, she said, "Dashan, I don't deny it, your divorce decision makes me very sad and disappointed. But now that the matter has come to this, we can only look forward. ”
I asked, "Then are you willing to give me another chance, and give Xiaofang a complete home?"
Li Mei sighed: "I don't know, Dashan. So many things have changed, and I need time to figure it out. ”
"Meimei, I'll wait for you, no matter how long you decide to take. As long as you give me a chance, I will definitely make you and Xiaofang happy. I said sincerely.
Li Mei nodded and did not speak again.
From that day on, I often visited Li Mei and Xiaofang, and would also help her with some housework. Slowly, Li Mei's attitude also softened.
I feel like our relationship is slowly repairing. This gives me a lot of encouragement. I was determined to do it