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My name is Xiao Wang, I am 55 years old and I am a secondary school Chinese teacher. I've been single for many years, and I've always longed to have a soulmate, so I decided to continue to work hard to find a partner on a blind date.
I hesitated, thinking of all my previous disappointments and wondering if I would try again this time.
"This time, after I saw each other's information and photos, I felt that you were really a good match. She is beautiful and has a good personality. Just meet once and then decide, I'm sure you'll succeed this time!" My sister encouraged me.
I thought about it and thought it was right, it was better to meet than not to meet, so I agreed: "Okay, then make an appointment with a time and place." ”
"Great! I'll contact Li Fang, book a time, and send it to you. I'm sure you'll be satisfied this time. The agent sister was delighted.
After hanging up the phone, I sat at the desk and looked at Li Fang's photo in a daze. In the photo, she has short hair, a good face, a good figure, and looks mild. I suddenly felt a little nervous and a little excited, what kind of woman could it be? Can we be as compatible as the agent sister said?
"Don't be nervous, take it seriously, but be natural. I said to myself in my heart.
I took a deep breath, seeing that the time was almost up, and Li Fang was about to appear. I tidied up my meter again, thinking about what I was going to say
At this time, a lady in a light blue dress walked in, and the waitress led her to my table, and I knew that she was indeed Li Fang
"Hello, I'm Li Fang, are you Mr. Xiao Wang?" Li Fang looked at me with a smile.
"Yes, I am Xiao Wang. Nice to see you. I stood up a little nervously and pulled out a chair for Li Fang to sit down.
"Thank you, sir, for being so gentle and considerate. Li Fang said with a smile.
I looked at Li Fang, she was even more beautiful and kind than in the photo, and I couldn't help blushing a little: "Ms. Li has won the award, please sit down." ”
We sat down face to face and the waiter came over and poured hot tea for us. I took a deep breath and decided to break the silence first and take the initiative to start the conversation: "Ms. Li is a retired teacher, right?
"I have been teaching for 30 years, from junior high school to high school. Li Fang replied.
"Ah, then we have a common language, and I am also a Chinese teacher, and I have been working for 30 years this year. I said happily.
"Yes? It seems that we have a common topic in this area. Teaching is hard, but it's also rewarding. Li Fang said with a smile.
"You're right, teaching is really tiring, but it's also gratifying to see how the students are growing and improving. I laughed along.
So, we talked about our teaching careers and experiences. Li Fang's personality seems to be more traditional and steady, but she speaks very methodically and is very sympathetic. I also shared some of my teaching ideas and methods with her, and the atmosphere gradually became lively.
"It turns out that Ms. Li used to stand on the podium when she was young, and I think you are also in good health now. I looked at Li Fang's energetic appearance.
"Thanks for the compliment, I have maintained the Xi of going to bed early and waking up early since I retired, and I also do sports every day, so my physical condition is not bad. Li Fang said modestly.
"Then we are the same age, we can travel together, play sports, and feel that life will be very fulfilling. I said tentatively.
We chatted for a while about each other's preferences and Xi. Li Fang's personality is more traditional, but we also have something in common in many ways. I feel like this blind date went well.
At this moment, the waiter came to tell us that the time for the reservation was up, I looked at my watch, and it was indeed a fast time.
"Then let's get here today, I'm glad to meet Ms. Li. I volunteered.
"I'm glad to meet you, little Wang. We can get in touch again. Li Fang nodded.
I hesitated, but plucked up the courage to say: "
"If Ms. Li thinks it's okay, we can definitely consider developing the relationship further. I plucked up the courage to say.
Li Fang smiled slightly and said slowly: "I understand your feelings, but we really need time to get to know each other, and we can't make a hasty decision to be together." I'm more traditional and want the relationship to grow steadily. ”
I was a little disappointed, but I also understood Li Fang's thoughts, she has a more conservative personality and needs to take her time.
"I understand Ms. Li's thoughts. But I think we can try living together first, get to know each other better through more contact in life, and then think about long-term development if we think it's appropriate, what do you think?" I cautiously proposed.
"Try cohabitation?" Li Fang frowned, "I think cohabitation should be considered after the relationship is formalized, and you can't try it first." ”
"Why? I think living together is also a way to get to know each other, and if we find that it is not suitable, we can always separate. I explained in a bit of a hurry.
"But living together makes people think more about different thoughts and actions, which I don't think is appropriate. Li Fang said firmly.
I was a little disappointed and felt that Li Fang's ideas were too traditional: "Now that society is much more open-minded, I think it's okay to live together, you are too traditional." ”
"I have my principles and bottom line, and I hope you can understand. It's not that I can't accept you, but you must follow the regular steps, and you can't cohabit first and then determine the relationship. Li Fang's tone was also a little more serious.
I was a little anxious, and my tone was raised: "I don't understand, now that many young people live together first, why are you so traditional?"
"Young people can, but at our age, I think it's better to be steady. I'm not going to change my mind. Li Fang said resolutely.
I was a little annoyed when I saw her attitude so resolute: "It seems that we have too many differences of opinion on this matter, I think we should not contact each other again!"
After saying that, I regretted it. I saw Li Fang's face turn ugly, and I realized that I was too tough.
"I'm sorry, Ms. Li, but I was too heavy. You have a point, and I should respect your ideas. "I hastened to apologize.
Li Fang was silent for a while before slowly saying, "It's okay, I understand your feelings, this may just be a temporary difference in our values." Maybe we can continue to connect and get to know each other slowly. ”
I felt ashamed and nodded and said, "I shouldn't have pressed too much." Thank you for your accommodatingness. We can take our time and give each other more time. ”
"Well, time will tell. Don't be in a hurry, okay?" Li Fang smiled slightly.
We chatted a few more times before the atmosphere came alive again.
Maybe I'm too influenced by this materialistic society, and I'm always thinking about how to speed up the results I want through various means. I overlooked that relationships and marriages need to be managed by both parties, and it takes time to develop trust and understanding.
As a traditional woman, Li Fang has her own principles and bottom line. I shouldn't have forced her to accept my ideas, it would make her feel disrespected. If we can't agree on these important ideas, it will be difficult to build a long-lasting relationship.
After careful consideration, I decided that I still want to enter into a marriage with the right person, but I must not go against my own bottom line. I will give the other person more time to get to know me and try to understand the other person's thoughts. Relationships and marriages need to be managed by both parties, and the coercion and persecution of either party will destroy the relationship.
After thinking about this, I plucked up the courage to call Li Fang to apologize again and ask her to give me a chance to start over.
"Hey, hello. Li Fang's voice came from the other end of the phone.
"Hello Ms. Li, I'm Xiao Wang. "I was a little nervous.
"Oh, little Wang, what's the matter?" Li Fang's tone was still gentle.
"I want to apologize to you again, I shouldn't have forced you to accept my idea last time, I have reflected on it, and you are right. I'm too impatient. I said sincerely.
There was silence on the other end of the phone for a few seconds, and then Li Fang said: "Have you thought it through? Don't regret it because of impulse." ”
"I did think about it a lot. I replied, "I realized that the relationship needs to be managed by both parties, and there can be no persecution." I'll do what you want, take my time, and won't talk about cohabitation again. ”
"That's good. I also hope that you can find the right partner for you. Li Fang said.
"Will you give me a chance to start over?" I asked cautiously.
"Absolutely. I didn't take it to heart. We can take our time to get to know each other. Li Fang finally agreed.
I was overjoyed: "Thank you so much! I promise not to make the same mistake again." ”
"Well, we can come out and talk sometime. Li Fang said.
Thank you, Ms. Lee, for your accommodatingness. I say from the bottom of my heart.
Hanging up the phone, I let out a sigh of relief. I was determined to take my time and not repeat the same mistakes.
A month later, I asked Li Fang out for dinner. The moment I saw her, I couldn't help but hug her.
"Ms. Li, I miss you. ”
"Don't be so childish. Li Fang pushed me away with a smile, "Let's take our time." ”
I smiled a little embarrassedly, pulled out a chair and asked Li Fang to sit down. In the past month, I have thought about my problems and adjusted my state to be less impatient and aggressive.
"Ms. Li, in the past month, I have seriously reflected on myself, and I have benefited a lot from your suggestions. I said sincerely.
"Well, you look good, you should have figured out some problems. Li Fang said approvingly.
"Yes, I realized that the relationship needs to be managed by both parties, and there can be no persecution. I nodded.
"I'm glad you have this realization. Li Fang smiled.
I smiled, too. After the waiter served the food, we chatted while eating.
"I heard you've been learning to paint lately, what have you painted?" Li Fang asked with concern.
"You have a good memory, I have been learning some landscape painting recently, and I have painted a few scenes of West Lake, but I am still very rusty. "I'm a little embarrassed.
"It takes time to draw and I'm sure you'll get better and better. Li Fang encouraged.
"Thank you for your encouragement. I also want to learn from you to grow some flowers and plants, but I can't always feed them. I laughed.
"Growing flowers requires patience and love, and I can teach you some experience. Li Fang's eyes shone with kindness.
I was touched by Li Fang's kindness, and her motherly tolerance and encouragement made me feel very warm.
In this way, in a warm atmosphere, we chatted about our respective lives and hobbies, and the atmosphere was very harmonious. The time of the day passed quickly, and before I knew it, it was getting late.
"It's getting late, I'll take you home. "I offered to offer.
"Okay, then I'll trouble you. Li Fang nodded.
I drove Li Fang home. In front of her house, I plucked up the courage to say, "Ms. Li, I feel very lucky to have met you. I will continue to work hard to become a better person. ”
"I'm glad to meet you, too. Relationships take time to cultivate, so don't worry. Li Fang said with a smile.
"I see. I wish you a good night. I waved goodbye to Li Fang.
When I returned home, Li Fang's smile and words still echoed in my mind. This is a gentle and wise woman, and I will continue to work hard to gain her appreciation and acceptance.
Time flies, and another month has passed in the blink of an eye. During this time, I often called Li Fang and asked her to go out for a walk, watch a movie, go to the park, etc. Our relationship is getting closer and closer, and I appreciate Li Fang more and more.
Today I asked Li Fang to come to my house as a guest. For this reason, I started cleaning the room a week in advance, bought new furniture and tableware, and prepared flowers to decorate, hoping to make a good impression on Li Fang.
I've been waiting a long time for this day. I started to prepare at 8 o'clock in the morning, cleaned the house, prepared Li Fang's favorite dishes, and waited for her to come for lunch.
Around noon, the doorbell rang and I hurried to open it. Li Fang was wearing a pale yellow skirt and stood outside the door with a smile on her face.
"Ms. Li, you're here, please come in. I said shyly.
"Wow, your home is so beautifully furnished. Li Fang exclaimed.
"If you like it, it's fine. I want to surprise you. I said.
"You're so sweet. Li Fang nodded with satisfaction.
I led Li Fang to the table and sat down and opened the carefully prepared dishes. "I've prepared your favorite home-cooked meals, let's chat while we eat. ”
"Well, I'm starving. Li Fang said with a smile.
The lunch was enjoyable, and Li Fang kept praising my craftsmanship. "If you are so good at taking care of people, your other half will be very happy in the future. Li Fang said.
I was a little embarrassed and blushed: "You won the prize, this is all as it should be." ”
After lunch, we sat on the balcony and chatted. Li Fang looked at the flowers and plants in my house and said, "You have taken good care of these flowers, and they are already blooming luxuriantly. ”
"These are the methods you taught me last time, and I have them all in mind. I said.
"You've really changed a lot, and I'm impressed. Li Fang said approvingly.
"That's because of your teachings. I will continue to work hard to improve myself. I said gratefully.
Li Fang nodded, looking at me with appreciation and trust in her eyes.
Li Fang was stunned at first, and then smiled gently: "Actually, I like you a lot, you let me see your mature and stable side." ”
I was so excited that I almost jumped: "Really? So can we be sure of the relationship now?"
"Don't worry, just because I like you doesn't mean we can be together right away. Li Fang shook her head, "I still need time to observe, so let's take our time next." ”
My heart sank, but I still nodded: "I understand, I will continue to work hard to gain your acceptance." ”
"Very well, I wish you all the best. Li Fang smiled and said goodbye to me.
I watched Li Fang leave, and my heart was full of hope. I believe that with my efforts, Li Fang's heart will be touched by me, and that day will not be too far away.