My colleague Min Min complained to me that she was about to be driven crazy by her in-laws, and an old lady from a rural area had to come to the city twice in three days, and she had to go back to her hometown twice in three days. A while ago, the child had pneumonia, and every time she heard her mother-in-law ask her husband to drive to pick her up, she was so angry that she couldn't do it.
In fact, my colleague's mother-in-law is not very old, and she is 58 years old this year. But the elderly don't know how to ride a bicycle or an electric car, they call them when they go out for a while, and they can't save 2 yuan when they go out to the supermarket to grab a cabbage, and they have to let people ride to pick them up.
Key young people have to support their families, and they are as busy as dogs every day, so how can they have time to revolve around the old lady.
My colleague has expressed to her mother-in-law many times that she can take the child alone, and her father-in-law has no one to cook in his hometown, so it is better for the old couple to stay in his hometown. Now the elderly in rural areas have fields, as long as they are diligent and grow their own vegetables and fruits, they will not spend a few dollars all year round.
But her mother-in-law said that she didn't like the countryside, the temperature in the countryside was low, and there was no square dance and singing in her hometown, so it was not as lively as the city. But living in the city, my mother-in-law is unwilling to take care of the children, so she clamored to go back to her hometown in the countryside for three days, worrying about the vegetables in the vegetable garden at home, and wondering if the neighbors are begging for their daughter-in-law.
I once saw a passage that if you don't leave much money to your child and you don't have any background, then the best reward you can give your child is to take care of yourself. Don't let yourself be too tired, don't worry about bad things, don't contact your son at every turn.
Colleagues said that her mother-in-law's troubles to her have exceeded the bottom line, and her mother-in-law likes to travel back and forth between the city and the countryside. As a result, she often comes home from work, her mother-in-law invited a group of aunts to drink tea and chat at home, sometimes a few old people will open the door to play cards and sing, upstairs and downstairs have complained to the property many times, she and her husband several times quickly admit their mistakes and apologize.
Because I know a lot of new and new friends, my mother-in-law always likes to visit the vegetable market with them. And the in-laws don't have a penny pension, and the money can only be paid by the son and daughter-in-law.
As the husband of an only child, he is obviously impatient, maybe more because of the economy, no one to share, the only child itself is difficult, or rural, no matter how good the economy is, I feel annoyed when I hear these things that torment people.
And the mother-in-law takes care of her body very much, and she has to see a doctor immediately if she is not feeling well, and she can see that she is sick if she is not sick. I'm in my forties now, and I told my colleagues that they're basically a child, and when they're old, even if they can't help their children much, at least take care of their own health and put less burden on them.
The cruel thing is that in fact, parents who have not been able to leave money to their children and have no relationship background are often not sociable, do not understand the laws of social operation, have backward concepts, do not pay attention to health, have a problem, and intentionally or unintentionally hinder the development of their children.
Rural people think that their son is a rich man if he has a family in the city, and he can support himself with whatever he can do in his hometown, and reduce the burden on his son, but in fact, it is not easy to pick up the burden of supporting the family.
In short, parents who do not have a pension should stay in their hometown, don't envy the life of people in the city, don't toss their sons, they have lived in the countryside all their lives and know how to live.