We often say that "I raised a son for nothing", referring to the huge gap between the expectations of our sons and the reality. This phone call made my father's lungs blow up. This article will reveal the story behind the call in a colloquial way, and explore the communication and expectations between parents and children.
As parents, we always expect our children to become talents, make a difference, and win glory for the family. However, sometimes the discrepancy between reality and expectations can leave us feeling disappointed and heartbroken. In this way, the sigh of "raising a son for nothing" can't help but rise from the bottom of my heart.
Yesterday, I had a phone call with my son, thinking it was an opportunity for parent-child communication, but I didn't expect it to turn out to make my lungs explode. His words and actions made me feel like I was being treated like air, with no respect or care at all. My expectations were shattered on the phone into endless disappointment
Recalling my son's upbringing, I watched with great anticipation every step he made. From his excellent grades in primary school to his leadership skills in secondary school, I thought he would be an outstanding person. However, reality dramatically deviated from my expectations.
When my son entered college, I found that he was gradually losing himself. Originally with unlimited potential, he was addicted to games and wasting his time. Counsel and education seem to be ineffective, and he is indifferent to the future and ignores the expectations and pressures of his family. It made me feel lost and helpless.
I began to reflect on whether my expectations were too demanding. Maybe my son has his own pursuits and wills, and he doesn't have to go according to my expectations. Perhaps the definition of success and success does not depend solely on social approval and material accumulation. Maybe we should give him some freedom and space to find his own light.
As parents, we are always concerned about the growth and future of our children. However, we also need to re-examine our expectations and demands on our children. Perhaps, true success and happiness do not only come from social recognition, but also from finding your own path and light. Let us communicate with our children with understanding and tolerance, give them confidence and support, and help them find their own path to growth. Every child has their own unique value and potential, and together we face a world of challenges and possibilities.