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On December 23, Dr. Tao Yong was scolded by netizens for sharing his daily life with his daughter, and Dr. Tao Yong subsequently deleted his blog. On the 24th, the relevant discussion was on the hot search, and Dr. Tao Yong's sister posted a long article to support it.
On the 26th, Dr. Tao Yong resumed his Weibo post saying that he had something wrong and welcomed netizens to recommend the dishwasher.
The full text of Dr. Tao Yong's speech is:
Hello everyone, two days ago on my daughter's birthday, the child was 12 years old, and I wanted to share, as usual, I wrote a small composition record, but I didn't expect the child to wash the dishes This caused a storm on the Internet, and there are some false news spreading, so I will respond here.
My parents have a good relationship, they respect each other equally, I am the only child in the family, and the family is not poor. My wife and I grew up in a harmonious and free family atmosphere, and we always wanted our only daughter to grow up in a balanced and free way. We try not to put pressure on her grades, but the important thing is that she is healthy, optimistic, brave and confident, and has the ability to take care of herself and others.
At the birthday party, I asked her to pick up vegetables for the elders and wash the dishes after dinner, which was intended to let her know that she was a year older and had to learn to take on more responsibilities at home, but I ignored the feelings of the little birthday star. I thought the humorous words and pictures caused a storm and made me reflect. On the child's birthday, it is indeed inappropriate to deliberately create this so-called "sense of growth ritual" and make ridicule. The education of children is not only in terms of concept, but also in whether every communication and behavior is effective and appropriate.
In a family life full of fireworks, everyone is alive. There is no 100% experience of parents, and there is no standard family model to refer to. My family and I are also exploring a suitable parent-child education path and relationship mode, but no matter which path it is, it is accompanied by love. Netizens suggested that I buy a dishwasher, I think it's very good, welcome to recommend. Thank you again for your attention and suggestions, I will continue to revise and strive for improvement.
In the comment area, many netizens praised Dr. Tao Yong's reply, some netizens said "my parents don't know how to reflect", some netizens said "parents and children grow up together", and some netizens said "every family has its own way of education".
Another netizen concluded: "Although it has caused an Internet turmoil, I think if you can prompt you to reflect on the education of your children from the perspective of a father, it will be a step forward." As long as you can make your children better and make yourself a better father, any turmoil can be regarded as an experience. Some netizens recommend that you read some feminist books, and I think it will be an opportunity. ”
Previously reported:
On December 23, Dr. Tao Yong was scolded by netizens for sharing his daily life with his daughter, and Dr. Tao Yong subsequently deleted his blog.
On the 25th, the hot search reading continued to grow. Source: Weibo screenshot
On December 23, Dr. Tao Yong shared his daily life with his 12-year-old daughter on Weibo, and mentioned that on her birthday, her daughter did not cooperate in taking pictures. After asking his daughter to serve food to her elders, Tao Yong also hoped that her daughter could wash the dishes. After being dissuaded by his family, Tao Yong still said that he moved his daughter to wash the dishes. Tao Yong was happy about this, so he posted a post to share the matter.
It was originally a very small thing, but after it was released, it was criticized by a large number of netizens.
Criticism and controversy probably come from several aspects: first, should children's birthdays be based on children's mood? second, should dishwashing become a necessary skill for girls? third, should girls have to be ladies?
The wording in Tao Yong's sharing made netizens think that Tao Yong was using a set of feudal paternalistic education methods, interfering and educating too much on the child's birthday, in order to make the uncooperative little girl become a lady.
Therefore, the criticism of netizens includes disappointment with Tao Yong himself, disapproval of his practices, and opposition to educational concepts. There are even netizens who have risen to the issue of gender antagonism between men and women, and they are particularly serious:
- There can be no filter on the profession, the noble shell and the feudal pedantic inner can coexist.
- Who has to serve their family and wash the dishes on their birthday, so that the child has a happy birthday?
- The little girl wishes you a happy birthday, I wish you never have to wash the dishes, laugh when you want to take pictures, and don't laugh if you don't want to.
- You can educate your child 365 days, why teach your child to be a human being on his birthday?
- A little girl doesn't have to be gentle and obedient to be a lady, and she doesn't have to be able to wash dishes, as long as she is reasonable and loves and curious about the world.
- This is the exclusive training of female slaves for unknown purposes.
Dr. Tao Yong's Weibo post originally had thousands of comments, but the post was subsequently deleted.
Late at night on December 24, the doctor "Ophthalmology Superman Lao Liang", who has more than 3.3 million followers, posted a long article in support of Tao Yong, saying that he is his senior brother, not a fatherly man.
On the 25th, Dr. Tao Yong posted on Weibo, saying, "Thank you for the gift from a friend." And with a picture, some netizens in the comment area said that the picture is a plant vermilion, which can bloom in a month.
Under this Weibo, there are still netizens asking why the last Weibo is missing. There are also many netizens who interact spontaneously, "Dr. Tao still doesn't know much about the current Internet", "Don't take those words to heart", "I still think the picture is a cake".
Tao Yong, male, born in May 1980 in Nancheng County, Fuzhou City, Jiangxi Province, graduated from Peking University Health Science Center, Doctor of Medicine, doctoral supervisor and professor, chief physician of the Department of Ophthalmology of Beijing Chaoyang Hospital affiliated to Capital Medical University.
On January 20, 2020, Tao Yong suffered a fracture of his left hand, neuromuscular vascular rupture, head trauma, and occipital fracture in the ophthalmology department of Chaoyang Hospital, and was out of danger of life two weeks later. On May 13, Tao Yong resumed his visit. In August, he won the 12th "Chinese Physician Award" and was deeply loved by netizens and patients.
Source: Jiupai News Comprehensive