Today is a special day, I went to watch a great sports game with my family. The stadium was crowded, cheering and shouting one after another. My family and I were overjoyed by this lively atmosphere. At the height of the game, I got a phone call out of the blue.
"Hey, it's me. "A familiar voice came from the other end of the phone, it was my wife. My heart tightened, and then she suddenly noticed that something was not quite right with me.
"Are you watching a ball game?" she asked.
"yes, there's an important game today. I replied, somewhat puzzled, "What's wrong?"
"Oh, then you guys just have fun. She agreed somewhat casually, but there was something strange in her tone.
I didn't care, hung up the phone, and continued to watch the game. But at that moment, I suddenly realized something. Under normal circumstances, my wife has always been very supportive of me and never interferes with me doing what I like, and this kind of careful thinking is not like her usual style. I was a little uneasy, wondering what to do.
"What's wrong? is there something you're hiding from me?" I asked bluntly.
She was stunned for a moment, and then suddenly became a little stunned and looked at me.
"No, how could anything?" she forced a smile, but I could sense a flicker of unnaturalness in her tone.
"You tell me the truth! What the hell is going on?" I couldn't hold back the anger in my heart, and my voice gradually increased.
"I ......" she bowed her head, as if hesitating whether to tell me or not. After some deep groaning, she finally spoke, "Actually, I've been a little unwell lately. ”
"Isn't it feeling well, are you sick?" I asked, nervously.
She shook her head, "It's not sick...... It's something else. She wanted to speak and stopped, with a helplessness and hesitation in her expression.
"What are you hiding from me?" I felt a deep sense of loss and grievance, "shouldn't there be some secrets between us?"
When she heard this, she couldn't help but burst into tears. Her voice trembled, and she slowly uttered something that shocked me.
"Actually, one of the things I've been thinking about lately is the sexual relationship between us. ”
"Sexual relations?" I froze, "we've never had any contradictions on this issue." ”
She shook her head, "I know, but I've been struggling with it lately. Actually, I've never liked ...... That one. ”
"Don't like it?" my voice trembled a little, "what does that mean......? Sex between us?"
She nodded, tears streaming down, "I'm sorry, I took a long time to tell you." It's not that I don't love you, it's just that it's hard for me to fit in......"
My heart sank, full of doubts and grievances. This problem, which has never happened between us, happened quietly. In the depths of my heart, a huge wave was set off.
"We should have a good talk. I looked at her in a daze, and I couldn't calm down for a long time.
"We should have a good talk. I looked at her in a daze, and I couldn't calm down for a long time.
Before that, I never thought that there would be such a problem between us. I thought we would always understand each other and be tolerant of each other. But at the moment, I realized that maybe I didn't know enough about her.
"I know it's not going to be easy for you either. I tried to calm my excitement and try to keep myself calm, "but it's not something that can't be solved." We can go to the experts together, or find other solutions. ”
My words didn't move her, and she was clearly still struggling with the question. "I really don't know what to do...... It's all there. Her voice was filled with helplessness and confusion.
The conversation between us was occupied by this contradictory event, and I suddenly noticed that a rift was beginning to appear between us. That indescribable sense of oppression hung over us.
For the next few days, we were in a state of silence and detachment. Every subtle change in my life tugs at my heartstrings. I began to realize that the conflict between us didn't stop at the sexual relationship, but was a deeper problem.
Just when I was in the middle of a conflict, an unexpected encounter changed everything completely.
That day, I met my child's teacher on my way home. She greeted me with a smile on her face and started talking. During the conversation, she told me about the recent situation where her child was not doing well in school.
"I didn't notice anything unusual about him, I don't know what the reason was. She said with some embarrassment.
I was shocked to know that my child's grades are always one of the things I pay the most attention to. I hurriedly said thank you to the teacher and hurried home.
When I got home, I found my wife sitting on the couch in a daze. I put down my bag and watched her closely. She looked a little tired, and it seemed as if she had a lot to say but didn't know how to say it.
"Is there something wrong?" I had to take the initiative to break the silence.
She looked up at me, and the confusion in her eyes softened my heart.
"How do I feel that our children ...... Something has been strange lately. She whispered.
"Strange?" I was a little surprised, "you mean he has a problem with his Xi?"
She nodded, a sense of helplessness and worry welling up in her heart, "I'm wondering, could it be that our recent conflict has had an impact on him?"
I was blown away by her words. Could it be that our conflicts have had a bad effect on our children?
With a heavy heart, my wife and I sat down and talked about other topics that we had never touched before. She posed a problem to me about her desire to have her own career and pursuits, and not to be confined to her family. I didn't pay attention to this issue before, I just felt that we could all live a good life, and that was the most important thing.
However, I am now aware of her pain. She gave up many pursuits in order to take care of her family and children. I asked myself, have I ever really cared about her feelings, have I ever understood her needs, and I found that I had become Xi to her taking care of the house at home and ignoring her heart.
The sudden arrival of this realization caught me off guard. I was shocked by her words, and my heart was fluctuating because of these questions. But after so many years of married life, we have become so close that I am not willing to give up this precious relationship easily.
We started talking a lot, I tried to understand her needs and ideas, and she tried to listen to my confusion and uneasiness. After several exchanges, we slowly understood that marriage is not only a matter of two people, but should also be a joint discussion and effort of two people. I started working harder to help her take care of the children and give her more space to pursue her dreams.
However, just when we thought everything was going to get better, another contradiction arose. My wife and I had an argument at a relative's party over the issue of educating our children. I think children need more rigorous education, and she thinks children should enjoy the joy of childhood more. The contradictions intensified, and our mutual dissatisfaction rose again.
This time, the contradiction was not resolved smoothly, and we returned to the previous stalemate. This contradiction is no longer just an individual dispute, but exposes our fundamental differences in the concept of family education and the way we raise children. It made us start to re-examine our relationship with each other, and it also made me reflect deeply.
I suddenly felt an unprecedented loneliness, my wife and I have always been people who care about each other, but the emergence of this problem makes me feel helpless. I don't know how to deal with this new challenge. It's not just about my self-esteem, it's about the relationship between us. I felt like a knife.
After a few days, I decided to communicate with my wife, and I didn't want to just let the problem exist. She listened attentively to my words, her eyes full of understanding and love. We revisited the issue from the most basic level of trust and respect, and despite the awkwardness at first, we slowly found a common language.
However, just as our relationship heated up again, an accident disrupted our pace again. My wife secretly received a message and her face suddenly became ugly. I looked at the panic and uneasiness in her eyes, and suddenly I had a sense of foreboding.
"What's wrong? what's going on?" I asked her.
She hesitated for a moment, then handed me the phone. When I opened the message, it turned out to be an ambiguous message from a stranger I had never met.
"Who are you, why are you sending such messages to my wife!" I felt angry.
She quickly explained that she didn't know each other, and that things were completely unexpected. There was innocence and unease in her tone.
I calmed down, and although my wife's explanation sounded reasonable, my doubts were getting stronger and stronger. What's going on, is it a simple misunderstanding, or is there a more sophisticated scam behind it?
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