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My name is Li Jing, I am 45 years old, an ordinary housewife. My life has changed dramatically since the birth of my grandson, Xiaobao. This is a story about me and my family, which takes place in a typical Chinese family.
"Mom, what are you doing here?" my son's face changed when he came home and saw me browsing the gynecology hospital's website.
"I'm looking, getting ready to have a baby. "I'm going to put it mildly, and I've actually made up my mind.
"Have a baby, you're 45 years old, and you're still thinking about having a baby?" Xiao Gang was obviously shocked.
I looked at him and felt a little uncomfortable. "Aren't you and Xiaomin going to have a second child? I think Xiaobao is quite lonely alone. ”
"But Mom, at your age..."Xiao Gang was about to say something, but I interrupted.
"I know my body, so I don't have to worry about it. "I said it so hard that Xiao Gang had nothing to say.
At this moment, my daughter-in-law Xiaomin came back with Xiaobao. When Xiaobao saw me, he pounced happily. I hugged my grandson while observing Min's expression. I knew that the family was about to face a storm.
That night, the atmosphere in the house was particularly dreary. Xiao Gang and Xiao Min sat on the sofa, and I could feel the tension between them.
"Mom, we don't think it's realistic for you to have another child. Xiao Min finally spoke, her voice trembling a little.
"Unrealistic, do you hate me for getting old?" I said, a little excited, and my voice raised.
"That's not what you mean, Mom, we're worried about your body..."Xiao Gang tried to explain.
"Worried, are you worried that I will distract from Xiaobao, or are you worried that I will increase the burden on you?"
Xiao Gang and Xiao Min looked at each other speechlessly, they obviously didn't expect me to have such a reaction.
Just as the atmosphere in our house was becoming more and more tense, Aunt Wang next door walked in. Aunt Wang is our neighbor and a good friend of mine, and she often comes to my house.
"Oh, why are you so sullen today?" Aunt Wang felt something was wrong as soon as she entered the door.
I quickly put the topic aside and tried to make my face look normal. "It's nothing, it's just the little things at home. ”
Aunt Wang glanced at me, then at Xiao Gang and Xiao Min, obviously sensing something. She smiled, "Then I won't bother today, I'll come back another day." ”
After Aunt Wang left, the atmosphere at home was even more awkward. I know that the contradictions in this family are only temporarily covered up and will erupt sooner or later. And I may be the trigger for this turmoil.
The next day, the atmosphere at home was still tense. I woke up early and started making breakfast, but I kept thinking about yesterday. I know that the conflict between me and my son and daughter-in-law will not be resolved overnight.
Xiao Gang and Xiao Min were busy preparing for work as usual, and both of them had forced smiles on their faces. Xiaobao was playing with toys on the side, seemingly unaware of the atmosphere at home.
At the breakfast table, I tried to break the silence: "Xiao Gang, Xiao Min, I know you are worried about me. But I really want to have a child, that's my wish. ”
Xiao Gang put down his chopsticks and looked at me seriously: "Mom, we know what you think, but have you thought about it, what does this mean to us? What does it mean to Xiaobao?"
"I..." I paused, "I just think it would be more lively to have one more child in the house." ”
Xiao Min sighed softly: "Mom, we all understand your feelings, but have you considered the risks to your health?"
I didn't know how to answer, and I felt a little conflicted and struggling. I wanted to fulfill my wishes, but I was also afraid of burdening my family.
Just then, the doorbell rang. I went to open the door and found out that it was my friend of many years, Aunt Zhao. Aunt Zhao, like me, is a housewife, and we often chat and go shopping together.
"Li Jing, I heard Aunt Wang say that your family was a little unhappy yesterday, so I came over to take a look. Aunt Zhao said with concern.
I asked Aunt Zhao to come into the house and sit in the living room. Xiao Gang and Xiao Min also politely said hello to Aunt Zhao, and then hurriedly went out to work.
Aunt Zhao looked at me, her eyes were full of concern: "Li Jing, have you really decided?
I nodded: "I really want to, but I'm hesitating." I don't want to burden Xiao Gang and Xiao Min, and I'm worried about my body. ”
Aunt Zhao pondered for a while: "You know that there have been many conflicts between me and my son. Sometimes, we, as mothers, always want to do more for our children, but sometimes they may not need what we want to give. ”
I listened to Aunt Zhao's words and felt some feelings in my heart. Yes, as a mother, I always want to do more for my family, but I ignore their real needs.
Aunt Zhao continued: "You also know that having a baby has a great impact on your body, especially at our age. Are you really ready?"
I was silent. Actually, I'm not sure myself.
That afternoon, I went for a walk in the park alone, trying to clear my mind. In the park, children are playing, and young parents are watching. I watched them, heart
It's full of mixed feelings. The warmth of my imaginary home was in stark contrast to my real-life predicament.
I sat on a park bench and stared at the sky in a daze. Aunt Zhao's words kept echoing in her heart, and she was also thinking about Xiao Gang and Xiao Min's feelings. I realized that my decision wasn't just about me alone, it was about the happiness and harmony of the whole family.
While I was deep in thought, an older lady came up and sat down next to me. She said to me gently, "Miss, you look preoccupied. ”
I smiled and started chatting with her. Her name is Aunt Lin and she is a retired teacher with a wealth of life experience. With her encouragement, I told her about my confusion and contradictions.
Aunt Lin listened carefully, and then said slowly: "Life is sacred, but the arrival of every life needs to be treated responsibly. I understand your thoughts, but you also have to take into account your own physical condition and the actual situation of your family. ”
Her words got me thought-provoking. Yes, life is not just a matter of one person, it is related to the future of a family.
By the time I got home, it was already dark. The house is quiet, and Xiao Gang and Xiao Min have not come back yet. I sat on the couch and kept replaying the day in my head.
Soon, Xiao Gang and Xiao Min returned, looking tired. I decided it was time to talk to them.
"Xiao Gang, Xiao Min, let's sit down and talk. I said in a calm tone.
The three of them sat in the living room, and the atmosphere seemed a little heavy. I took a deep breath and began to speak, "I know it's putting a lot of pressure on you guys about wanting to have another child. Today, I went for a walk in the park and met an aunt. We talked a lot, and her words made me think a lot. ”
Xiao Gang and Xiao Min listened quietly, waiting for me to continue.
"I began to realize that I might have been a bit selfish in my decision. I only thought about my own feelings, but I didn't really think about your feelings and Xiaobao's feelings. My voice was a little choked.
Xiao Min held my hand, "Mom, we understand your feelings, but we are really worried about your health. ”
"Yes, Mom, we all love you and want you to be healthy and happy. If you really insist on having children, we will support you, but we also want you to think it through. Xiao Gang said seriously.
I felt their care and understanding, and my eyes couldn't help but moisten. Yes, the support and understanding of family members is invaluable.
"Thank you, I'll think about it. I said with a smile. At that moment, I felt the warmth of home envelop me, and all the contradictions and entanglements seemed to be no longer important.
Just when the atmosphere in our family gradually reconciled
When it was warm, the doorbell rang. I went to open the door and found that it was our distant relative, Uncle Li and his wife, Aunt Zhang. They were old friends of my father and would occasionally come to our house.
"Li Jing, we heard that you have been having some troubles recently, so we came to see you. Uncle Li said as he handed over some fruit.
I invited them into the house, and Xiao Gang and Xiao Min also welcomed them warmly. We sat in the living room, the tea and snacks were arranged, and the atmosphere slowly became relaxed.
Uncle Lee asked me about my current situation, and I told them about my desire to have another child and the conflicts in my family. After hearing this, Aunt Zhang pondered for a while, and then said, "Li Jing, having a child is a big deal, especially at our age. You have to think about not only yourself, but also the feelings of the whole family. ”
Uncle Li continued: "I understand your thoughts, but you also have to understand Xiao Gang and Xiao Min. They are worried about your health and also about changes in your family. Sometimes, letting go is also a form of love. ”
As I listened to their words, I felt a warmth in my heart. I feel blessed by the care of my family and friends.
Over the next few days, I began to rethink my decision. I looked at Xiaobao's lively and cute appearance, and thought about how my life would change if I had another child.
One night, when I was watching TV with Xiaogang and Xiaomin, I suddenly said, "I think about it, I won't have children anymore." I want to devote more time and energy to Xiaobao and my family. ”
After hearing this, Xiao Gang and Xiao Min both showed relieved smiles. "Mom, we support your decision. Xiao Gang said.
"Mom, if you are healthy and happy, we will be very satisfied. Xiao Min said softly.
At that moment, I felt a sense of relief and satisfaction that I had never felt before. I know that my family is my greatest happiness.
It is in this harmonious atmosphere that our family has ushered in a new transformation. Xiao Gang and Xiao Min began to plan to find a good kindergarten for Xiaobao, and I actively participated in it. At the same time, I started to participate in some community activities and made a lot of new friends. My life has become more fulfilling and happier.
One day, Xiaobao's kindergarten held a family day event. Our whole family went to participate. Watching Xiaobao having fun among the children, Xiaogang and Xiaomin and I looked at each other and smiled, and my heart was full of gratitude and happiness.
Through this family experience, I have learned more about the importance of family and how to better communicate and understand each other with my family. My life is ordinary, but it is full of love and warmth.
The days flowed peacefully and happily. Every time I think back to the entanglement and contradiction about whether to have another child, I feel a little lucky. I'm glad I made the right decision to make the family's
Harmony is maintained so that the happiness of each member of the family continues.
As time went on, Xiaobao excelled in the kindergarten, and his happiness was contagious to each and every one of us. Xiao Gang and Xiao Min's relationship has also become stronger because of their shared concerns. I looked at their family of three with a sense of satisfaction.
My life has also taken a new turn. I started getting involved in more activities in the community, such as book clubs and fitness classes. These activities not only enriched my life, but also allowed me to meet a lot of interesting people. I gradually realized that there are many things in life that I want to explore and experience.
On a sunny afternoon, the community organized an outdoor outing. I attended with some friends. We walked in the countryside, admiring the beauty of nature and sharing our life stories with each other. I felt very relaxed and happy, as if all my worries were gone with the wind.
On the way back from the outing, I suddenly thought of my son and daughter-in-law. I think they also need that kind of relaxation and rest. I decided that on the weekend, I would take them and Xiaobao to the countryside.
On the weekend, our family drove to a park in the suburbs with a picnic basket and a frisbee. The sun shines on the grass, the children chase and play, and the adults enjoy their time in the shade of the trees.
Xiaobao was very excited, he pulled me and Xiaogang to play football together, and Xiaomin took pictures on the side to record this warm moment. I looked at them and felt a warm current in my heart. I am grateful for the peace and joy of this moment, and I am grateful for every choice in my life.
At lunchtime, we spread out picnic cloths on the grass and enjoyed homemade sandwiches and fruits. The breeze blows, bringing a cool breath, and the laughter of children and the chirping of birds can be heard all around. At this moment, I deeply felt that home is the best safe haven.
After the picnic, we went to a nearby lake together. The water is clear and the sky is blue, and we paddle together and enjoy the tranquil surface and the warm sunshine. Xiaobao sat on the bow of the boat and excitedly pointed to the fish in the water.
We had a great time outdoors that day. On the way home, Xiao Gang and Xiao Min thanked me for arranging such a wonderful family day. I laughed and told them that family is our common treasure and that we should cherish every moment of time together.
When I got home, I sat on the balcony and looked at the stars in the night sky, filled with emotion. This consideration of whether or not to have another child made me realize how important it is for family members to understand and support each other. Everyone has their own needs and desires
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