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My name is Li Mei, I am 28 years old this year, and I am married to my husband who is five years younger than me, Zhang Hao. Our marriage was like a gamble from the beginning, and everyone was watching to see when I would lose.
That afternoon, the sun shone through the kitchen window and on my hands as I washed the vegetables. I heard my mother-in-law's voice floating from the living room: "Meimei, I'm done soaking my feet, pour water for me." I put down my kitchen knife and walked to the living room.
The mother-in-law was sitting on the sofa, her feet had just been taken out of the hot water basin, and the smell of Chinese medicine was wafting through the room. I pursed my lips and picked up the heavy basin, ready to pour it out. At this time, my husband walked in, saw this scene, but didn't say anything.
"Hey, why is this water so heavy?" I muttered casually, but I heard my mother-in-law answer coldly: "You are so young, you can't stand this little thing?"
Zhang Hao stood aside and was silent. I felt a wave of disappointment, but I held back and didn't show it.
As soon as I poured out the water and returned to the living room, I saw my brother-in-law Zhang Qiang coming in from outside, wearing a famous brand, looking infinitely beautiful. When he saw me, the corners of his mouth hung with disdain: "Hey, sister-in-law, you are really becoming more and more like a servant." ”
I couldn't help but say nothing, but the grievances in my heart came up like a tide. My marriage was chosen by myself, but I didn't expect it to be like this.
"Meimei, go and pour a glass of water for your uncle. The mother-in-law's voice sounded again.
I walked into the kitchen, my hands shaking under the faucet. I knew I couldn't stand it for too long. But what should I do? I put these thoughts down for a moment and walked out with the water.
At dinner, a guest came to the house, it was Zhang Hao's college classmate, Li Qiang. Li Qiang is a knowledgeable person, not like the Zhang family who sneered at me. At the dinner table, his occasional sympathetic look warmed my heart a little.
After the meal, Zhang Hao took Li Qiang to the study, leaving me and my mother-in-law to clean up the table. I stood by the sink and listened to the men's laughter outside the kitchen. Suddenly, my mother-in-law's voice interrupted my thoughts: "Meimei, why are you in a daze again? ”
I quickly came to my senses and hurriedly began to wash the dishes. At this time, I suddenly heard my mother-in-law muttering in a low voice: "Such a daughter-in-law is really useless." ”
My heart tightened, but I didn't say anything. I knew I had to find a way to change that.
That night, when I was lying in bed, Zhang Hao was already asleep, but I tossed and turned, and my heart was heavy. I recalled my acquaintance with Zhang Hao, when he was a talented person in college, and I was a junior clerk who had just graduated. Our love is like a story in a fairy tale, but the reality is always much more skinny.
The next day, I woke up early to prepare breakfast. Zhang Hao hurriedly ate a few bites and went out, without even saying goodbye. I looked at his back, and I felt an indescribable sense of loss in my heart.
When my mother-in-law woke up in the morning, I had already put breakfast on the table. She sat down, looked at the food on the table, and frowned, "What is this? I don't like to eat this." ”
My heart tightened, and I quickly apologized: "Mom, I'm sorry, I thought you would like it." I'll change it for you right away. ”
She didn't speak, just took a few bites coldly, and then went to watch TV. I was standing in the kitchen with the slight clatter of the chopsticks in my hands. That's when I heard the doorbell ringing.
When I opened the door, it was my neighbor Aunt Wang. "Meimei, I have some fresh vegetables, you can take some to make lunch. She smiled and handed me a bag of vegetables.
I took it gratefully: "Thank you, Aunt Wang, you are so good." ”
Aunt Wang smiled and asked with concern, "How are you doing?" ”
I smiled wryly: "It's okay, it's just a little more at home." ”
She nodded, as if trying to say something, but eventually just sighed and turned away. I closed the door, and I felt an inexplicable feeling in my heart.
At lunchtime, I prepared a table of sumptuous dishes, hoping to make my mother-in-law happy. But after a few bites, she began to complain: "This dish is too salty, why are you so careless?"
I lowered my head and didn't respond. I knew that no matter how well I did, she would never be satisfied.
In the afternoon, I went to the market to buy groceries. On the way, I met Li Qiang, Zhang Hao's college classmate. He greeted with a smile: "Li Mei, what a coincidence." ”
I responded politely: "Yes, Li Qiang, hello." ”
He looked at the vegetable basket in my hand: "Buying vegetables? There are many people in the family, it's very hard." ”
I smiled lightly: "Xi it." ”
We chatted for a while, and Li Qiang suddenly said, "Li Mei, if you have any troubles, you can tell me about them." Sometimes, an outsider's opinion may give you a different inspiration. ”
I was slightly stunned, and I had an indescribable feeling in my heart. I whispered, "Thank you, Li Qiang." Maybe one day, I'll really talk to you. ”
After saying goodbye to Li Qiang, I went home and continued my daily routine. At dinner, my mother-in-law began to complain again, but I was surprised to find that my mood seemed to have changed. I began to think that I had to find a solution to the problem while I was
It's no longer an escape or a silent endurance. This time, I decided to try to have a sincere communication with my mother-in-law.
After dinner, I plucked up my courage and sat down across from my mother-in-law. She looked at me with confusion in her eyes. "Mom, I think we should have a good talk about it. My voice trembled.
She looked at me coldly: "What are you talking about?"
I took a deep breath: "About the way we get along." I know, I may not be good enough, but I'm really trying. I hope you can understand and give me some support. ”
The mother-in-law was silent for a while, and then sneered: "Are you teaching me how to be a mother-in-law?"
I quickly shook my head: "No, Mom, I just want to say that if we can understand each other better, life may be more harmonious." ”
She didn't respond immediately, and turned her head to look out the window. I waited, my heart uneasy. After a long while, she slowly spoke: "You think I'm not good to you?"
I hastened to explain: "That's not what I meant, I just felt that there was a lack of communication between us. ”
The mother-in-law sighed: "Maybe." I also have my difficulties, which you may not understand. ”
This conversation didn't solve all the problems immediately, but at least we started to communicate. I felt a glimmer of hope.
The next day, I decided to invite Zhang Hao to participate in this family communication. At dinner, I came up with my idea. "Hao, I think our family needs more communication and understanding. ”
Zhang Hao looked a little surprised: "You mean, with my mother?"
"It's not just Mom, it's the three of us. I said seriously.
He was silent for a moment, then nodded, "Okay, we can try." ”
That night, the three of us sat in the living room and had our first real family conversation in a long time. I first expressed my feelings and hopes, then Zhang Hao, and finally my mother-in-law. Although there were some awkwardness and conflicts in the process, it was finally a start.
Over the next few days, the atmosphere at home slowly changed a bit. My mother-in-law began to criticize me less, and Zhang Hao also paid more attention to family affairs. Although it has not changed much, I have seen the glimmer of hope.
At this moment, Li Qiang appeared again. He came to our house one weekend afternoon and brought some books and music CDs. "I remember you liked these. He said with a smile.
I took it gratefully: "Thank you, Li Qiang." ”
He looked at me with a deep concern in his eyes: "Li Mei, you seem to be much better lately. ”
I nodded, "Yes, our family is starting to try to change. ”
Li Qiang nodded, his eyes revealing a hint of relief. "Change is always good, regardless of the outcome. ”
I couldn't agree more. It was at that moment that I realized that no matter how hard life is, there is always hope if we are willing to try.
But just when I thought everything was heading
When the good direction was developing, an unexpected thing happened. That afternoon, Zhang Hao suddenly offered to go to his hometown with me. He said his father was sick and needed us to come and take care of him for a while.
When I heard the news, I couldn't help but get nervous. I have never met Zhang Hao's father, I only know that he is a traditional and strict person. But in the face of Zhang Hao's request, I still agreed.
When I got back home, the situation was more complicated than I thought. Zhang Hao's father, Uncle Zhang, was a serious old man and was not friendly to me. I tried hard to fit in with the family, but every attempt seemed to end in failure.
Uncle Zhang was always picky about everything I did, whether it was cooking, cleaning, or taking care of him. And the mother-in-law also became more stern in front of Uncle Zhang. Zhang Hao also seemed to feel the pressure, he became more silent, and the communication between us decreased.
I felt a great deal of stress and frustration. Every night, I lay in bed, thinking about the meaning of this marriage and my place in the family.
In such an environment, I began to establish some kind of wonderful connection with Zhang Hao's brother-in-law, Zhang Qiang. Zhang Qiang is younger than me and Zhang Hao, but he has a similar view of the family to me. We often chatted while cooking in the kitchen, and gradually, I found myself looking forward to communicating with him.
One night, Zhang Qiang saw me crying silently in the kitchen, and he came over to comfort me softly: "Sister-in-law, don't be too sad. Not everyone can adapt to the lifestyle here. ”
I looked up at him and the tears flowed uncontrollably. "I don't really know how much longer I'll last. ”
Zhang Qiang took out a tissue and handed it to me: "Sister-in-law, you are a good person, you shouldn't suffer like this." Maybe you should think about what you really want. ”
That night, I lay in bed and couldn't sleep for a long time. Zhang Qiang's words echoed in my mind. I began to reflect on whether my marriage with Zhang Hao was based on love, or was it just because of Xi and responsibility?
A few days later, Zhang Hao's father's condition improved slightly. I offered to go back to the city, and although Zhang Hao was a little surprised, he finally agreed.
The night I returned to the city, I had an in-depth conversation with Zhang Hao. I was honest about how I felt at his home and what I had doubts about our marriage.
Zhang Hao was silent for a long time, and then said, "I know this time is difficult for you. I've also been wondering if our marriage is really what we expected. ”
We talked for a long time, and although we didn't find the answers to all the questions, at least we began to really understand each other's feelings.
Over the next few weeks, Zhang Hao and I were trying to adjust our relationship and look for the possibility of a fresh start. I also started to focus more on my feelings and needs and not anymore
It's simply accommodating others. During this time, I strengthened my connection with the outside world and restarted some long-lost hobbies, such as painting and writing, which made me feel happier and more satisfied than ever.
At the same time, I started to participate in some community activities and met several new friends, whose attitudes and perspectives on life gave me a lot of inspiration. I found that when I started to focus on my heart and my needs, my world became more colorful.
Zhang Hao also noticed the change in me. One night, he said to me, "Meimei, I see that you have changed a lot lately and look happier. ”
I smiled and replied, "Yes, I started trying to understand myself and do something I really liked." ”
Zhang Hao looked at me, and a hint of relief flashed in his eyes: "I'm glad to see you like this." Maybe I should also find my hobbies and passions. ”
In this way, our relationship gradually changed subtly. We're starting to respect and understand each other more, while also trying to reclaim our personalities and interests.
During this process, I also kept in touch with Li Qiang from time to time. He not only became a good friend of mine, but also an important promoter of the change in my outlook on life. Sometimes, we go to a café together to chat or participate in some cultural events. His insight and love of life gave me a lot of inspiration.
However, just when it all seemed to be on track, something unexpected happened. Zhang Hao's father's condition suddenly deteriorated, and we needed to go back immediately. This time, I did not hesitate to return to his hometown with Zhang Hao.
Life in his hometown was not easy, and Uncle Zhang's illness cast a shadow over the entire family. But this time, I feel stronger and more mature. I not only contributed to the care of Uncle Zhang, but also worked hard to maintain family harmony.
Zhang Hao and I have deepened our relationship with each other through our support and understanding during these difficult days. We started to share each other's thoughts and feelings more, which made our relationship stronger.
A few weeks later, Uncle Zhang's condition stabilized and we returned to the city. Back in our own lives, Zhang Hao and I have a new understanding and determination. We decided to give each other more space and freedom, while also working together to preserve our marriage.
My life has also changed dramatically. I started writing a book about my life experiences and insights, hoping to help people who are also struggling with marriage and family life through my story. Zhang Hao also supports my writing and often provides me with inspiration and advice.
In the process, I deeply understand that life will not always be smooth sailing, but as long as we are willing to face and solve problems, there will always be a turnaround. My marriage with Zhang Hao, although we went through many twists and turns, finally we found each other and ourselves.
My book was finally completed and was well received by quite a few readers.
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